How do I (34F) deal with the fact that my sister (34F) doesn’t approve of my relationship?
For context, I’ve been dating a guy I’ve known and been good friends with for over 10 years. He’s genuinely a great person-we have strong chemistry, he treats me very well and he’s always been respectful toward me and my family. My sister has expressed concern saying she feels like he might be trying to shape me into someone he wants me to be, and she’s compared him to my ex, who was very controlling. However, my current boyfriend is completely the opposite of that.
I’ve already spoken to her about it because I was getting tired of the subtle negative comments she was making about him, especially since I don’t really bring him up around her. She did apologize, but I still feel like she has some lingering feelings about it.
Right now we’re long distance, but I’m planning to move closer to him next year. I’m a bit nervous about telling my sister because I already know she may not react well. She also has a tendency to make me feel guilty about my decisions even though she’s made a similar choice. I just feel like she’s judging mine more harshly.