I 32(F) & fiancé 35(M) have been together for 10 years and have a 2 year old son. We are due to get married in 4 weeks.
We have had a lot of stress in our lives as of late. We have no village to help with our son, I work a lot as everything is getting so expensive & although my fiancé has a good paying job, he will no longer have work come July & we have no idea how long this will last for. We have a mortgage, childcare & other bills that need to be paid. The cost of living is getting crazy and it is taking its toll on both of us. We work extremely hard but are living pay check to pay check.
After I returned from work yesterday, my partner was in a bad mood after a testing day with our toddler. I knew this & took over childcare straight away and told him to relax. After 2 hours, he came downstairs and I asked if he wanted dinner, to which he responded it was a stupid question & why would I even ask this. I got defensive straight away because to be honest, I couldn’t be bothered with it, I had a long busy day at work, came home to a grumpy man & was looking after our toddler while preparing a meal for our family. A simple yes or no would have sufficed. He got even more mad called me a dumb bitch, stupid c*** etc and I told him at that point to f*** off. He got mad and came towards me, he put his hand around my throat and pushed me against our cooker. I can’t even remember what he said to me while this was happening. This is the first time anything like that has happened. I’ve been called names before but it has never been violent. It was the first time I’ve felt scared of my fiancé in 10 years. Luckily our toddler did not witness any of this as he was in the next room.
How do I move forward? Do I leave him? Do I call off the wedding? I’m at a loss as I don’t want to end the relationship. He has since apologised and is very remorseful but I’m not sure how to move past. It feels like trust has been broken but i love him very much and he is a great dad.
What should i do?