Hello, my son is an 11th grader who wants to transfer schools.

Here are my points on why he shouldn't transfer. I think that the school he currently attends is overall better academically than the school he wants to transfer to. I also don't want him to transfer because he is already in 11th grade and I think switching schools junior year is late. I think he should focus on school because I told him that school is the main thing and friends are secondary and that he can just try harder to make friends, and that it’s his fault for not making friends. He’s already been there for two years and he probably has some friends anyways. I think that him being able to go a $20,000 a year school for only $2,000 is also a very good deal that he shouldn’t pass up on. I am upset because school has been ongoing for 2 days. He was gaming over summer break also. He also told me about it 2 weeks but I declined after an argument and he didn’t follow up. m

Here is his points on why he should transfer: He says he wants to transfer because he believes the social culture at that school doesn't suit him. It is a Christian, majority white, and expensive private school while he is an asian, atheist, and low income(on financial aid) student. He says that the private school may be better (1240 average sat vs 1120) but the public school still has a good IB program that if he gets all A’s in which he thinks will be easier when not as isolated from the school experience he will be able to go to a good college nonetheless. He also says it's unreasonable I'm upset for him not testing into a better highschool earlier because he says it was a mistake and he was in 8th grade. He also says that me saying I never made a big mistake is unreasonable. He thinks because the school he wants to transfer to starts in 5 days it’s not too late to transfer.

*friend's parents

My brother Pete (14) and his friends, C and J (both 14), got the idea in the middle of June to buy a pool for the rough summer we usually have because the local community pool is being shut down. When Pete or his friends couldn't convince anyone to buy it for them, they got motivated to work for it. Pete mowed lawns and did other yard work around the county, and the other two did their own work, and after a few weeks, they pooled their money together and were able to buy a cheap above-ground pool. Me and C and J's parents were really impressed and thought they deserved it after working for it. We all agreed to set the pool up in C's backyard because their backyard is the biggest. They filled it up and did all the work for it, and the first weekend it was available, Pete and his friends all hung out in the pool.

The problem is, that was the ONLY time Pete or J has been in the pool. C, apparently, is allowed to go in whenever, but nobody else. His parents have been asked multiple times, and they're always shot down. One time, Pete ended up sneaking into the pool while I was at work, and when C's dad found him out there, he came out and yelled at him. C was in the water too, according to Pete. He and J were obviously confused, so when I went to talk with C's parents about Pete sneaking into the pool, I asked why they weren't allowed in at all. C's dad kept harping on the fact that Pete went in without permission, which I understand, but what I don't understand is why whenever they are asked to come over and swim, they're never allowed to. They both explained it's a 'liability' reason, meaning if anything were to happen to anyone in their pool, like if someone drowned, they don't want to be responsible and it's easier to just not allow anyone but their son in the water. But these are TEENAGERS, not toddlers, and they all know how to swim.

At the end of the conversation, C's dad was like, "The pool is on my property, and we used our water to fill it up, so we decide what to do with it." I raised my voice a little bit by reminding them that they didn't buy that pool, it belongs to their son, my brother and J. I understand that it's on their property, but it's unfair to gatekeep it from the people who helped to buy it. They wouldn't answer that and threatened that Pete wouldn't be allowed at their house at all if they were asked again, which Pete would hate to hear since he loves their house, so I left it at that.

Pete was pissed, to say the least, and loved to rant to anyone who listened while gaming with his friends about the situation. He asked if they could really do that and we should call the cops, but I told him let's not go that far yet, even though I agreed those people basically stole from him. But he and C have been friends for nearly 10 years and they do EVERYTHING together, so I'd hate to see them be separated over something petty like this.

So I came up with another idea and I went shopping online and found an inflatable hot tub for about the same amount of money they spent on the pool. It might've been just as petty, and I dipped a bit into my savings, but I bought it. Could I have bought the pool myself? Maybe, but at the same time, Pete wanted it bad and I got other things to worry about, and he's learning to work for what he wants. And a hot tub's good for my back. Pete's been in the hot tub nearly every day since it's been set up. His friends are welcome inside it too, my only rule is they gotta shower (at their own houses) before or after they get in it. It's big enough for like 5 people.

J and C have been over a lot to go in the hot tub, and their parents have noticed. J's dad is totally okay with it and thinks that what C's parents are doing is bullshit too, but he agrees that they still get their reward for all their work with the hot tub. C's parents, on the other hand, aren't too happy. C told me himself that he prefers to be in the hot tub, with his friends, rather than swimming alone in his pool, and his parents don't understand that. I haven't spoken to them directly about this, but C has heard rants from his mom about how everyone thinks they're some kind of child-hating monsters for not allowing anyone in their pool (that they didn't buy). It hasn't helped that Pete still loves to rant about it too, and he knows a lot of neighborhood kids who also come to dip in the hot tub. I do see C's mom at the store sometimes, but she doesn't make eye contact with me anymore.

I know it was petty, but AITAH?

EDIT: Holy shit, this blew up a lot more than I thought. Thank you all for your input. I wanted to clear up some things in an edit.

I'm a 30 year old man.

C's parents are pretty wealthy. I really don't think the water bill or anything they're paying for with that pool is gonna break them.

Yes, I know Pete is owed his money back for his pool. But we're on thin ice as is with C's parents and I'd hate to make things even worse. He hasn't really asked about getting his money back, all he really wanted was to use the pool.

No, small claims court is out of the picture right now. It'd be a waste of everyone's time and money, and tbh, the only people who aren't satisfied with this outcome are C's parents.

I'M NOT GONNA VANDALIZE THE POOL.

So I (F28) recently moved in with my Partner (M44), we rent a house together that nether of us lived in before.

I’m 6 months pregnant and recently my partners family have become more involved in our lives, this is really nice as they are very supportive and lovely people.

My only issue is that they often invite themselves over, usually without much warning, and my boyfriend never really asks me if it’s okay first. I would never say “no they can’t come” but sometimes they come at inconvenience times and would prefer to have some kind of say in when they come. It’s particularly frustrating as I’m the planner in my boyfriend and I’s relationship; like I’m responsible for planning and cooking meals, daily activities etc.
anyway….
The issue happened this past weekend, on the Friday I had organised for my partner and I to go to a concert out of town. I bought the tickets, payed for parking and for gas and organised the whole thing. Only thing I didn’t do was drive (I don’t fit behind the wheel lol). The whole thing went well. But we didn’t get home until 3 in the morning on the Saturday.

On the Saturday I had planned a lazy day but I would cook a nice meal in the evening.
Come 6pm my boyfriend gets a text from his sister saying she wants to pop round. I asked if he could ask them to come tomorrow as I wanted to start dinner soon and was very tired. He agreed and sent a text message back. I saw this as a good opportunity to talk to him about me not being so happy about his family dropping round so often at short notice, and that sometimes it feels like they treat our house as his house. He agreed and all was fine.
Come 7:30pm, I’m starting dinner and my boyfriend gets another text from his sister saying she’s coming at 8 ish and bringing her dog… as it happens he forgot to send the text asking to come tomorrow. (I genuinely think this was an accident on his part because he seemed annoyed at himself). At this point I’m tired, hungry and pretty annoyed because I don’t really like dogs and I don’t understand why the dog needs to come.

I say to my partner it’s fine, just make sure they don’t stay too long because it’s late and I’m hungry etc, but I made it very clear that the dog must not come in the house. They were going to sit in the garden anyway as it was a nice day, so the dog didn’t need to come in the house.

The thing is I really don’t like dogs they kinda scare me and also I have four indoor only cats, who have never seen a dog before.

By this point I was starting to get cranky so When they came I excused myself for a “nap”, tbh I really did need a lay down my back was killing me and I knew a load of people and a dog would be overwhelming.

When I’m upstairs I hear that my boyfriend has invited his family and dog in the house! Didn’t once ask for the dog to walk around. This made me so mad because I could hear the cats growling and running up the stairs.

Anyway after this I must admit I started a bit of an argument with my partner. I really didn’t think I was asking for much.
I know I was overeating a little, im definitely a little cranky at the moment as Im tired all the time and everything in my body aches! And it’s not my partners fault his family came at an inconvenient time (not their fault either) but I asked for one thing… no dog in the house.

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My girlfriend (F20) and I (M20) have been in a long distance relationship for about 2.5 years. Admittedly, we are in a bit of a rocky patch right now, but are trying to work things out. Recently, she has began studying for her exams, and says that she needs to be outside the house to do so. I am completely fine with this, however, she goes home at around 2 AM. Even if she sends updates, I still get worried because I know how sketchy her neighborhood is (For context she tells me that she notices people following or staring at her, especially due to her small build). I expressed my disappointment at her for doing so, but she said that I was just taking her happiness away from her after being productive outside the whole day, and that I was always being critical of her decisions. We have not talked in a few days and want to know what to think.

EDIT: I just want to clarify that she has expressed to me wishing I was more protective/controlling of her (which I personally dont understand too much) because it makes her feel safe and cared for.

My husband and I have been living together for over 6 years. He has always been a “preper”, he has all of the survival gear and supplies in the world. We currently have about 48 cases of bottled water in the basement. We cannot drink the tap water where we live. We usually keep about 2-3 cases of water upstairs for use. We ran out. I asked him if I could take a case from the basement and replace it the next day. He said NO! I asked why not if I would replace it? He said, “because I made a rule.” (For emergencies only) I got frustrated and told him, “ok, then you can go to the store today and get me some water since I can’t have any of the multiple cases that we have!”

He has been giving me the cold shoulder since then. He did end up going and getting a case of water from the gas station, but he will not talk to me. His entire energy is clear that he doesn’t want to be around me. For reassurance, I asked him, “can you at least tell me if we are good?” He said “I’m not gonna talk about it”

What could I have done different? Should I have just went to the store myself and got a case of water? AITAH for getting frustrated that I can’t drink the water we have, even with the promise of replacing it the NEXT DAY? I’m flabbergasted that I’m sitting here wondering if my partner is about to leave me over me wanting water.

I should add an edit: I do love him very much. I was a shell of a person when he met me and he helped to build me up. He helped me get my drivers license and my independence. He showed me things I had never learned before. We are also very traditional, I do work part time but he pays all of the bills while I do the all of the housework and I use my part time money for things for myself, gas in my car, birthday presents etc. I want this to work with him. I genuinely need advice on how to communicate with someone who gets defensive or cold when things are not done the way they were anticipating them to be done?

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I was sent home early today by HR. I had an autistic report that was gunning for an office position and I told him that it won't happen.

I refused because his meltdowns would be a major issue in the office because its customer facing and it would create a bad work environment for those in the office because they would be walking on eggshells.

He put in his 2 weeks on Friday and in the exit interview, he said he got a job elsewhere because he didn't have growth opportunities here. I had to sit in on the exit interview and mentioned that quitting because he didn't get his way was unprofessional.

They went through his employee records and saw my notes on 1 on 1, yearly reviews etc. They saw he was a stellar employee, so they asked why I told him that he would not be promoted, I brought up that he was autistic and HR's response was just "So?" Went on to explain my reasoning that his meltdowns would lead to a bad work environment and they told me that wasn't my decision to make.

They launched an investigation to see if there was the possibility of a discrimination lawsuit and found there is a chance so I have been put on leave the rest of the month and if they don't fire me, when I get back I will be demoted and work his position on the floor.

What are my options in this?

yes, there are documented occurrences of meltdowns at work.

you don't hire someone with epilepsy to drive a truck because of the risk. someone like him shouldn't be in a customer facing position for a similar reason. imagine if he had a meltdown in front of a customer, that would put the company at risk. besides, he's really good at production work.

So I went away for a three-day weekend and paid my cousin seventy bucks to house-sit and feed my rough collie. He is a show-line dog with a thick, healthy double coat. Before leaving, I showed her his brushes, his exact food portions, and specifically mentioned that he pants when he sleeps because that is just how collies regulate heat.

sunday evening I get home and my dog meets me at the door looking completely unrecognizable. She literally took him to a random groomer down the road and had him buzzed down to the pink skin with clippers. She smiled and told me she did me a favor because he looked hot and it was ninety degrees outside.

Anyone who owns a double-coated breed knows that shaving them destroys their undercoat, ruins their temperature regulation, and exposes them to severe sunburns and heat stroke. I rushed him to the emergency vet because his skin was already bright red and irritated with razor burn. When I sent her the three-hundred-dollar vet bill and told her she ruined his coat for years, she started crying to our family.

Now my relatives are messaging me saying I am being an ABSOLUTE monster over "just some dog hair" that will grow back anyway. I should of known better than trusting her with basic instructions, but am I really the jerk for refusing to talk to her until she pays for the vet visit?

I've been vegan for over a decade. I have dated many men over my time, all of them eventually turning vegan. Usually in a matter of weeks or months. I thought it was activism! Most of them are still vegan today.

But after two years with the same man, I decided the lovely sounding future we had planned out wasn't enough. Despite him being a nice man and us sharing a well thought out potential future, I could not handle that he'd eat meat when I wasn't around.

I tried. I showed him everything. Documentaries, statistics, articles, images. I cooked and we went out to Michelin star vegan restaurants in many cities. Our fridge at home is almost fully vegan all the time (he keeps frozen fish in the freezer for when I am not around).

But at the end of the day, we didn't share the most important part of who I am: the belief that animals shouldn't be committed to a life of torture just for my pleasure.

It is hard. I move out to my own place on September 1st. But I am also... happy. Because I've further proven to myself that convenience isn't what is important. I want to live my values even if it's hard.

Edit: to be clear, he when we started dating said one day he could see himself vegan. I also told him it would be a non negotiable. He wasted my time too.

My bro is 33M and my SIL is 31F. They were in a long-term relationship before marriage and both have good jobs. Before getting married, they had talked about having kids and starting a family. My bro always wanted kids, and as far as we know, they both agreed on this.

But after marriage, my SIL changed her mind. She now says she doesn't want kids and has apparently been influenced by some DINK couples at her workplace.

This has become a huge issue in our house. They live separately and nobody from our family is involved in their day-to-day married life. We don't interfere in their relationship.

My father bought the flat they live in, and it's in both their names. My parents also used a big part of their retirement savings to help her when she went abroad for her studies. Her family wasn't very financially settled either.

I'm not saying she owes us anything because of that. But some people in the comments are acting like my family has never supported them, which isn't true.

What worries me is my bro's future. If he stays in this marriage and gives up having kids, I feel like his whole life will become a sacrifice. Having a family was something he genuinely wanted, and it was something they had agreed on before marriage.

And now, during their discussions, she has also started talking about alimony and what she would get if they separated. That has made the whole situation even more complicated.

I'm not trying to take sides. I just know my bro has always wanted kids, and I don't see how this can have a middle ground. One person can't compromise by having half a child.

What would you guys do if you were in my bro's place? Stay in the marriage and give up having kids, or seriously reconsider the marriage?

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So very important context: My parents got divorced when I was 9 due to active drug addiction. He shortly went to prison for seriously injuring a man during a robbery. After prison he moved in with my distant relatives across the country and really turned his life around. During that time, he surprise revealed to me that he started dating a woman from church and they were set to get married. He kept this a secret from me the whole time. Fine. Whatever….

I had met her the next summer during one of our visits and she was absolutely amazing, I absolutely adored her and my new step siblings.
Next year after that I found out I was going to be a big sister, came to visit to meet my new brother and that’s when things started to change. My stepmother became extremely paranoid, a conspiracy theorist (QAnon), anti-vaxxer, and all around abusive.
The last time I visited my father and my stepmom for an extended period of time was traumatic. They had another kid at this point and my father was often gone out of town for work. So, it was just me, my siblings, and my stepmom in this house in the middle of nowhere. I’m an adult at this point (21) and she very much did NOT like me anymore. I have more of an alternative style that could be very harsh for the southern Christian so it wasn’t much of a shock for me. However, she began to start becoming abusive towards me. Stealing my blankets so I had nothing to sleep with at night, letting my baby brother piss and leave food all over the couch I slept on, leaving passive aggressive Christian pamphlets clearly targeted at me (“what to do when your child practices witchcraft”), accusing me of being lazy for not picking up after her, accusing me of crashing her car because of a tiny crack on the cars fog light, and revoking my access to the car so I couldn’t buy warm clothes due to the changing seasons or buying food. She kept the kitchen empty of any food and would only go to the store once a month and would sneak out of the house so I couldn’t come with.

I came weighing 140 pounds, left weighing 115. And no, my dad didn’t protect me from any of this.

I began no contact after this visit.

Fast forward 4/5 years later of no contact and I reach out to my dad due to negative mental health decline and I just needed him. I found out that my stepmom had lymphoma and they are getting separated because she stole a large amount of money from my dad, and plus her abusive behavior. My dad seemed to be escaping the abuse and growing better as a person. Anyways, she died last year after refusing treatment because she didn’t believe in modern medicine. From what I heard, she didn’t have much support in the end due to her abusive behavior towards everyone in her life.

3 weeks ago I’m talking to my dad on the phone catching up when he says, “ the kids are doing great , they really love (let’s just say Ryan) we’ve been together for a year now”. I ask, “wait do I know Ryan? Who is Ryan?” ……Well everybody, Ryan is my dead stepmoms NIECE ! I’m stunned. This means that while my stepmom was dying, my father was sleeping with her niece who is somehow the same age as him. AND that means my siblings new stepmom is their cousin. AND they are getting married this month.

I’ve been chewing on this info for weeks now unsure what to do so I reach out to my step sibling and ask “hey… temperature check…. How are you feeling about this and is there any important info I should know about since my dad doesn’t tell me anything”
They inform me 1. that they don’t like it 2. My dad and his new cousin wife threw a fit and left a family wedding due being asked to stop inappropriately touching each other and 3. MY DAD DATED ANOTHER NIECE OF MY STEPMOMS BEFORE THIS ONE. WHEN SHE WAS DYING

I’m dumbfounded. My father actually hooked up and dated multiple of my family members after my parents divorce as well. So this is clearly a pattern for him.
WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO. What is my responsibility here? I worry for my siblings but I am across the country and can only do so much. I’m honestly going against my better judgment posting this online but I don’t have a support system to help me:/

My daughter is 6 years old and loves Pokémon. We decided she’s old enough to play Pokémon go and me and my husband have been playing with her all year. She also loves horses and unicorns so naturally Ponyta is one of her favorites. Some how the universe aligned for my baby and she found a shiny Ponyta. She’s been collecting all the candies so she can evolve it. My sister in law is also very into Pokémon. She has tons of cards and games and plushes etc. She’s a friend on the Pokémon go app with our daughter.

Last night she and my inlaws came over for a bbq and she was playing with our daughter on the app. She was going through my daughter’s Pokémon and saw the shiny Ponyta. She’s asked her to trade and my daughter said no. So they decided on a different trade and we went on with our night. At some point in the evening she grabbed my daughter’s tablet and said she was going to charge it. Later my husband, father in law, and brother in law decided to go fishing. My daughter wanted to go and catch Pokémon down by the lake with them. Well of course she noticed her buddy was different and saw it was gone. She cried and immediately said it was her aunt. Her grandma told her to calm down and it’s just a game. Thankfully my husband stepped in and explained to her that it was important to our daughter and it was a big deal. Sister in law hadn’t said anything up until that point. She told us to chill out and that she would trade her an evolved Ponyta. My daughter was really upset and she told her to go away and ran to her room crying. Husband and sister in law are arguing. Brother in law is explaining to mother and father in law that you can’t just trade back. I eventually ask which Rapidash my daughter can have and my sister in law tells me to ask her to choose. Well when I took her phone to show my daughter I transferred the shiny Ponyta and still traded the Rapidash. When I gave her the phone back she was mad and more arguing happened. Obviously the night was l
ruined. Eventually everyone left.

This morning my mother in law came over and asked our daughter if she could teach her to play the game too and apologized for minimizing her feelings. After they played a while we spoke about what happened. She thinks I made the situation worse. She didn’t ask me to apologize or anything and she’s not upset at any of us. She just thought we all could have handled it better. I’ll be honest when it was all happening I was seeing red. I couldn’t believe she would do that to her niece. She knows how much she loves horses and Pokémon. It’s not like she didn’t know. My daughter literally told her no! It was her buddy and she traded it for a bidoof! There were so many steps she took to do this and not once did she stop and think she shouldn’t do it. She knew it was wrong other wise she wouldn’t have hid to do it. She’s a 29 year old woman not some little kid who didn’t know better. Did I over react by transferring the shiny Ponyta and giving my daughter the Rapidash.

Wow didn’t think so many would reply. For anyone offering to trade a shiny Ponyta for my daughter i appreciate it so much. I’m not incredibly familiar with how it all works but if anyone wants to take the time to explain it or tell me how then my answer is yes thank you! Also just for some clarification once you trade a Pokémon in Pokémon go you can no longer trade that Pokémon to anyone. It’s a forever trade so no trade backs.

My sister in law has always been great with my daughter. Our daughter is the first grandchild and niece and my in laws have always been great to her. I’m shocked my sister in law did this. She was my child’s favorite aunt. She’s there for games for school events ridiculous amounts of gifts for birthdays and holidays. Also my child has never been left alone with her. Not because I didn’t trust her specifically but because I thought my daughter was too young still for overnights. All of this really shifted things which sucks because my daughter was really hurt by all of this. She’s asked why she did this to her multiple times. She’s also said she doesn’t want her at her recital that’s coming up. Her aunt literally bought the tutu and sewed on rhinestones. I’m truly perplexed by what has happened and why she’s done it.

As for my mother in law she made it right by my daughter and that’s all I care about. She said sorry to her and specifically apologized for minimizing her feelings. She also let my daughter download the app on her phone and explain to her how it works and they played together. I’m hoping with her playing more she’ll come to fully understand. My mother in law is great normally so I’m not worried about it. We have an awesome relationship she’s great with me and my daughter. She definitely plays favorites with my husband and sister in law tho.

For a long time, I struggled with dating apps, especially Tinder. People kept telling me to quit because dating apps were cold and dehumanizing and that I should meet women in real life instead.
So I did.
One day at work, I met a girl. She was cute, funny, and had an amazing smile. We got along well, so I told her, “I know this isn’t very professional, but I think you look amazing. I’d like to stay in touch.”
She asked if I wanted her number or Instagram.
I didn’t want to put pressure on her, so I offered to give her my Instagram instead. That way, she could decide later whether she wanted to contact me.
She preferred to give me hers.
Her account was private, so I sent her a request. I thought that if she wasn’t interested, she simply wouldn’t accept it.
But she did.
We started talking, but she rarely replied. Sometimes she’d take hours or even days despite being online. I showed the conversation to some friends, and they told me she probably wasn’t interested.
I still tried a little longer because I really liked her.
Eventually, after being ignored for two days, I got frustrated and told her I was tired of the “princess behavior” and asked whether she actually wanted to talk to me.
She then ghosted me completely.
About a month later, I ran into her at a nightclub.
I make videos in clubs, and that night I filmed her. She was drunk and said something extremely personal on camera something that could potentially affect her private life if it was posted publicly.
The next day, she messaged me asking me not to post the video.
By that point, she had unfollowed me. So I couldn’t help thinking: you ignored me for a month, unfollowed me, and now suddenly you’re coming back because you need something from me?
I told her I didn’t know whether I would post it.
Suddenly, her behavior completely changed.
The girl who used to take hours or days to answer was now sending multiple messages in a row.
She apologized for ghosting me. She explained that she’d been in a toxic relationship and wasn’t ready to meet another man. She admitted that ghosting me wasn’t the right way to handle things.
She also told me that the brother of her best friend had committed suicide and that she’d been going through a difficult period.
For the next two days, we talked a lot.
She told me about her life. She apologized several times. She was incredibly nice to me. She even suggested that maybe we could have a drink together one day.
And that was basically all I had wanted from the beginning: for her to actually talk to me.
The strange part was seeing how differently she treated me once I had something she wanted.
But what she didn’t know was that I had already decided I wasn’t going to publish the video.
I just didn’t tell her.
I let her believe that I might post it because, yes, I wanted revenge for the way she’d made me feel when she ghosted me.
Eventually, her friend took her phone and called me. She told me she’d found her crying in the bathroom because she was scared about the video and asked me to delete it and apologize.
At that point, I ended it.
I told her friend I wasn’t going to publish anything, and I apologized to the girl.
The video will never be posted.
But I’m not going to pretend I regret everything.
Being ghosted repeatedly can seriously affect your confidence. When it happens again and again, you start wondering what’s wrong with you. You start questioning your looks, your height, your personality, everything.
People often treat ghosting as something insignificant because it’s “just not replying.”
But when you’re on the receiving end repeatedly, it can hurt.
For once, the situation was reversed. Someone who had left me waiting for a reply was now waiting for mine.
And yes, part of me enjoyed that.
Maybe what I did was petty. Maybe it was cruel. Maybe I took my resentment about being ghosted by other women out on one person who didn’t deserve all of it.
You can call me an asshole or inhuman if you want.
The situation is over. I’m not posting the video, I’m not going to contact her again, and I’m moving on.
And I swear I didn’t really care that she suffered or she cried I even enjoyed it to have a power on her. And the only reason I ended it after 2 days is because I didn’t want that commite suicide because of me then I can be in big trouble ( without this I would have let her suffer for 1 or 2 weeks ).
But I wanted to tell the story exactly as I experienced it.

AITA for telling my dad he's the reason none of his kids talk to him anymore after he told me I'm wasting my "prime birthing years" to go into law school?

So my dad has always been the stereotypical Christian Conservative man. This is something that, although I don't agree with it at all, I have always tried to be respectful rather than constantly trying to fight and argue with him about his beliefs.

He's always been against college as a whole, viewing it as "expensive liberal indoctrination." he would constantly ask for what classes I was taking and would have meltdowns over "liberal" classes. When I told him that I was going to study Criminal Justice bold enough to say he wasn't happy.

Anyways, so flash forward to 3 months ago when I finally visited my family after not seeing them in person for 4 years, and I decided to bring my boyfriend along. The entire time of our stay, he kept asking about marriage and kids, and my boyfriend and I would keep bringing up how we plan on waiting a little bit until we're more financially stable, especially since we live in a city where everything is pretty expensive. On the last day of our trip, I planned on buying my parents a nice steak dinner and really tried pushing about me wanting to surprise them with some really good news, since I thought that just maybe me telling them I got into law school would make them proud of me.

We got there, and I told them. My dad, he went on a rant about how I need to reconsider since it's a long time to be in college, how my scholarships surely won't pay for this, how about me making more money than my boyfriend could make him look bad as a man, how "who will take care of your kids?" and then blowing up even more when my boyfriend mentioned how there's a lot of remote accounting jobs that he honestly would prefer doing over in person.

Then finally, the dreaded words, "Don't you think you're wasting your prime birthing years as a woman to do this? What if you can't have kids by the end of this? A female's body physically can't handle not having babies before her 30s; don't you think you should focus more on starting an actual family rather than chasing this fantasy? Look at you, you don't look like a lawyer. What if nobody hires you? Then what? You now won't have anything. Why can't you just focus on your actual future?"

Dead silence across the table. It's like my heart dropped to my stomach as he said that, and out of me at that rate, being so hurt because I genuinely had it in my head that maybe for a second he could look at my hard work and be proud of me, that I told him, "You're so fucking selfish and ignorant. You treat all your kids like they're less than you and then wonder why none of them talk to you. Maybe for once in your life, could you have at least pretended to care about someone other than yourself?"

Bold to say this resulted in him damn near yelling at me and my mom having to get him to go outside to have a smoke to calm down. I've been told by my mom that although she's proud that I stood up for myself, I could have been way nicer about it. So AITAH for saying what I said to my dad?

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this is written like a Degrassi episode for twenty somethings by someone who has never socialized with twenty—something’s or conservative Christians. they wouldn’t settle for only using these Johnny Come Lately manosphere talking points, they’ve got the O(t)G stuff.

My friend, who let's call Nancy, has always wanted a surprise party for her birthday. The actual day of her birthday was pretty rough, so we decided to throw her a surprise party this year to fulfill her wish. We came together as a friend group to decorate my house with birthday decor we knew she would like. Made it fancy as she's into fancy things. I'm an amatuer baker, and have been baking for a non-profit who serves at-risk youth, family, & friends for years now. Nancy mentioned a month ago that she wanted a cake from me, but I wasn't sure if that was still what she wanted as she never said a flavor. Apparantly, she was dissapointed on her actual birthday that I didn't make her cake. So I decided to make her one for the surprise party. Nancy has really been into a specific book lately, so I thought I would make the cake in the colors of the book. The party took place at my house, and we picked up some food from a restaurant to be ready for when she came. Nancy's sister was in charge of bringing her to my house. They ended up being two hours late. Nancy complained about just about everything. The ingredients for her favorite alcoholic drink were wrong (even though every recipe we found online said the ingredients that we bought), complained that the cake did not look like it went with the book enough, complained that she wasn't dressed fancy, blamed me for ruining the surprise an hour before she came which was really just a misunderstanding with her sister, and didn't even want to take pictures with the photo op we made. She seemed genuinely dissapointed, and didn't thank a single person. You can't beg for a surprise party for years, and then complain the whole time when you get one!