I walked in on my son and his girlfriend
My son is 17 and his girlfriend is also 17 soon to be 18, they’ve been together since they were both maybe 14-15, so I’ve met her father and see her pretty often. In the beginning when she was allowed over , we had them supervised, always in the living room never in rooms by themselves. Until months passed and we trusted them enough to allow them in his room together. She comes over extremely often , it used to be everyday but it doubled down since she has two jobs and is enrolling in college, recently starting a couple months ago I walked in on them doing the deed, I just sat there in shock, I didn’t knock, I didn’t make it aware I was coming in I just walked in. I told them put their clothes on and meet me in the living room. We talked about birth control they say they use protection, I mentioned if they ever need condoms they can ask. And my wife laughed during this conversation, stating how she’s surprised she’s never walked in on them. His girlfriend left immediately after that conversation out of embarrassment. We continued to have her back but only with the door open to his room, a week after that my wife caught them in the act and texted me while I was at work, I told her to tell his girlfriend she needs to go home, and so she did. Now months later I walked in again, no knocking no alert that I was coming in, and said are you fucking kidding me and slammed the door. I told them to get dressed and called them in the living room. They stood there awkwardly infront of me while I was talking to them asking why they don’t listen and why they continue to disrespect me, I never contacted her father about any of the incidents and I’m thinking about doing so, my wife tells me not to because it would most definitely lead to a break up due to her strict dad. She left after the conversation. And hasn’t been back since. Now I know I can’t stop them from doing that but at some point they should realize other people are in the house. I don’t know what to do, should I contact her dad, should I continue letting her over with the door open, I’m just not sure, I thought I made boundaries clear, I wasn’t trying to embarrass them. I’ve also noticed she only comes to pick him up or to get something from the house, just a quick in and out and rarely speaks anymore.