u/HealthWellNTP

Hi,

I'm new here. I suspected I was anaemic due to menorrhagia but last week I had to go to hospital because I was in abject pain. I had 2 blood tests and a CT scan and found out that I had severe anaemia.

I was given 2 pints of blood and told to go see a gynaecologist. By the time, I left the hospital, my Hb level had increased to 6.5. I'm so happy this all happened in Türkiye and not back home.

How long did it take you to get your haemoglobin levels back into the normal or even optimal range?

I just watched the CNN story about Motherless and at this point, I really believe that being single has kept me safe and alive. Men who want to control and dominate women wouldn't target me. I'm just not the obvious choice. At the first sign of manipulation or inconsistency, in dating, I used to just cut men off. I have been like that since I was in my late teens.

But I can imagine that a passive-aggressive man, who deeply resented his wife or partner might do something as harrowing as has been described.

Does anyone else who has been single for a long time, feel like being single has kept them safe?

I am about to offload. I hope this post doesn't break the rules. My interactions with men only seem to go one of 2 ways: normal or all the way crazy and obsessive (them not me). I know it's a cliché but when you stop looking, the men do come out of the wood work.

Being neurodivergent and having worked in male-dominated environments for most of my career, probably hasn't helped. I felt like I was constantly on guard not to put out the wrong signals because some men need no encouragement.

My mum said that I was single because I have a big forehead (which she gave me). We laugh about it. It still hasn't stopped me from getting hit on, even from the comfort of my own home. I have been approached on a business page on TikTok by men and women... On my private account on IG. In online communities like Internations.

Apparently, at the age of 46, I should be invisible and over the hill but that isn't turning out to be true. Men are undeterred by my decoy engagement ring, wedding band and my imaginary partner.

It wouldn't be so bad if I was just dealing with unwanted attention in my personal life but some of the men who claimed to need my professional help were still only looking for a girlfriend/nurse with a purse.

I haven't heard female entrepreneurs talk about this.