Husband faked a doctors appointment and went to a divorce lawyer
My husband and I have had a rocky marriage for over a year, mostly because I’ve caught him lying multiple times. Usually it’s about small things that wouldn’t even upset me if he was just honest. We have a baby together, and there’s a lot I love about him, so I want this to work. But lately it feels like he’s giving me no choice but to divorce him.
This weekend I was on his phone sending myself photos and I confess I did some snooping. I found a text from his mom saying she was “in the back of the parking lot” on the same day he had a doctor’s appointment. I asked about it and he swore he had no idea what she was talking about. I told him I thought he was lying and he promised he wasn’t.
Today I had a gut feeling he was still hiding something, so I asked to see his phone again. This time I found an earlier text where he told his mom he was going to fake a doctor’s appointment to take a call. Turns out he drove to the doctor’s office parking lot, sat with his mom, and called a divorce lawyer.
Honestly, I’m not even mad he called a lawyer. We were fighting badly at the time and I had considered doing the same. What hurts is the lying and involving his mom behind my back.
My MIL has hated me from the start of our relationship and she’s always been rude to me. We were no-contact with her for a year after our wedding because of her behavior, and only reconciled when I got pregnant. Since then I’ve had one rule, our child is not around her without me there because she says crazy things and my husband never corrects her. He respected that rule, until now.
I told him if we’re going to save this marriage, we need therapy again and he has A LOT of trust to rebuild. I also don’t want to be around my MIL, and if I’m not there, the baby won’t be either. Suddenly that’s a problem and now he’s pissed at me for setting that rule and is trying to fight me on it.
Please tell me I’m not crazy for not wanting my child around someone who openly dislikes me, and that my marriage might not be completely doomed lol.
Be kind with me internet strangers 🫶