Human Stories & AMA

My friend (19F) and I (18F) went to a concert together last weekend. It was about an hour from where we live, and we agreed beforehand that we were sticking together and leaving together.

Halfway through the concert she started talking to this guy near us. I didn’t really care and was doing my own thing, but eventually I realized they were both gone.

I texted her asking where she was. Nothing.
Called her twice. Nothing.

After like 20 minutes she finally texted me saying she was outside with him and to stop worrying about her.

I asked if she was coming back because the concert was almost over. She said “idk probably.”

Concert ends. Still no sign of her.
I called her again and she declined it.

I waited around for almost 45 minutes while everyone was leaving. I texted her one last time saying I was leaving in 10 minutes if she didn’t come back.
Nothing.

So I left.

About 30 minutes into my drive home she started blowing up my phone asking where I was.

Apparently the guy had left and she came back to where we were parked expecting me to still be there.

She ended up having to call her mom to come get her.
Now she’s furious because we specifically agreed we wouldn’t leave each other, especially being that far from home.

I told her that agreement goes both ways. I’m not standing in an empty concert parking lot indefinitely because she disappeared with some guy and kept ignoring me.

She says I should’ve never left without physically knowing she had a safe way home.

I do feel bad that her mom had to drive an hour to get her, and I know girls are supposed to look out
for each other in situations like that.

But I also gave her multiple chances to come back.
AITAH?

Hello, my son is an 11th grader who wants to transfer schools.

Here are my points on why he shouldn't transfer. I think that the school he currently attends is overall better academically than the school he wants to transfer to. I also don't want him to transfer because he is already in 11th grade and I think switching schools junior year is late. I think he should focus on school because I told him that school is the main thing and friends are secondary and that he can just try harder to make friends, and that it’s his fault for not making friends. He’s already been there for two years and he probably has some friends anyways. I think that him being able to go a $20,000 a year school for only $2,000 is also a very good deal that he shouldn’t pass up on. I am upset because school has been ongoing for 2 days. He was gaming over summer break also. He also told me about it 2 weeks but I declined after an argument and he didn’t follow up. m

Here is his points on why he should transfer: He says he wants to transfer because he believes the social culture at that school doesn't suit him. It is a Christian, majority white, and expensive private school while he is an asian, atheist, and low income(on financial aid) student. He says that the private school may be better (1240 average sat vs 1120) but the public school still has a good IB program that if he gets all A’s in which he thinks will be easier when not as isolated from the school experience he will be able to go to a good college nonetheless. He also says it's unreasonable I'm upset for him not testing into a better highschool earlier because he says it was a mistake and he was in 8th grade. He also says that me saying I never made a big mistake is unreasonable. He thinks because the school he wants to transfer to starts in 5 days it’s not too late to transfer.

My (M37) son turned 6 recently and we hosted a pool party for him.  It was from noon to 3.  He had friends come over and pizza was eaten and everyone had fun. Right after I hosted a party for all my friends.  It was easier to just clean and prep the house once and I had prepared for both parties together.  There were coolers of booze at the kids party, stored behind our backyard bar, but it wasn’t out and nothing was consumed until the 2nd party crew started showing up.  

I had a few friends come over about 15 minutes early, a baseball game we all wanted to watch was on, and told them where drinks were and to help themselves.  A little before 3 the parents of one of my son's friends came to pick him up and they were clearly appalled that there was alcohol.  She told us she would have never allowed her son to come over with that present and had assumed it was a dry party since it was a kids party.  I tried explaining it was a dry party, that we were hosting back to back parties and the first drink was cracked just a few minutes ago. I hadn't consumed anything yet but she wasn't having any of my explanations.  It got real awkward and I cordially said goodbye. AITA?

I (31f) "snapped" at my fiancé (38m) for reaching over me and taking food off my plate. He thinks he's entitled to the food since he bought it but even if i buy the food I would never do the that since I was taught that I should never take food off someone else's plate without permission. Now he's pissed at me and thinks I'm ungrateful and selfish. Like maybe I'm the asshole? I know I was hangry in the moment because I had not eaten all day. Now he's going to hold the moment over my head. Was I the asshole?

I (21M) recently rented a PO Box for my business because I wanted a mailing address that wasn’t my home address. Today, I found a note in my box from someone (UNK) saying that they had this exact box for 10 years and used it for their business and that it was "really important."

In the note, they said they missed the renewal deadline, so the box became available (hence how I was able to legitimately rent it.) They asked if I’d be willing to switch boxes with them so they can get their old one back. The problem is, I’ve already spent hundreds of dollars on business cards, envelopes, and other business materials with this PO Box number printed on them. Switching would mean having to replace all of that.

At the same time, I feel bad for the guy. He had the box for 10 years, and I can understand why he’d want it back.

WIBTA if I refuse to switch and keep the PO Box?

Basically what the title says.

My (17F) sister (20F) had an interview yesterday for a internship/placement for an animation company- this company specifically works with her University and only gives out 1 job a year. Essentially, she'd take a year off school to work with them, then return and graduate the year after. It's full time and paid, and if the company are impressed they can potentially offer a job once she graduates. My sister's an incredible animator and there is absolutely no way she won't get the job- except for one thing: how she dresses.

I'm not insulting her or trying to 'dim her sparkle' in anyway, but my sister dresses very uniquely. Her style consists of bright colours, tons of patterns, only vintage/thrifted items, and the ugliest jewellery known to man. I don't really like her style, but my sister has dealt with bullying her whole life and its exciting to see her finally let go of people's opinions of her. However, I think she's lost the average person's understanding of 'casual' in the process.

The issue at hand started yesterday when my sister told me that our Mum was urging her to dress more professional for her interview. My Mum has worked at a very traditional office job for the past 20 odd years and works in a leadership position where she oversees a small group of people. Essentially, professional clothes and interviews are kinda her thing.

My sister, however, wasn't happy with my Mum and asked me to tell her to stop. Unfortunately, I agreed with our Mum. I told my sister it wouldn't be horrible if she wore something plainer for her interview, as people were extremely judgemental and could feel she was being disrespectful if she wore something totally crazy. As I was speaking I watched her get more upset and I (regretfully) kept going, and eventually suggested she maybe borrow something from Mum, who has countless plain but cute tops to wear. My sister got very upset.

She accused me of trying to change her or 'make her normal' and also said how animation was different from other jobs and her interviewers/future co-workers would probably be dressed very casually. To me, this isn't true. In my opinion, the career doesn't matter- you dress professionally to an interview.

She continued to get upset as I explained this and cut me off and told me to stop. I immediately turned and left her room without a word. I was very upset as I was just trying to help her and she kept disagreeing with me. The main problem came when I went to bed early (very upset) and she went and told all of this to our parents, though, according to my Mum, with a very different series of events.

I've been in a bad mood all day, and due to some mood issues I've been having, have started a spiral down into a considerably 'bad week.' However, I've started wondering if I was being rude for asking her to dress nice and should maybe apologise.

AITA?

My friend moved down here from New Jersey and she often bragged about how she's a Jersey girl who takes no shit, drives aggressively, and flips other drivers off when they're assholes. I warned her to quit doing that because people have guns down here (there are crazy people everywhere but gun owners are just a lot more common down here).

She didn't listen and one day a crazy guy in a truck followed her pointing a gun out the window. She minds her business now

I (28F) have a sister (32F) who is getting married next spring. Our parents aren't well off, so early on I offered to help her out financially where I could, since I have a stable job and she works part time.

Over the past eight months, I've put in close to £4,000 towards her wedding — the deposit for the venue, half of her dress, most of the catering tasting fee, and a "loan" for her florist that she said she'd pay back after the wedding gifts came in.

The thing is, I was never actually asked to be a bridesmaid. I'm not on the planning group chat. I found out the colour scheme from a Pinterest board she forgot to make private. Every time I've brought up being more involved, she says things like "you're so busy, I didn't want to bother you" or "it's easier if just me and the girls handle the fun stuff."

So I'm apparently good enough to fund the wedding but not good enough to help pick flowers.

Last week she messaged me asking for another £600 for the DJ deposit, due in three days. I said I couldn't do it this time, since I'm still waiting on the florist money she promised months ago and I have my own bills piling up. She went quiet for a day, then called me crying, saying I was "abandoning her right when things are getting stressful" and that I clearly don't care about her happiness if I won't help with something this important.

My mum is now getting involved, saying I should "just help her out, she's your only sister" and that money "isn't as important as family." My dad hasn't said much but did mention I've "always been the responsible one" like that's supposed to settle it.

I told my sister I'm happy to help in ways that don't involve my bank account — running errands, helping address invitations, whatever — but I'm done handing over money to a wedding I'm barely a guest at, let alone a planning part of.

AITA for cutting off the funding when I'm still expected to pay but not treated like I actually matter to the process?

I (20F) went to a theatre in London to watch The Phantom of the Opera with my father as it was his favourite musical and his first time seeing it in person. We were seated behind a man (45ish) and his family, and the man would lean forward very frequently (we were seated on higher ground so the very front of the stage was hard to see, which is why I understood his leaning forward). However, he did this during every song, and I was quite disappointed as he would block out almost half the stage for us, and we were unable to see the performers during the theme song. So during intermission, I leaned forward with a smile and kindly asked if "it would be possible" for him to "lean forward less", explaining it blocked our view of the stage as the sightline was already delicate. He then, unsmiling, said "I'll try" and left.

When intermission ended, he came back smiling and said "my wife is shorter, she and I will swap places", so she ended up in front of us instead. I was very grateful and thanked him. When the second half began, she immediately leaned forward, this time not leaning back at all. After about 20 minutes, she leaned back, as if resting her back(?) and immediately leaned forward again. This continued for the entire intermission, and I was quite shocked as she didn't lean forward once during the first half. Her husband, during this entire half, did not lean forward at all. There was also no one blocking her view of the stage, so I didn't understand if this was them trying to make a point? She'd also sometimes lean towards her son (who was also in front of us) and whisper something, and he'd immediately lean forward too.

I checked online and some people said it was rude to ask people in front of you to sit differently? And I totally agree, but I didn't want my father to have a poor experience (which he kind of did), and I made sure to ask very politely since I am usually afraid of conflict. My father and I left quickly after the show ended because we didn't want to ruin our night. AITAH?

I (30F) have been with my boyfriend (43M) for 10 years. He has two children who have recently moved in with us full time (6 months ago).

The whole time we have been together, I have been expected to pay half of all bills, (rent, food, electricity, water etc). Recently, since his kids have moved in full time, the bills have increased massively. This month alone, I have spent over £100 on his youngest child's school clothes.

My boyfriend makes twice my salary and their mum refuses to pay any money toward them whatsoever. My boyfriend will not ask his children's mum for child support as he does not want to deal with the kick back.

He is happy to have me continue paying this money. The problem comes that I am now completely out of money and have had to dip into a credit card.

I don't believe it's fair to make me pay for all this, when he earns twice what I do and their mum doesn't pay a penny.

This has all come to a head when I was forced to sell my camera to make back some of the money. I arranged a sale, booked a collection, packaged the camera, found a box, printed out the return label, gave my boyfriend an hour window and left it on the dining table ready for him to give to the post man. He missed the doorbell and so I lost out on the money I had. I was left crying in my car and wondering how I was going to pay for anything. He offered to send me the money but all I can think about is that he is the reason I am in this situation in the first place.

I told him I wanted to move out as I am struggling financially and he has tried to spin it round and act like I am abandoning him because he now has to look after his kids full time.

AITA for not thinking it is fair for my boyfriend and his ex to expect me to support their children when he makes double what I make and she won't pay a penny towards the kids?

I (31M) feel like I’m going crazy so I had to come here to see if other people agree or disagree with me and the situation. I have a roommate (31M) and we each have a boy cat, I love them both and I’d do anything for his cat just as I would for mine. Lately his cat has been having some bladder issues and has been going pee and poop outside the litter boxes. I’ve seen my roommate clean the pee outside the box by just wiping it with a paper towel, which means I’ve cleaned it after him by spraying it and using disinfecting wipes. I don’t mind cleaning it whenever I see it and when my roommate was out of town I even took his cat to the vet and gave him his meds. I love the lil chunky guy and I was happy to make sure he was ok, I also consider my roommate to by like family and we’ve been close friends a long time. Sometimes when his cat has peed outside the litter box the pee has gotten on the tablecloth we put over the table where the litter boxes are under. Yesterday there was more fresh pee on a corner of the cloth that already had dried pee from before. I pointed this out to my roommate and his reaction was basically “oh well” this made me pretty upset and I told him how gross it was to me to have dried and wet cat pee on this tablecloth, which I’ve washed in the past for this very reason. He said why did it really matter if no one that comes over notices and I told him that it should matter because we know it’s there and we should want to live in a clean environment. He told me next time he’s gonna do laundry he’ll wash it if he remembers but he was laughing and saying it was fine which just felt like he wasn’t considering my feelings and lowkey being disrespectful. This was yesterday and I’m still upset, am I the asshole?

AITAH my ex and I generally get along well but… we have a grandson who will turn 2 in about a month. He loves to stack things and then knock them down, typical boy behavior. My ex wanted to give him some blocks that were home made for a BD present. I love woodworking and have all the tools to do it well. She asked me to cut some wood into pieces so that she could give them to him. I cut a five gallon bucket full of blocks in various shapes and sizes, sanded them, and sprayed them with clear lacquer and gave them to her. She was upset because I hijacked her gift. I never asked to take credit for it, or even be mentioned. It was her idea and I just facilitated it for her because she did not have the skills to see it all the way through. Now she has asked me to cut more blocks so that she can do it herself. She wants to start all over. Tell me did I overstep or is this just weird? Not entirely a new behavior from her but the first time she has been this adamant about it. It’s scrap wood so it’s no cost, but it just seems passive aggressive about it.

I (32F) have been married to my husband (35M) for almost six years. We've been together for eight years.
There's something about my past that I told my husband about very early in our relationship. It wasn't something I was proud of, but I believed he deserved to know before we got serious. I told him within the first few months of dating, before we moved in together, before we got engaged, and long before marriage. I was completely honest about what happened. I answered every question he had and never tried to minimize it or pretend.
He told me at the time that he appreciated my honesty and that my past didn't define the person I was now.
We continued dating.
Eventually, we moved in together, got engaged, and married. For years, it genuinely wasn't an issue.
Until recently. My husband and I got into an argument over something completely unrelated, and suddenly he brought up the thing from my past. He said that knowing what I'd done made him question whether he should have married me.
I reminded him that he did know. He said that knowing something when you're dating is different from actually living with someone and realizing what it means.
I told him I understood that people can change their minds, but he doesn't get to act like I deceived him. He said I was being defensive. I told him I'm not defending what happened in my past. I'm defending the fact that I was honest with him about it.
I didn't hide it, I didn't wait until after we were married to tell him. I gave him the information and let him make his own decision. And he chose me.
He keeps saying, "I didn't understand what I was getting into."
But I don't know what else I could have done. I told him the truth before he made any serious commitment to me. He now wants me to apologize for "putting him in this position."
I told him I would apologize for any hurt caused by the current argument, but I won't apologize for being honest about something he knowingly accepted years ago. That made him extremely angry.
He told me I was acting like he had no right to change his mind.
What he doesn't have the right to do is punish me for information I gave him honestly before he made the decision to marry me.
Now he's sleeping in the guest room and telling people that he feels like our marriage was built on something he wasn't prepared for.
I'm honestly devastated because I love this man and I don't want our marriage to end.
At the same time, I don't think it's fair for me to spend the rest of my life apologizing for something I disclosed honestly eight years ago.
I keep wondering if I'm being too rigid about this.
AITA for telling my husband that he knew about my past from the beginning and that I don't think it's fair for him to blame me now?

I 27F have been with my boyfriend 35M for 6 months(we'll call him Jeff...fake name btw). He’s divorced and has two kids, 7yr old and 13. He has shared custody with his ex wife. Idk much about her but they seem to co-parent well. I have not been introduced to his kids as his gf yet, and that’s fine by me. I’m a math teacher, and his 13yo has been struggling in math. He asked if I could tutor him. So right now his kids know me as the math tutor, we’ve had 5 tutoring classes so far.

My sister (19F) goes to college about 30 minutes away from where I live. Her last exam ended Wednesday at 6:30. We planned for me to pick her (and all of her dorm stuff) up. Then drive to our parents place (3hr away), Thurs-Sun we had a family camping trip. Jeff knew all about the trip. He asked if I could tutor on Wednesday, I said yes but I’d need to leave by 6 to pick up my sister, he understood.

I get to Jeff’s at 4:45, I and the 13yo get to tutoring. Jeff goes to start dinner at 5:30 and realizes he’s out of milk. He said he was going to the store at the end of the street. 20 mins later he isn’t back so I text him, he said he’d be home in a minute, he had to make another stop. Another 10 mins went by and he’s not back. We wrapped up tutoring and the 13yo went to play with 7yo. I tried calling Jeff and he wasn't picking. By 6:15 I was annoyed. I checked his location on Snapchat and saw he’s at a restaurant 3 miles away. I texted him and told him I saw where he was, and he needs to come home because I need to leave now. He responds that his brother had car trouble, and he had to pick him up but they’re coming back right now. At 6:35 my sister texted that she’ll be ready soon. Jeff’s location hadn’t changed.

I told the kids their dad was out helping their uncle and I have to leave, but I can’t leave them alone, so we need to call their mom. The oldest gave me the number and I called her and explained the situation. She came right over and was clearly annoyed with Jeff. We checked his location at 7 and he was still at the restaurant. She said she’d stay with the kids, I left at 7:15.

At 7:38pm Jeff texted saying “sorry this is going to take awhile. Order pizza for you and the kids and I’ll pay you back.” I didn’t see that text until I got to the dorms to pick my sister up, and by then I was so pissed I didn’t bother responding.

At 9:45 Jeff called me and angrily asked me why did I had to call his ex. He said this was going to cause custody issues for him, he was helping his brother out in an emergency and thought my sister and I could be understanding. He never communicated that with me though. I tried to apologize/explain and he just told me I have no idea how much I “fucked up” his life and then hung up on me. I sent him a text the next days to see if he’d calmed down and would explain what happened, but he only replied to tell me what a mess I’d made of his life.

I think I might have messed up because I didn’t tell Jeff I was calling his ex. AITA?

When I was 16 (me 37 now) my mom called and told me that my dad was arrested for a crime and he would likely be going to prison. I had no idea and never suspected my dad of such a crime. My parents had been divorced since I was two and my dad was living out of state at the time.

Fast forward 7 years and now I am in law school trying to figure out what the hell happened with my dad… it never felt right.

Fast forward another 10 years and all of my suspicions and hunches were validated when a judge granted my dad’s habeas corpus petition and vacated his conviction and 25-to-life sentence… (obvs leaving lots of details out for confidentiality reasons)…

I have been very involved in his case for the last 13 years….

After reading copious amounts of transcripts and interviews, I learned that in the early 2000’s my mom was contacted by investigators and was invited to go and give them “factual/ general character” statements about my dad. I remember this bc when I was about 10 or 11, my mom told me that she was going on a “trip” and would be back in 2 weeks but she wouldn’t take me and refused to tell me anything about what she was doing. So my mom took them up on their offer, was put into a nice hotel, given stipends for meal vouchers and money to visit with her girlfriends.

After reading through the material, I discovered that my mom did more than provide factual character testimony. She blatantly lied and said my father was running from the police, which I know he wasn’t. That testimony was then used by prosecutors as “evidence” to convict my dad of a really, really bad crime (there was very little evidence against my father). And is still being used today to keep him in custody even after his conviction has been overturned.

He has been in prison for most of my life. My mom has always resented him and made sure that I knew he was a deadbeat. I have since uncovered the truth and learned his side of the story, which was so very different. I am completely crushed by this. I suspect my mom is bitter that my dad left her after wanting to improve his life and stop doing drugs and find true love, which he did. My mom went on and continued being an alcoholic for as long as I could remember.

I’ve set some hard boundaries with my mom and haven’t spoken with her in 6+ months…

AITA?

Im a 17f who has repeatedly told my family members to wash the dishes because they think of me as their dishwasher. My 15f brother barely knows how to wash an oily dish. My mother gives me almost all the chores and when i say im tired she says im lazy. My dad does absolutely nothing. He doesn't work due to medical reasons and gets money from the country. My mom does work and comes home being expected to cook for my dad who has been home all day and knows how to cook.

I confronted my mother multiple times telling her to stop making me do almost everything and on days when she's doing something she'll immediately complain im not doing anything when I've clearly done something.

Just now i walked into the kitchen. No tableware in the sink when my dad walks up holding a plate, places it into the sink and walks off. I felt so much anger i couldnt believe myself. He always has been the reason for the dishes piling up and it actually angers me.

I confronted him in the living room, my mom was sitting nearby and both started calling me crazy, disrespectful and dumb because i am done working as their personal maid. They immediately turned to yelling instead of forming boundaries with me like i had simply asked. Im actually so angry i might cry.

I hate traditional households.

Even when i burn myself a little by scattering oil my mom just goes "You're a woman." instead of asking if im okay. I told her to stop but she wouldn't. Each time im physically hurt she tells me im a woman and should suck it up. She knows i hate when she says things like this. Im not a feminist but i believe that all genders should do what they want to.

So why do i have to stay a maid when everyone in my house has capable hands?

AITAH for standing up against them.

So to put everything into context. A car was brought for me or my brother. Whoever passed our driving test first got said car and the other got the same amount for a different one.

The car that was brought is valued at around 10k but we paid 2.5k as it was from a family friend. So crazy discount on a perfectly fine car.

Well I passed first a couple days ago, but before I did I said my brother can have it as I don’t want to drive a manual. So we agreed he can have it when he passes his test. Which isn’t until December.

I won’t get the money for a car until the end of November so we agreed until he passes I’ll drive said car.

Well my promotion at work required me to get my license and use my car for work until I have been driving for one year for insurance purposes. So now I’m about to start training for my new role which the car is required.

My brother has learners insurance on the car and can drive around with someone in the passengers seat who meets a set of requirements.

So since I need the car for my role, I said I don’t want him driving the car in case something goes wrong or he crashes, since this would leave me unable to work. But my family wouldn’t hear this. All I got from them was, “nothing is going to go wrong with the car” and because I said he could have the car, I can’t do that. But until he passes his test I’ll be driving it every day, maintaining it and fuelling it.

So what I’m trying to get at is AITA for saying my brother can’t drive the car I said he can have on the chance that something goes wrong or he crashes it and puts me out of work and halts my training for my promotion and pay rise?

Just interested to see if maybe I’m wrong or right in the eyes of Reddit. Cheers for taking the time to read and respond.

I ran into Food Lion on my lunch break to grab some quick grub. It was pretty busy, but there were 3 full service registers open and 1 express “12 items or less” register. The full service registers were pretty backed up with several people with full carts and the express register had a couple people with a handful of items.

I only had 4 things, so I start heading to the express checkout. As I’m making my way over, I see a lady pushing a nearly overflowing cart towards the registers. She was ahead of me and I saw her pause, look at the full service register lines and how busy they were.

Then I saw her look at the express lane. She saw only a couple people in it with a few groceries. I watched her look up and read the “express 12 items or less” sign before she looks back over at full service. I could practically see when she made the judgement call, and she headed over to the express lane.

By this time, she and I are almost getting there at the same time, so she speeds up and maneuvers her cart in a way that cuts me off and she basically “butts” in front of me with her full-ass cart.

The cashier was helping a customer check out, so the lady already started unloading several of her groceries before the cashier noticed her cart. She told the lady it was an express lane with 12 or fewer items, but the lady ignored her and said the other lanes are too busy so she came over because there’s hardly anyone here. Meanwhile I’m standing behind her holding my 4 items.

The cashier wasnt having it. She sees me behind the lady and flags me to come up so she can quickly check me out. I squeeze past the lady who is now huffing and puffing, and she muttered something like “I didn’t know it was the express lane and it’s not that serious.” (That’s a lie, I saw her read the sign and go for it anyway).

Meanwhile another person with only 1 item lines up behind the lady with the full cart. The cashier waves him up to check out in front of her too, and the lady got more huffy and started muttering that she’s being treated unfairly lol.

After him there was a lull and the cashier did her best to check out the lady as fast as possible before anyone else came up. But it was nice to see the express lane being enforced like that. Most cases the cashiers don’t say anything when someone with a full cart comes thru an express lane (and I don’t blame them for that) but I appreciate the no-nonsense cashier not putting up with it and prioritizing people who are trying to quickly grab a couple items and go.

My friend wants to stay with me and my fiance for two weeks while her parents are out of town. She lives with her parents and doesn't want to be alone. We're all 30 years old. I don't feel like being a host for two weeks. The thought of having to make dinner to her liking everyday seems exhausting. Shes a picky eater who has expensive tastes. Personally, I would be excited to be alone for two weeks, especially if I lived with my parents. It seems odd and unnecessary that she wants to stay with us.

I'm extremely unattractive, ugly even. I've even posted many times here in the amiugly subreddit and I've gotten downvoted and some really harsh comments on my looks. My problem is I have terrible jaw issues-- I had braces put in before my jaws had fully developed and so my midface basically collapses due to lack of facial support. So I have a recessed midface and a very narrow lower jaw. To add insult to injury the left and right halves of my face look like they belong to different faces. They don't align at all and are completely different. And this isn't just my assessment. I've been told this by doctors too. The two sides even move differently and while the average person won't catch it, their initial impression would be that something is really off. So my entire face just looks super weird. I even sound weird.

I have anterior pelvic tilt and really large thighs so my body is weird, and of course it had to be topped off with severe hair loss and almost no eyelashes. I could star in the freak show segment of a circus. I went through life seeing guys hit on every girl I was with and humor me. Some wouldn't even look at me, they would talk to the pretty girl and just pretend I didn't exist. Others would talk to me only when they were drunk. My husband was the first guy to even remotely give me attention and tell me I was beautiful. This was almost at 28. By then I had started to develop some nerve issue on one side of the face and the asymmetry was getting more and more prominent, and no guys liked me while being in the arranged marriage process so I married my husband. But I hate being in photos, I'm very conscious of showing my face in public. I still try but I feel like crumpling up and crying every time I see my photo.

I even tried dance performance series and you know how many times they cut me out of the dance videos ? In 200 photos I would probably be in 2 or 3 of them. It's like the entire universe telling me how ugly I am. I'm now 35 and I want to get my jaws and face fixed but I don't know if they can fix everything. Even at my wedding the photographer complained they couldn't get any good photos, because in addition to everything I had bad allergies too and so I looked even worse. To this day we don't have even one wedding photo or any photo of mine hung up in the house.