Men are not machines solely driven by the program to mate.
Main target is still mainstream media but I don't want to waste time giving arguments against Satan itself. Expecting downvotes.
A big part of mainstream media and even many people here act like everything men is to impress girls(or other men if gay/bi) or greatly exaggerate this attribute. It's true some times, not most of times. Some motivations for interests can be for that, some people do make almost this their personality few times like I can fucking see here but so do women for different reasons like attention and if lesbians then they can be just like that too.
Yes men feel heterosexual attraction while women either don't or its very low(heterosexual attraction), that does not make men machines solely driven to mate, that's makes you or if you're not like that then the person/people you saw losers. Hell man geeks, nerds, jocks these stereotypes are so male dominated. Take Nikola Tesla, an extreme example, he became celibate to focus on his work.
It gets to a point, got a problem with a guy just lifting, got a problem with a man not wanting to date but then seriously what else will you do since wanim, got a problem with a man slightly proud of himself, simps are pathetic no arguing.
I don't know the people who are like this still probably had/have hobbies maybe rediscover them or restrict your self-hate to being SELF-hate.