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My (32f) son is only 4 and I love him more than anything, but he is also a lot. He just can't handle being told no. No matter what store we'll go too he's always asking for something and if he's told no he'll throw a tantrum.

The mix of me feeling bad for him because I adore him so much and figuring he'll grow out of being a brat eventually. I end up buying it for him most of the times anyway.

It's still very frustrating and he makes me want to just shop online instead. I was on the phone with my sister about this on the phone basically venting. I'm not gonna go over the entire conversation, but the one comment that made me upset was when she said if he doesn't learn how to accept no while he's young, he'll eventually grow up making women's lives hell because he can't handle no.

I love my sister, but is this not a major reach? He's just a 4 year old boy acting like a typical toddler whenever they get told no. Yes, it's annoying but I think comparing my son to grown men who think they're entitled to women is taking it way too far.

I didn't argue with her over it or anything, but I did nicely tell her that I don't think that's exactly comparable because one is greatly worse than the other. She says it will likely turn into that. I didn't start anything, but I was pissed that she made that comparison about my son for acting like an annoying 4 year old.

Yes, I did want to vent a little about how he has been getting on my nerves because that day I had called her, it was after I had got back from the grocery store with him. However, he's still a good kid and I love him a lot. I understand her saying I have to teach him to accept no, but it didn't need to go beyond that. AIW?

My (24M) parents' (61F and 58M) 25th wedding anniversary is next month. My brother (11M) is low functioning autistic and has to be home schooled. For their anniversary, my parents have decided to go to Italy as they were originally supposed to go there for their honeymoon but it had to be cancelled due to unforseen circumstances. I haven't lived at home with my parents for almost 3 years now as I moved in with my girlfriend. They are asking me to take care of my brother for the entire week that they will be away because they saved up all their money for this vacation and can't afford a sitter because it's expensive to get sitters for special needs kids. They say that they have prepared work that he can do and they need me to make sure he gets it done and to cook his food for him everyday. I know it sounds selfish, but I feel this is completely unfair on me. I am just starting to get successful with my day trading and having to watch my brother all day for a week will distract me and potentially lose me a lot of money. I also feel like this will hurt my relationship with my girlfriend, as she hates kids and always talks about how my brother is "creepy" and I feel that making her spend time with him will make her start to resent me. I also feel like this is them testing the waters to see if they can dump him on me in a few years so they can retire. I never asked to have a special needs brother and I know it's not his fault and he needs someone to look after him but I don't think I should be forced to do it.

AITAH?

EDIT: I feel I haven't given all the context in the main post so I'll link some of my comments that explain some important things further

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1tg8mxf/comment/omeu4m0/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1tg8mxf/comment/omf46o6/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

My bf \[31 M\] and I \[29 F\] were on a weekend trip with his fam and we were all drinking. We have been together for 9 years.

tl/dr

At a party, I hear my bf talking to his brother, saying some guy’s (whom we know) mom is “kinda hot”. I got upset when I heard that and basically was like um why would you say that? She’s literally standing 5 feet from us. I was emotional about it and started crying at this party. I wanted to show him what it felt like so I pointed out a random guy at the party and said “he’s kinda hot”. My bf got really upset and was raising his voice at me at this party saying it’s different because he called a married mother hot and I called a boy close to our age hot. I didn’t really see it as much of a difference. His siblings all heard us and I felt really embarrassed.

I hadn't heard from my friend in about a month, so I sent over a text just checking in. I got a response in the middle of the night from their "family member" saying that they had passed the day after I last spoke with them.

I, of course, was torn to bits. I cried and kept reading the message over and over just in denial of it all. However, as I kept reading I realized that the family member texted exactly the same way they did. I also got the text around the same time they usually text me as they work overnights. Then I realized that I had texted them from their work phone that no one should have access to due to the security of their job, like if they did pass, the phone should've been turned in by now.

I looked for obituaries, nothing at all, looked for death certificates, nothing again. I sent over my condolences and asked if there was a service for them, they told me they did and where my friend was "buried". Once again, normal time for them to text due to their schedule, not for normal people with a regular 9-5. I called another friend to vent because I was just in a bad frame of mind, I had recently lost a family member earlier this year so things were just piling up. He called the cemetery for me and they said they had no one under their name that was buried there.

I'm crushed. We didn't have any issues the last time we spoke and if they didn't want to be friends anymore I would've much appreciated that instead of thinking this. I feel like I overreacted and perhaps I'm just a deep state of denial, but deep down I just feel like they're not dead. AIO?

Edit:

I wanted to clear up some common questions. Yes, they were an online friend, but we met once and called a few times so I know at least they're real lol.

We've known each other for about a year now, we used to talk everyday, but due to stress and personal issues they dwindled every so often.

No, I don't know any of their family members personally, but I know of a specific few, only a couple by name.

I will see about calling their work, but I don't believe its a job that I can call up and ask for them. I will if I can.

We have a power recline sofa, and one side has a loose connection. We know where the issue is, and twisting to get into my seat is starting to cause sciatic pain.

Most of the furniture repair shops on google seem to specialize in restoration, so any recommendations are greatly appreciated! TIA!

I (29F) work at a restaurant with this guy we can call him “Mark” (idk,M). A few weeks ago he told everyone he was planning to propose to his girlfriend during a concert they were going to, and he kept hyping it up nonstop.The problem is that he scheduled himself to work that same night and apparently forgot to request it off. A few days beforehand he started begging people to switch with him. Nobody wanted to because it was a Saturday night shift.He eventually asked me because I technically wasn’t scheduled that day. I had a pretty full week, (personal stuff) and i didn't really feel like it so i told him i can't cover it. He kept asking and was asking me what plans i have but i didn't (if your wondering why he didn't ask the others one of them was flying and the other one had something specific i don't remember. So Mark had to work. Apparently he tried to rush to the concert after his shift, but by the time he got there the moment he planned was ruined because the band had already played their big final song. He ended up proposing afterward in the parking lot and according to him it “wasn’t special anymore.” After he was a little psasive agressive to me and complained a little that i ruined it. But I feel like forgetting to request off for your own proposal is not my responsibility.

AITA?