Transphobic ppl
So im used to being misgendered and even though it bothers me i tend not to correct people bc i dont pass well as im pre-everything and have a very feminine face and a large chest (rip my back)
The other day i was at the bus stop with my sibling and there was a very drunk man waiting for the bus as well, he misgendered me and i was too awkward to say anything but my sibling corrected him and he laughed and said he thought i was their girlfriend (which happens more often than id like to admit)
He started calling me sir and saying i should play hockey bc i have big shoulders?? And i was like haha yeah maybe?? And then he asked if i chopped? And i misheard him and thought he said ‘did you shop?’ And i was like ??? Shop where?? And he laughed and said “you still got roast beef?” And i was visibly confused, my sibling bristled like a cat and goes “what the fuck do you mean by that?” To which he laughs again and says he was just joking and offers me a beer that i decline
I didnt really understand what he was trying to say until my sibling explained once we were on the bus and i felt so gross and dysphoric afterwards
I didnt wanna be confrontational as theres been a massive surge of stabbings and general crime in my town lately and i was afraid of being hurt
Like i know i know i know i dont pass, i understand that, but it doesnt stop the hurt and dysphoria from affecting me :( and when people are saying shit like that to me it makes it worse :(
Any tips or advice for dealing with people like this?