Striving for frameworks that are moralistic, discipline and duty based but anti-patriarchal as a way to go for RR people?
Often times it is not thought about much but in the world there has always even demand for environments that can act as bastions of order against chaos, before Victorian and Enlightenment + American Protestant or Abrahamic modern patriarchy we had these kinds of societies that were very moralistic and community based, but where women could be warriors or providers for guys.
Examples would maybe be the Celts as most famous or even certain Germanic tribes. While women were free to own property, be providers to men or warriors they still very harshly punished betraying partners or oathbreaking and breach of promise, trust, etc. Agreed and announced relationships (Monogamous or Open Non-Monogamous) were very harshly enforced too against breach of trust.
Among people there's always been a demand for certainty or frameworks of trust. So you can be moralistic but also in ways that reject patriarchy and gender roles or masculinity, perhaps even reform it to chip away any bits of it left but still be moralistic, discipline and emphasising duty.
This is probably the most ideal framework for RR people or so on you think? If not then atleast for people in RR who want moralistic, discipline based and very duty based frameworks without any patriarchal elements defining it?
Moralistic, discipline based and duty bound frameworks did not come from Abrahamic religions though they stole the credit or added unnecessary additional patriarchal baggage. They came from "Archaic societies" like Celts or before who were figuring out how to build frameworks and societies to tame chaos and figuring out what steps were needed to re-engineer and domesticate evolution of not just animals, but humans. Many could be quite RR I think or tolerated it alot, and its where both Proto-Monogamy and "Agreed Relationships" also came from I think.