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Like WE GET IT you hate the finalists and don’t care who wins. But if you’re a survivor fan, get over it and acknowledge the following. Otherwise you’re no better than Scot and Jason on KR, and its emmbarrassing for the sub.

Aubry - navigated pre-merge from the bottom and a place of isolation. Played the middle post merge and was integral if not the driver of major votes. Approaching end game with “who do I need to sit next to” mentality, which is crucial. Making good connections - just look at how Cirie talked about her in her voting confessional. You don’t like her personality or that she got out Gen with the help of a truly bad twist, but she’s deserving.

Jonathan - proving he has more than brawn. Led an alliance. A boring one, but one nonetheless that survived and led him to final 5. Liked by lots of the old school jury. Used advantages well and, like Aubry, was integral and/or drove many crucial votes.

Rizo - gained trust of the most dominant player on the island and was integral in her alliance. Cut bait when needed. Navigated illness and bad early impressions of him to a point where, instead of getting rid of him for being annoying, Colby kept him around.

Tiff - if you value social gameplay, you need to value Tiff. Everyone on the island now sees her as the winner if the makes the final 3 because she’s so well liked. The edit didn’t showcase it well, but she’s playing a Michele/Aras/Kenzie type game where her calmness and attitude are impossible to dislike. It’s won before in worthy fashion.

So maybe the edit was bad. Maybe the personalities don’t hit with you. Maybe Rick and Cirie were more exciting or lovable. Whatever. But let’s acknowledge good gameplay. If you’re a survivor fan and not a casual, you need to stop complaining.

Edit: whether you agree or disagree with my takes, can you not be outwardly cruel about how you speak about tue players? It’s such a bad look. Imagine being Aubry reading some of these comments. She’s a real person who’s been through enough with the toll Survivor has taken on her. Same applies to Joe, even though I don’t particularly vibe with his gameplay. By all accounts, these are good and kind people.

I find this work super slow and boring at times. I’m waiting for the clock to tick. The speed of sessions doesn’t align with the speed of my mind, so it’s easy for me to focus on my client and also get into my own 1) boredom loops or 2) unnecessary spirals of my own while I lead them along in their paths.

Please don’t judge. I’m a good therapist. I have helped hundreds to thousands of people. And I’m not perfect, far from it. I need advice. How do you mentally get through stretches where you are bored beyond measure? The dull moments. The “they’re thinking but you kind of already see the picture” moments. The moments where you’re helping them fully while lost in your own demons moments.

I’m likely in a burnout phase, I’m aware, but this is also my career and where I make my money. I can’t quit and become a firefighter - I have a family and I need income now, not 2 years from now. I would really appreciate practical help of where to put my mind if I find myself in these spots.

EDIT: thank you for those with practical, helpful, and nonjudgmental comments. I think I need to learn psychodynamic techniques to make the non “my specialty area vents” feel more engaged. Starting at some psychodynamic for dummy therapists content!

I have chronic and extreme OCD and PTSD. OCD doesn’t go away, ever, regardless of expertise in dealing with it, you just learn to deal with it better over time. But it’s a chronic disorder.

Whenever I’m in spirals or 10/10 anxiety days, hopefully! puts me back in my life. It’s like aloe for my nervous system. It grounds me in how blessed I am to be a father to my daughter. It fills me with love and presence rather than fear and uncertainty.

Loyle creating this album is the biggest gift I’ve been given in the past several years outside of my family and our health. I wish I could tell him thank you for what he’s provided me. It’s helped me so immensely.