How do I [f 21] deal with finding saved videos and screenshots of other girls on my boyfriend’s [m 24] phone?
My boyfriend slept over at our house for 2 days. On the first night, we had sex but he didn’t finish because he said he was too tired. Even when I got on top, he still didn’t want to continue so we just went to sleep, or at least that’s what I thought.
The next day, he got drunk and I checked his phone because I’ve had this gut feeling for months now. That night, he searched for leaked scandal videos of girls and watched a lot of videos of women with big boobs dancing and stuff. I also have big boobs, but I’m more on the plus-size side, not petite with big boobs like the girls he watches.
He also has a specific app where he saves a bunch of videos of girls. He even screenshots the stories of his Facebook friends.
Now I honestly feel hurt, unwanted, and insecure. I keep thinking about how he didn’t seem interested in me that night but still spent time looking at other women online. I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or if my feelings are actually valid.
How do I even bring this up to him without sounding controlling or insecure? And how do you deal with feeling compared to the kinds of girls your partner constantly looks at online?