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Это уже становиться очень большой проблемой, я начинаю набирать вес. Мне скоро исполняется 16, я никогда не была полной, но около 2-3 лет мне подарили очень много сладостей и я сильно набрала. С тех пор, я пыталась похудеть совершенно разными способами, жесткими, мягкими, но после каждой диеты(даже если я не называю это диетой, просто стараюсь не переедать) примерно на 4 день я срываюсь и самое ужасное, что срыв идет всегда дольше чем диета, я ужасно переедаю в первый день(просто по 5 тыс калорий могу съесть) второй мб также, но постепенно убавляется и 5 день я ем уже как обычно. Мне очень нужно похудеть, еще я очень высокая 177, из-за этого я выгляжу как-то крупнее чтоли, если не худая, сейчас я вешу, максимум 65, хочу сбросить до 56-57 кг

I need some honest perspectives on my situation. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years (we lived in the same city for most of it, but currently live 500 km apart while I’m studying). He is loyal, loving, and supportive, but we have very different definitions of "effort." To him, effort means shared hobbies, playing games, and having similar tastes. To me, effort means romantic gestures—like flowers, small gifts, planning dates, or coming to visit me. Because he is currently unemployed, he can't afford trips or dates, which I understand to an extent. However, what really bothers me is his lack of enthusiasm and a victim mindset—he blames his parents and circumstances for his career struggles rather than actively trying to fix them. I want a partner who actively strives to be successful. Last month, after a fight where we didn't talk for a couple of days, I impulsively installed Tinder and met a new guy. We hit it off immediately, exchanged Instagrams, and spent hours talking (1 a.m. to 6:30 a.m. the first night). Over the last month, the dynamic has shifted. He goes to the gym and sleeps earlier, so he spends less time talking to me. In a deeper conversation, he admitted to having toxic tendencies in past relationships, saying women usually leave him because he gives less time. He also doesn't know I have a boyfriend—he assumes I'm single and dating him. I realize I crave the attention and validation, but I also find myself wanting this new guy to fall in love with me. Now I’m stuck: How do I handle this dynamic with the new guy? Should I stay in my 8-year relationship, explore things with the new guy, or step back from both?

Я просто не могу уснуть когда жара больше 30 градусов