Open to ideas
Hello, I have a question. I often don’t feel comfortable in social settings and rarely manage to find interesting conversation topics or really any common ground with people my age. That’s been the case for as long as I can remember.
Even back in school, for example during group projects, I would suggest something and nobody would really listen at first. But when someone else brought up the exact same idea a few minutes later, suddenly everyone thought it was great and we should do it that way.
There are also many situations where I suggest a solution to a problem and people respond that another way would be easier. The issue is that the supposedly easier solution often makes things more complicated later on. But when I explain that, people usually say something like, “Yeah, but at the beginning it’s less effort that way.”
I just feel like I can’t really connect with people. It has reached a point where I’ve started categorizing these situations according to studies or sociological and psychological characteristics just to somehow make sense of them, but I know that’s not a long-term solution.
Do you have any ideas about what kind of approach I could try? And yes, I’ve already been in therapy for quite a while.