passing until my parents misgender me
im a young adult but still live with my parents currently, and am pre-T (hopefully not for much longer).
i have a naturally androgynous male-leaning voice and appearance, and dont mind leaning into the “male androgyne” kind of aesthetic, so long as i still pass as male. mostly, id prefer my voice to allow me to visually appear more androgynous or like a “pretty boy” type whilst still being gendered correctly. anyways, thats beside the point.
i pass almost all the time (with rare exceptions which are mostly instances of people being truly unsure what my gender is), but when my parents gender me as female to others, i never notice any confusion on their end. they dont even seem to slip up, they just go with it. the only exception to this i can recall is someone i met a couple years ago (when i arguably passed LESS because my voice hadn’t deepened as much), who continued to gender me as male despite others around him not doing it. i never told him i was a guy and to this day it confuses me, but i was glad for it.
my issue with this though is that i feel my passing is not good enough. i cant think of many cis men that could pass as female if their parents suggested it, unless theyre prepubescent. sure, ive been told by most that despite being androgynous my voice and face still lean male, but its enough to make me doubt i really look all that much like a guy to people. im sure T will help tilt the scale in my favor, but i have severe OCD and a persistent thought is “your boyfriend knows you now. if you dont clearly look and sound male, then maybe he’s not attracted to you as one.” he’s gay, has known that since before we met, and has shown no signs of seeing me differently. even still, i worry.
im just hoping someone here has advice for me. at first i could accept “well, you’re just an androgynous guy,” until i started to doubt that really any post pubescent cis guy could be that androgynous