I’m honestly just don’t know what to do.
Okay so just wanted to start this off and say I read the rules and want to be respectful but honestly have no idea how any of this works and i have no idea what you guys are looking for on my profile? this is going to sound like a red flag but apparently i have 3 different profiles?? im pretty sure i locked myself out of my personal one that ive had for years and then i have the one and even when i dont change any settings ill randomly switch to a different one? it’s honestly embarrassing to admit that im 23 and have no idea how to work reddit haha. BUT with all that being said i am more then willing to answer or show or whatever you guys need to see to fit your guidelines… because yeah like i said im just kind of in a pickle and stumbled across this page and figured someone might be able to help.
SO why im posting… Im a 23F who unfortunately had to call the cops on her boyfriend this last weekend. we’ve been together for three years off and on i have no idea who he’s become over this last year…. it was like the small pointless arguments started getting more and more aggressive and louder and honestly, its terrifying when you get called “100lbs soaking wet” and he flexes that he’s a heavyweight amateur MMA fighter. but with the verbal arguments getting more aggressive it’s also been his actions. i’m not sure how much i’m allowed to say and i honestly don’t really want to talk about all the details yet because it has been so recent… but the stalking and harassing me when im with him, like at the bar or something, is terrible… WHEN IM WITH HIM… you read that right… so you can imagine what happens when im not with him… anyway his actions, and threats, basically led to me to realize his threats and actions were serious. he needs help. i dont want to stay with him because im scared. it’s been years of me overlooking this stuff or justifying his actions for whatever reason. but after talking to the cops and really thinking about everything and them telling me that this is domestic violence. i want out. the issue is that a couple months ago i moved in with him and shortly after he got fired from his job. i then found myself taking care of 4 cats and 2 grown humans on a servers salary. i’m not going to lie and say i don’t make enough money to provide for myself but taking care of his bills plus mine plus the cats plus everything else i was paying for.. im in such a deep hole that now i can’t move out because i have no money and everything i make just goes to paying off something or for something new that happens. parents are basically out of any options and it’s hard to ask my friends to just let me and my two cats move in with them because we’re all basically in studio apartments. ive been sleeping on the hardwood floor so that i avoid him and also working doubles at my job every day to also avoid him but i know it’s not enough. i genuinely have no idea how i can move out in the situation im in. i have terrible anxiety and i literally just shut down instead of taking action and im shutting down now because i cant think of any options. he’s threatened me, my friends, my cats, like i just want to get away from him so if anybody has anything like im just really looking for help… sorry that was a lot, any questions or anything ill try to answer :,)