If your boyfriend brought up his ex and complimented her, is he comparing you? Is he pointing out that she is better than me? He said she was smart, so successful with a great job, classy, and well dressed. We were not talking about her, but I may have mentioned my ex (we share a child together, so I'm stuck dealing with him).
I'm dating someone who was in a LTR for 10 years and they broke up a few years ago. He loved her and didn't want the breakup. He says he doesn't love her anymore and has moved on, but I can tell he still misses her and thinks about her often. I realize this is normal for some people, but for me, I don't miss or have any love towards any of my exes. Also, in the past, the people I dated were not still healing from a past breakup.
I think he's a great guy, but I'm having a hard time with this. It makes me feel like a second choice/not as good, NOT becuase he has done anything wrong, but knowing that he still thinks about her and has so much love for her. I do realize I'm comparing our less than 6 month relationship to a 10 year relationship. I'm trying to move past this, but seem stuck. I even considered breaking up with him for awhile, but realized that was dumb and this is a me issue. Any words of wisdom, advice?
Please don't be rude, dating 40+ has been more difficult than I expected. Everyone has so much baggage at this age (yes, including myself).
My bf was in a LTR for 8 years and they broke up almost 3 years ago. She broke up with him and he was devestated. I think he has moved on, but has some lingering feelings there (this casued some issues in the beginning). They used to go on vacations for their birthdays. For his two weeks of vacation time this year, he chose the week of her birthday and the week they broke up. He doesn't know that I know that those weeks fall on those meaningful dates. I will be with him for one of the weeks, and a few days on the other week.
What do you think this means? Are these sad dates for him and he wants companionship? Does it mean he isn't over her? She's still on his mind all the time?
I was reading some posts about this topic and thought it would be a good question for this group. Comments seemed mixed, with some being fine with it, others finding it to be a deal breaker. As we are a 40+ group, how would you feel if the person you were dating said their ex was the one that got away?
I also realized that there are different thoughts on the one that got away is. For me, the one who got away is someone you had a relationship with, loved deeply, thought you'd be with them forever, but then life got in the way and you couldn't stay together. The one, the love of your life, right person wrong time, etc.
I've been with my boyfriend for less than a year, and we are going on our first vacation together this summer. He took two weeks off work, each week in a different month. I realized that the first week is the anniversary of his breakup, and the second week is his ex's birthday. They used to go on vacations together for their birthdays. He was with his ex for a long time and loved her deeply, but she broke up with him a few years ago.
Does this have any meaning?
I'm dating someone who is on lexapro, he just told me recently. He is on it for anxiety and started it after a traumatic breakup from a LTR a few years ago. I asked him how long he planned to be on it, and he has no plans to stop using it.
I'm not shaming him. I've just never dated anyone who was on an SSRI and would like to hear your views on it. My concern would be long-term issues with the medication or his mental/physical health.
I'm dating a man who is on lexapro (2.5 years), and I'm finding him to be very low effort. He's very loving and supportive, but we mostly hang out at his house and rarely go out. We also live over an hour apart, and he rarely comes out to see me (he can't come to my house), so I've been doing all the driving. I'm really to a point where I'm over this relationship, but I do love him. So, I was just curious if this is just who he is, or if this could be a side effect of the medication. He is on lexapro for anxiety. Basically, I want to know if I should be supportive or if I need to consider moving on.