Panicking About Being Maid Of Honor 2 months Postpartum
I am 3 months along now and my best friend is getting married this coming February. I live in NYC. She’s in Boston. I feel like everyone around me is being dismissive when I say I don’t think I can 100% commit to attending anymore.
This is my first baby and the thought of traveling 4 hours away with a fresh 2 month old is scaring me. Especially at the height of cold and flu season. Everyone’s solutions have a flaw to me. My mom and brother are invited as well and have offered to help. But I feel very overprotective. The thought of staying overnight and the logistics of bringing a crib, stroller, pumping equipment, bottles etc.
My husband suggests that we just go and my mother in law takes care of the baby at home. I don’t want to be away from my little baby possibly for a whole weekend! It gives me anxiety. And yes my mother in law has a masters in early childhood education BUT she has had brain and memory issues the past few years and I truthfully don’t fully trust her. She has an aneurysm and tends to do forgetful things constantly like leave the stove on or lock herself out of the house.
The wedding will also be huge. About 200 guests. And we’re Caribbean people and I don’t expect people to fully respect some boundaries. I have babysat small children since I was a teen and maybe my husband doesn’t fully understand the fragility of a young baby yet but he says things like “you can’t stop people from wanting to hold the baby” or “they’ll be fine away from you for a night or two.” It made me cry this morning.
Everyone says I’m overthinking everything and that it will be fine but if my baby got sick I would be enraged. I kinda want to skip out. I know I can’t tell how I’ll feel six months from now but it’s kept me up all night.