u/Gullible-Fennel-3931

moja rodzina sklada sie tak naprawdę z moich rodziców, siostry, babci ze strony mamy, brata mamy i dziadków ze strony taty których i tak widuje raz na pare lat. w praktyce mam tak naprawdę cztery osoby (rodzice, siostra i babcia) z którymi mam kontakt i których rzeczywiscie widuję. nie mam żadnych kuzynów ani kuzynek, z moim jedynym wujkiem właściwie nie mam kontaktu i nie ma w mojej rodzinie takiego konceptu jak zjazdy czy jakiekolwiek eventy rodzinne, nawet na święta bo dziadkowie ze strony taty nigdy nie chcą spędzać z nami świąt xD

zawsze mam taki trochę dysonans poznawczy jak ludzie opowiadają o tych wszystkich wydarzeniach rodzinnych, o swoich wspomnieniach z wujkami i ciociami i kuzynostwem bo ja nie znam czegoś takiego. moje wyobrażenie rodziny to jest kameralna posiadowka w max. 5 osób. ktoś może jest w podobnej sytuacji?

[edit] i know i sound stupid and unreasonable but i'm genuinely just asking for a little bit of encouragement. please don't downvote this post lmao

long story short, i'm 22 and so is my boyfriend. we've been together for two years and since the very beginning i've been very adamant about wanting to be childfree for the rest of my life. i intend to get sterilised as soon as i can. he was kinda on the fence at first, but lately he's clearly made up his mind and is talking about how cool it would be to have a child one day to "shape" (exact word he used) them into a good person and teach them everything he knows. me talking about sterilisation didn't phase him because he says he can adopt, he doesn't care if the child is biologically his or not.

we are nearing the end of our respective engineer's degrees and we'll probably be looking at renting apartments soon (we've been living in a dorm for our studies).

i know all this makes us incompatible. i know this is a good moment to break up and we really shouldn't go into adulthood with this glaring incompatibility in the way. it's just, we've been friends since we were 14, we know each other through and through, and i love him so much. everything about our relationship is perfect except for this goddamn giant disagreement. i'm not thinking clearly right now, i'm emotional and scared to lose him and though i know letting him go is the right thing to do i just need someone to hammer it into my head why agreeing to raise a child one day just so he doesn't leave me is a bad idea. please and thank you.