🚨🚨URGENT
I’m a 25M and I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend 24F for around 9 months now. She’s genuinely a good girl, and I know reading this might make me sound like an asshole, but I want honest opinions instead of sugarcoating.
The truth is… I feel like I’ve started getting bored. The attraction I had at the beginning just isn’t the same anymore, especially sexually. We rarely do anything intimate these days, and sometimes even little things she does get on my nerves for no real reason, for example she’s super needy she wants attention all the time and also can get upset easily. I hate admitting that because she hasn’t actually done anything “wrong.”
Lately I’ve been missing that excitement you get when something is new. The curiosity, the tension, the butterflies, the conversations that feel effortless. And recently I caught myself thinking about going on casual dates with random girls just to feel that spark again. Not necessarily to sleep with them or fully cheat, but more to remind myself what it feels like to be excited by someone new.
Last week I actually met up with a girl I used to know years ago. We had lunch together at a restaurant (i invited her). It was honestly really nice. She was friendly, easy to talk to, and I genuinely enjoyed my time with her. And if I’m being honest… I did find her cute.
Nothing happened between us, but now I feel conflicted. Part of me feels guilty, part of me feels alive again, and another part of me wonders if this just means my relationship is slowly dying.
Don’t get me wrong but I even pictured myself in a rls with this girl and couldn’t help but think of the possibility that things would be much better and easier with her.
I also don’t know if I should tell my girlfriend any of this. Especially about meeting this girl. Would telling her just hurt her unnecessarily if nothing happened? Or is the fact that I’m even thinking this way already a bad sign?
Has anyone else gone through this after less than a year together?