Looking for a group of queers to tag along with.

Okay so I've never gone to the gambler before but next month my planning on bringing my shitbox Celica alltrac. I visit kinda want to go to with people that have done it in the past. Was going to do it last year but my friends bailed on me.

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u/Gabbs — 16 days ago

Since being single I've spent a lot of time working on myself and I've gotten back into dating I realized even with being some flavor of non-monogamy nobody as even come close to being something I've actually want. I have no problem getting dates and I'm usually the more interesting and attractive person but my unconventional interests, kinks, and desired dynamics kinda make it all feel like a crap shoot. Doesn't help I'm not allowed on the more popular dating apps anymore (Not something I did, just am trans and that made enough people maliciously report me that I got banned). I know what to need to do is find people outside of apps but I get overstimmed at shows, and I find more normy hobbies to be boring. I'm on the outside of a bunch of communities because I just don't fit in. When you don't look or act your age it makes it unclear what age group I should be dating. Problematic age gaps are common in the trans community and I'm trying my hardest to not be part of that.

If I lower my standards then I'll just end up disappointed, that's how I ended up on a loveless marriage and kinda wasted my 20s. Now I'm in my 30s, more attractive than I've ever been, own a house, have a decent work from home job, I'm a fucking catch! Finding queer dominant women is so hard and dudes just ain't my vibe for the most part otherwise I'd probably be having an easier time. Like I know it will happen eventually but 2 years of dating (50+ people, that number is a little stack because I tried speed dating once out of curiosity) hasn't given me any hope that my people are out there. I need to put myself into more situations to meet people naturally but that's so hard when you don't have a friend group that regularly does stuff and doing stuff alone feels kinda empty.

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u/Gabbs — 1 month ago