u/H0rr0rst0ry

Motorbikes are a very big part of my life, they're machines I adore and I surround myself with daily. I love American bike culture and I crave the American dream and the big opportunities that come with it. It's been a dream of mine since I was little to become famous and have a bigger inner circle and indulge myself in their massive bike culture, something I've never achieved here in England.

I proposed moving to America to my girlfriend six months ago, I suggested moving to Canada first but couldn't find a place I really loved and then it went from Chicago to new York city and now LA, she liked the idea of Chicago and new York but ever since I spoke about LA she's been really funny about it.

She has an apprenticeship which is leading to a job and a secure lifestyle here so I understand her hesitation however she was completely fine with Chicago and nyc when I suggested it. I on the other hand have had a very unsupportive family and there's no security or anything tying me down to staying in England, I also have multiple past traumas that I want to escape from badly.

My best friend of nearly ten years and pretty much my only friend now lives in salt lake city after moving from our Hometown in England which to me gives me even more of a reason to go. My girlfriend doesn't have a reason but me and I feel awful uprooting her from her life where she has a clear and steady path but I really want to move to LA.

What do we do? How do we compromise and is there even a way to compromise anymore? Any and all advice is welcome and any tips for how to get visas etc is welcome too. I'm looking to apply for an F-1 student visa if I get accepted into any of LAs three community colleges and then go from there

For the past two weekends I've been wanting to go to a motorbike gear store about half an hour from where we live, I've been talking about it non-stop and for weeks prior. Whenever I brought it up to my girlfriend I made sure to tell her that we were also going to get food out and do shopping which she also enjoys so it wasn't just about me. Last weekend we were supposed to go but we didn't because she wasn't feeling up to it which was fine, I understood and that was that. We then rearranged for this weekend, come Wednesday this week she suddenly doesn't want to go because she doesn't feel well, I say okay fine but hours later she's saying we can go as long as it's not just for the bike store. I spoke to her about feeling like she was making up excuses and she was making it seem like she didn't really want to do my part of the plans and only hers, granted we've had this exact conversation multiple times before. Today we were supposed to go and I asked if she wanted to go this morning and she said "no... I don't know... I'm tired." I said fine and left it, I come down later on and she's in a fat mood.

We've had the conversation that I feel like she's pushing away my plans and making them seem like they don't matter and she keeps telling me she's not and that she does care but nothings happened and she's still acting like this. I kind of just feel like I don't want to go anywhere with her now and that what I want to do and my plans don't matter if they have nothing to do with her even if we're doing stuff for her before or after, how do I voice to her my concerns without repeating the same argument?