u/Ravingsockmonkey

My daughter is 6 years old and loves Pokémon. We decided she’s old enough to play Pokémon go and me and my husband have been playing with her all year. She also loves horses and unicorns so naturally Ponyta is one of her favorites. Some how the universe aligned for my baby and she found a shiny Ponyta. She’s been collecting all the candies so she can evolve it. My sister in law is also very into Pokémon. She has tons of cards and games and plushes etc. She’s a friend on the Pokémon go app with our daughter.

Last night she and my inlaws came over for a bbq and she was playing with our daughter on the app. She was going through my daughter’s Pokémon and saw the shiny Ponyta. She’s asked her to trade and my daughter said no. So they decided on a different trade and we went on with our night. At some point in the evening she grabbed my daughter’s tablet and said she was going to charge it. Later my husband, father in law, and brother in law decided to go fishing. My daughter wanted to go and catch Pokémon down by the lake with them. Well of course she noticed her buddy was different and saw it was gone. She cried and immediately said it was her aunt. Her grandma told her to calm down and it’s just a game. Thankfully my husband stepped in and explained to her that it was important to our daughter and it was a big deal. Sister in law hadn’t said anything up until that point. She told us to chill out and that she would trade her an evolved Ponyta. My daughter was really upset and she told her to go away and ran to her room crying. Husband and sister in law are arguing. Brother in law is explaining to mother and father in law that you can’t just trade back. I eventually ask which Rapidash my daughter can have and my sister in law tells me to ask her to choose. Well when I took her phone to show my daughter I transferred the shiny Ponyta and still traded the Rapidash. When I gave her the phone back she was mad and more arguing happened. Obviously the night was l
ruined. Eventually everyone left.

This morning my mother in law came over and asked our daughter if she could teach her to play the game too and apologized for minimizing her feelings. After they played a while we spoke about what happened. She thinks I made the situation worse. She didn’t ask me to apologize or anything and she’s not upset at any of us. She just thought we all could have handled it better. I’ll be honest when it was all happening I was seeing red. I couldn’t believe she would do that to her niece. She knows how much she loves horses and Pokémon. It’s not like she didn’t know. My daughter literally told her no! It was her buddy and she traded it for a bidoof! There were so many steps she took to do this and not once did she stop and think she shouldn’t do it. She knew it was wrong other wise she wouldn’t have hid to do it. She’s a 29 year old woman not some little kid who didn’t know better. Did I over react by transferring the shiny Ponyta and giving my daughter the Rapidash.

Wow didn’t think so many would reply. For anyone offering to trade a shiny Ponyta for my daughter i appreciate it so much. I’m not incredibly familiar with how it all works but if anyone wants to take the time to explain it or tell me how then my answer is yes thank you! Also just for some clarification once you trade a Pokémon in Pokémon go you can no longer trade that Pokémon to anyone. It’s a forever trade so no trade backs.

My sister in law has always been great with my daughter. Our daughter is the first grandchild and niece and my in laws have always been great to her. I’m shocked my sister in law did this. She was my child’s favorite aunt. She’s there for games for school events ridiculous amounts of gifts for birthdays and holidays. Also my child has never been left alone with her. Not because I didn’t trust her specifically but because I thought my daughter was too young still for overnights. All of this really shifted things which sucks because my daughter was really hurt by all of this. She’s asked why she did this to her multiple times. She’s also said she doesn’t want her at her recital that’s coming up. Her aunt literally bought the tutu and sewed on rhinestones. I’m truly perplexed by what has happened and why she’s done it.

As for my mother in law she made it right by my daughter and that’s all I care about. She said sorry to her and specifically apologized for minimizing her feelings. She also let my daughter download the app on her phone and explain to her how it works and they played together. I’m hoping with her playing more she’ll come to fully understand. My mother in law is great normally so I’m not worried about it. We have an awesome relationship she’s great with me and my daughter. She definitely plays favorites with my husband and sister in law tho.

My (21F) friend (21F) isn’t doing the best financially, so over the years, I’ve tried to help her make the best out of her situation by giving her clothes I don’t want anymore, makeup I don’t use, perfumes she likes in my collection, I’ve paid for her food, and of course, what this post is truly about, I’ve lent to her many of my own items for her to borrow. She’s always been very gracious. However, recently I’ve started noticing that she’s been taking advantage of my generosity, whether it’s intentional or not.

The most recent instance was at the beginning of the Summer. She was spending the night at my apartment and asked to borrow something to sleep in, so I gave her a t-shirt. In the morning, she told me that she’d wash it and give it back to me when she sees me next, but I eventually forgot about it since it’s Summer, and I’ve really only been sleeping in tank tops due to it getting really hot in my room.

Last month, I remembered the shirt. I spent hours searching for it in my closet, and then I remembered I lent it to her. When I saw her at our hangout later that day, I brought up the shirt and asked if she could give it back, to which she replied “I’m not giving it back,” and when I pushed a little more she
said “Don’t even try. It’s mine now. Sorry.”

I felt incredibly disrespected. I’m not a particularly possessive person, but I do believe that my generosity belongs to me, and while I’m willing to give my friend many of my things, I don’t appreciate her deciding what I give to her. I ignored many similar instances in the past, which looking back, I should’ve used as an opportunity to place a boundary, but those instances involved items that I would’ve given her anyway had she asked. This t-shirt however, was not something I was planning on getting rid of.

Last week, I spent the night at her apartment, and while she was digging in her dresser to find her pajamas, I spotted my t-shirt. When she fell asleep, I took it out and put it in my bag. Oops.

Last night, she texts me saying she couldn’t find it, and asks if I happened to take it back, to which I replied verbatim “yes it’s mine. on a real note though, i was hurt when you told me you weren’t giving it back, so when i saw it, i took it. i should’ve just asked. i’m sorry.”

A few hours go by and she doesn’t respond, but this morning she texts me saying verbatim “are u actually serious right now? u literally forgot about the shirt anyway and i told you i wanted to keep it. you have so many clothes so i don’t understand why THIS ONE SHIRT even matters, especially since YOU KNOW i haven’t been making a lot of money.”

We end up going back and forth for a while, but I’ll spare you. The last thing I said though was “it’s not about the shirt. it’s about the fact that you refused to return it when i asked. i feel like me taking it back isn’t as bad as you taking it without intending to return it.”

Am I the asshole and what can I do to fix this? I’m keeping the shirt LOL

I (26M) want to celebrate my birthday with my immediate family (my parents, siblings, and their partners). My idea was to do a 6-mile (10 km) beginner-friendly hike and then have dinner together afterward.

The problem is my brother's girlfriend.

For context, she used to be morbidly obese and, for many years, wasn't able to be very physically active. Because of that, for the past five years I've always chosen birthday activities that didn't involve much walking or exercise so everyone could participate. I never complained about it because I understood her situation.

About a year and a half ago, she underwent weight-loss surgery and has since lost a significant amount of weight. She is now at a healthy weight.

However, she still doesn't like walking or hiking. Over the past several months, she has said multiple times that she finds walking boring and doesn't really see the point of it. She says that her body is still adjusting after the surgery, and I don't doubt that this may be true to some extent. At the same time, based on what she's said herself, my personal impression is that the bigger issue is simply that she doesn't enjoy walking or other activities that involve a lot of movement, rather than being physically unable to do them.

The hike I planned is specifically meant for beginners. It's about 6 miles long, mostly flat, and has plenty of places to sit, rest, get food, or even stop early if needed.

When I suggested it, my brother immediately told me that neither he nor his girlfriend would come if I chose that activity.

I said I completely understood and offered a compromise: those who wanted to go on the hike could do so, while anyone who didn't want to could skip it, relax elsewhere, and then everyone could meet afterward for dinner at a restaurant.

My brother got angry and called me selfish and egotistical. He said I was deliberately excluding his girlfriend and that I should be more considerate.

Now my mother has gotten involved and is also pressuring me to change my birthday plans so that my brother's girlfriend can participate.

I even offered to shorten the hike, but since then I've basically been ghosted.

I genuinely don't want to exclude anyone. At the same time, I feel like I've spent years choosing activities that accommodated one person, and for my own birthday I'd like to do something I actually enjoy.

So, AITA?

I have been dating my girlfriend, Emily, for two years. We were supposed to visit my parents at their vacation home on the beach over the 4th of July. She knows my parents' attitudes and the kind of impression they value. However, on our date night, she showed up with bright pink hair. I expressed my concern about how my parents might react to it and asked if she could go back to her natural hair color before we go. She said she's not going to change it and that she likes the pink. She mentioned that her workplace has a "casual summer" policy for those who are not in court roles, and since she's in a litigation support role, she's allowed to participate in casual summer with her support staff co-workers.

I asked her to consider my parents, and she immediately started: first it’s hair, then clothes, to how she talks, what wedding dress to get, and even how we would raise our children. She said she was done with this and stormed out of dinner before we even ordered.

I tried texting her, and we got into an argument about the cost I put in for our plane tickets. She told me to sue her. This was the last I talked to her on Sunday and my texts are still green. I didn't think it was that big of a deal for her to blow up on me about.

So my ex and I are currently expecting a baby and she's 26 weeks along.

I am the last/only person in friendship group and family (in my generation and above) who hasn't had a kid yet so everyone's quite excited and they decided to throw me a baby shower just for bants. They'd told me they wanted to throw me one and asked if they should invite my ex. I said no because well no. We've agreed to co parent but we can and should keep some things separate if not necessary to include one another and this was just with my friends and family. So they threw me this baby shower and it was honestly quite some fun. It was all just jokes and bants. We had a great lunch, had some drinks, treats, and the gift giving. It was more of a celebratory party of me finally joining the parent club than anything. We took a bunch of funny parody type pictures of typical baby shower phtoshoots like one with my stomach out and my friends were feeling the 'baby' and one of me under baby shower banner with all the ballons and gifts etc.

These were obviously posted and my ex saw them and didn't like it, to say the least. She thinks I'm a dickhead for having a baby shower 1) at all because I refused to throw her one or help contribute and 2) without her since I'm not the one pregnant and apparently the photos were sexist and insulting. I get it but also don't think it's that big of a deal. Aita?