Evil in laws ❤️🩹😖 realizing after 2 years
His family never truly accepted me, no one dared to show it except his brother’s wife. She showed me the 3 things they all collectively disliked about me since day one: (exclusion, criticism towards who I am as a person, and lack of acceptance) in my face. And that is why my mother-in-law always defended her behavior whenever I mentioned these 3 things. (She has done this multiple times and made excuses for it). ( his brother has ignored me and never looked in my face due to his wife affecting him towards me).
They had already built a system before me where they felt like I came in and “ruined” it, which is why they kept trying to pull my husband back into the same dynamic as before me. No one saw me as his wife, only as an obstacle. And his mother was always at her limit with me and tolerated me instead of accepting me.
I held onto the hope of being part of the “family” because of all the hope and attention she gave me while I was actually being tolerated. This led me to force myself to constantly show up and prove that “I am part of this family.”
Meanwhile, unconsciously, I was fighting against the reality of it.
I held onto hate towards the brothers wife because they symbolized how everyone felt towards me in a way I unconsciously could not fully see or accept.