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My partner 30M has a diagnosed learning disability, he literally doesn’t process verbal information fast enough. I try to keep up but it gets exhausting when I repeat things twice and he won’t even look up from his phone. Everyone keeps telling me how much of a good guy he is which is frustrating because I know what I deal with every day and I am also a good person. Idk why this triggers me so much but it does. We are on a trip for a friends wedding, 15 minutes before we had to leave for the ceremony, he realized he forgot to bring a bow tie to the black tie wedding. We arrived late to the church after the bride walked the aisle because he made the uber drive around MULTIPLE STORES trying to find a bow tie. And of course everyone we meet along the way is always like “poor guy, it happens to anyone” and I’m just the hateful b.

The next day we were taking another flight to go visit my family, he forgot that he had medicine in the hotel fridge and didn’t remember until we were at the airport, so we had to ask the taxi driver to drive back to the hotel and pay double the fair of course. When we got to our destination he complained about the car reservation I made because I selected an automatic car in case I wanted or needed to drive and I didn’t want to change it to manual.

Yesterday during a tour he forgot his charger at a restaurant far from where we are staying and wanted to make the tour guide take us back to get it. Today, we are driving to another city and we have to go out of our way to back to get the effing charger.

Instance number four and why I’m writing this post because it was my final straw. I have taken care of everything in this trip, flights, stays, tours, restaurants etc. All except transportation to get to the next city because we weren’t sure if we were going to take a bus, train or road trip. I’m tired and I asked him to make a car rental reservation so he could go get the car and I could sleep in a little bit. Well… he did the reservation, but he did it under my name because supposedly “I already had an account” so when he got there to pick up the car this morning they of course told him I needed to be there because it was under my name, and of course, I lost it.

This has all transpired within the course of a week and a half, leaving him over this feels a bit sudden, but at the same time there’s a behavioral pattern that has been established since before this trip. Something that it’s supposed to be fun and relaxing has been unnecessarily stressful.

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This happened yesterday. I was standing naked in a bathtub getting ready for my bath (was waiting for the water to start running warm). My girlfriend of 6-7 years was brushing her hair with a wooden brush.

I wasn't paying attention, looking mostly at bathtub faucet (water was oddly long running cold) when she smacked my butt with the brush. Mind you, it was a big, wooden, thick and flat brush which could be considered a spanking paddle.

I raised my voiced saying "what are you doing?!" alongside raising my hand in the air. It hurt like hell. I even told her the day earlier (when she smacked me first time through my pants) not to do it as it hurts.

She apologized immediately. I wasn't mad after a minute, we all do some stuff without thinking, makes mistakes, it might take time to stop doing something etc. After few minutes I saw she was down. I asked what's wrong, she replied that I scared her because she thought I would hit her.

Then she asked my if I plan to apologize to her (for raising my hand). A small argument broke out which ended with me apologizing. I tried to explain that it was just a unconditioned reaction, my body got in defensive position waiting for me to process what's happening. I didn't hit her, I never did nor did I hit anyone in my adult life. She claimed I shouldn't have raise hand and I need to apologize. She then demanded that I swear I never do it again.

I felt like this whole situation was turned to made me feel guilty for it. AIO that I shouldn't need to apologize here?

My husband and I own two homes, we have a beach house a few hours away. My son usually takes his children there over the summer and stays for the summer, and they enjoy their summer vacation there.

This year my daughter is getting married at the end of June, she wanted to spend her honeymoon at this beach house. It would be more of convenient vacation money wise. She had asked my husband and I, and we of course agreed. I told my son the next time I spoke to him, and he got upset and said that I know his family goes there every summer. I told him it’d only be for a week, and they could come after or before. He said that is cutting their time short, and that the kids only get two months off for summer vacation. I explained more of the situation, and he said she could honeymoon anywhere and if they couldn’t afford it they should have thought about that before having a big wedding.

We got into a small argument because he says that’s their tradition and that we know they do it every single year and how much the kids like it and we’re going to be disappointed. He then said the least we could have done was speak to him before hand since summer is right around the corner and that had been their plan. AITA

My husband (27m) graduates from the US Air Force boot camp (it’s about 2 months long). Before he left, he told me he didn’t want me there at graduation. I (21f) was really upset about it, especially since this is a huge thing and I wanted to be there to tap him out. Throughout our relationship he’s made decisions without really involving me, including joining the military. I told him before he left that if he changed his mind, to let me know because I’d really love to come. He also told me not to take it personally because he wouldn’t want his mom there either, but she lives in another country so she wouldn’t be able to anyway.

Since they barely get phone access during boot camp, most communication has to be through letters. I got my first mail from him with his printed graduation information, and on the back he wrote “I love you.” I know this part is on me, but I took that as him changing his mind about me coming, and I got excited and bought plane tickets. I admit I should have confirmed it first before spending the money, but I genuinely thought things had changed. I sent him a letter telling him how excited I was to see him and celebrate.

He recently got access to text briefly and told me he still does not want me to come and that I need to figure it out with the plane tickets. The tickets are nonrefundable, but I can change the dates. Hundreds of families and spouses attend the 2 day graduation to celebrate their airman, and I can’t understand why he doesn’t want me there. I’ve asked him for a reason, but he won’t really give me one.

AIO for being upset about this and what should I do? I feel stuck and about to crash out.

Edit: The mail I received was a printed out invitation with graduation information “It is my distinct honor to welcome you to our extended family, and l am pleased to invite you to celebrate this milestone. Graduation events are scheduled for…” along with him writing on the back “love you bighead” and the addresses on the envelope itself. I thought he wouldn’t have mailed it if he still didn’t want me coming, but comments are telling me he may have been forced to mail it (but why not write don’t come still or something?) especially since he knew just how badly I wanted to go. I do have my dependent ID, on tricare, his TRS/FLT numbers, and pics of him on lackland photos website for his specific squadron. He’s in the guard. We are legally married and don’t have kids.

I will update this at the end of next month after graduation. Will keep editing if I feel there are more questions needing to be answered.

For context, the bride is already not a favorite person of mine, so this is definitely a somewhat biased account of this wedding. I got married last year and this bride's wedding is in a few weeks. She already made it clear she didn't like me when I'd met her the few previous times and through the grapevine, for reasons unbeknownst to me. Then, she shows up in a white dress, white shoes, white shawl and white purse to my wedding (the dress was white with a print so not solid but still). And I am NOT one to be a huge bridezilla about the no white dresses/close to white dresses (I'd never do it at someone else's wedding but wasn't planning to make a fuss if it happened at mine), but knowing this girl already hates me and did this I knew it was 100% intentional.

Now, we're invited back to her wedding (my husband/the groom remain friends). I've been looking at their registry the past few months and it has only had luxury-priced items on it. They have a cash fund on their wedding site as well as two external registries. The least expensive item they had available was a $150 simon pearce piece, the most expensive being $3000 furniture pieces.

I don't think it's a crime to put expensive items on your registry (I probably wouldn't have done the furniture), but not having any kind of range of affordable items for all of your guests is crass IMO. And to ask for a cash fund on top of all of those items is odd. I assume they have some wealthy guests coming who can afford to buy them those kinds of things, but genuinely not sure what I'm going to get this tw*t lol. Probably an envelope of a modest amount of cash it is.

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/ThatOneCloneTrooper

For months I was confused why I kept finding long hairs in my house. Then I saw my neighbour coming out of my house.

Originally posted to r/creepyencounters

Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU

TRIGGER WARNING: >!Stalking, invasion of privacy, breaking and entry!<

MOOD SPOILER: >!Extremely creepy!<

Original Post  May 6, 2026

I'm a man in my 20s that lives alone on the very top floor of an apartment block. I've had short hair for the last 10 years of my life. The longest hair on my head is maybe an inch long if that even. However, across my house I kept finding long hairs on the floor. Like, long brunette hairs, at least 5-6 inches. Sometimes longer. And they would be everywhere. Bathroom floor, in the shower, in my cupboard, in my kitchen, on old clothes, living room floor and sofas etc etc.

I've been single since November and clean often enough that I'm certain it's not my ex-girlfriends' hairs. Plus the colour doesn't match anyway, she had solid black hair, these are more a light brunette. Plus, finding them in the places like the shower? Where running water is hitting all the sides 5+ times a week?

Anyway, I waved it off as "well I work with a lot of people and use the gym and bus sometimes so naturally hairs are going to stick to my clothes"...

Well. One day (this past April) I finished my early am gym session and got the call that I didn't have to go work that day, so naturally I start to walk home all happy that I have the day to myself. I'm on the 5th floor (the upper most floor) of the building and the apartment is in such a way that there is only 1 apartment per floor. I start to hustle up the stairs and don't use the elevator since I'm sweaty from the gym anyway.

JUST as I whip a right to go up the last set of stairs from the 4th floor to the 5th floor I see my neighbour's (on the 3rd floor) daughter coming down the stairs. We lock eye-contact. We've never spoken before, mostly because we've never had a reason to but also because out of respect I didn't want to make her uncomfortable since she's 19-21ish and I'm slightly older. The most interaction we've had is that I've spoken to her mother and father before when bumping into each other on the stairs.

I gave a confused "hello?" - at this point I'm thinking that she maybe went to knock on my door to ask for something? A cup of sugar maybe I don't know? I was expecting her to reply with something like "oh hi, do you have any xyz"...

Nope. She gave a silent "hey" and brushed right past me. And only then when the smell of my own shampoo hit me did I notice her hair was wet. Like. Fresh out the shower a minute ago wet.

Now I'm not saying she showered in my house. Or that I have a stalker that's been living in my house while I've been at work. She very easily could have just been there to ask for something. And most generic brand shampoos smell the same.

But don't the pieces all fit a bit too well? Her hair colour matches the hairs I would find around my apartment. And like I said before, they were EVERYWHERE. In my bed to in my sock draws.

And if it is a case of me having a stalker? How did she know I came home early enough to bolt out the shower in time? Our apartment doesn't have cameras, its an older building from before 2000. And why would she be stalking me? For how long has she been doing this? We've never dated, never had a proper conversation, I maybe saw her 20 times in the past 2 years given that I work and she (presumably) studies or works too.

As all these thoughts are buzzing through my head and I'm standing outside my door for a solid 2 minutes grappling with what just happened. I go to turn the key to my door and it opens without me having to unlock it. And I know for a fact I always double lock my door. It's the type with a lock near waist level and a 2nd more secure lock with a different key around shoulder level.

I drop my bag, throw off my shoes and run to the shower. And yep. It's wet. I hadn't showered since yesterday morning.

I'm a confrontational person, not that I go looking for fights but I'll definitely pursue an answer if something is bugging me. So back down the stairs to the 3rd floor I went, knocked on the door of my apparent stalker and her family. She opens the door but with the chain still on. I see half of her face from behind the door.

"Yes?" - "Umm can I help? Were you at my door or inside? I don't want to make this a police thing now but you came down the stairs and I know you were inside?" - "I just had to get something, it won't happen again.. ok bye see you"

Door closed.

This happened last month, I've been cleaning my house every weekend closely now and got the locks changed and put a motion sensor camera above my door. It only films and triggers on the steps coming up to my door so the 4th apartment still have their privacy.

So far so good, I don't think she's been inside since. But looking back, I think she'd been living in or going in or whatever in to my apartment since January because that's my earliest memory of finding hairs. She never took anything of value like my laptop or the few watches I have. Seemingly she just showered and ate some of my food and laid in my bed?

I do now also always take the elevator and avoid the 3rd floor like the plague.

EDIT: I'm not really worried about my safety because 1. I'm 200lb and do a lot of fighting training and 2. The new camera has never gone off once since installed other than myself triggering it when I'm home. Finally 3. I told the old retired husband and wife on the 4th floor that I suspected a robber was trying to break into my apartment last month (I didn't want to start spreading rumours and gossip) and asked them to keep an ear out when I'm at work. I feel fine and safe. Just creeped out. Like my personal space had been violated.

EDIT 2: Someone DMed me to check my coats and bags for airtags as to how maybe she knew I was coming home early that day. I don't have a lot of stuff so I think I would have 100% found it by now given how often I clean but I'll defo do another sweep of my stuff.

Update  May 12, 2026

(Re-upload - Mod said first post broke rule 6 so I've taken a bunch of details out)

Hi all, update following my last post a week back about me catching neighbour coming out of my apartment having used my shower.

My cousin’s husband is a police officer so I went to him directly about filing a report. He came over to my apartment first as I gave him a visual break down of what happened on the stairs and changes odd things I’d noticed in my apartment since January. Primarily just hairs everywhere and missing food. And how my door was unlocked that day. Though I did a thorough clean following the event on the stairs my police friend was able to still find some hairs and so he bagged those up.

I gave him my statement in detail and some dates best I could, when I remember finding the first hair; when I first noticed food going missing etc.

Also he advised me not to talk to the family not even with a friend to avoid any confusion or get lawyers involved or muddy the waters with accusations.

With all that done he left and came back 2-3 days later. He and his partner went to talk to the family on Sunday because they knew both parents would likely be home then. Long story short she confessed to everything immediately and broke down into tears and apologised once my police friend brought up how 5 months of entering someone’s house even with keys is still very much an offence and she could easily end up with a sentence of some should I pursue it. And that that sentence could very easily involve the inside of a jail cell irregardless of if she stole something or not. (I don’t know how true this is, it might have just been my friend and his partner pressing and exaggerating for a confession but it worked).

They talked for an hour with the parents and her all in the same room to get answers from her. Then the same day he came up to mine with his partner and they gave me the breakdown.

Answers to commonly asked questions below:

⁃ how did she get in/have her own keys? The locks on our doors are the type that use a code on the lock barrel that only the manufacturer or partnered/approved locksmiths have access to. She knew this because her parents got the locks changed when they first moved in. And in fact she used the same locksmith from all the way back then.

The locksmith presumably remembered the family and apartment but just didn’t pay attention to it being the 5th floor this time instead of her own 3rd floor. So he came over and took the barrel out, saw the code, went and made a set of keys and done. I was none the wiser. Both my locks on my door are different brands but presumably they operate in the same way so having 2 locks made no difference.

⁃ what was she doing in my apartment? Anyone who said she just needed space, you were right. She has 2 younger step-siblings and her mother is a tutor (not a teacher as I presumed previously, she tutors at home) so at any given point there’s always some kids around the house. She would say to her parents she was going out to study or work or a girl friends house and use my house as a hotel while she studied or relaxed. The reason she used mine was partly because she knew it would be empty but also because my schedule was predictable. As I work an average 9-5 like everyone else but leave the house at 6-6:30 to get gym done too that essentially gave her the house from 6 to 5.

⁃ How long? My guess was right. It started in January, once she figured I’d broken up with my gf at the time around November. My gf would stay at mine when I went to work and back sometimes so yea that would have been an interesting situation if they had crossed paths.

⁃ So then how did she knew I was coming home early that day? And that I wasn’t going to work straight after gym like usual and so she bolted out the shower? Or on the days I didn’t go gym how did she know not to come in? Two fold. Firstly I go to a commercial gym in my country and so they have an app. Irregardless of if you’re a member or not, one of the things the app lets you see is how many people are in each branch so you can see how full it is. All you have to do is download it and scan the QR code at the entrance by the turnstiles to add it to the “my gyms” tab. It literally shows you like “Branch No. 21 (Address) - 9/50 - 18% full”, she would refresh the app in the morning and if it went up by 1 around 6-6:30am and she heard me go downstairs or use the elevator (not hard when it’s 6am and the apartment is otherwise silent) then she would know the house is empty.

Now for the creepiest most messed up bit of it all. She had put an AirTag on my car. She insisted that she had only put it recently and initially just presumably gambled that I wouldn’t be home sooner than expected (or maybe she just put an ear to the door), but then one thing lead to another and yea. (I don’t know how much I believe this, again this could be an attempt to not look so guilty)

That day when we clashed she refreshed the app and saw I left the gym, but then my car didn’t move, she connected the dots and tried to leave asap. When she heard me coming up the stairs she didn’t have time to lock up and so we met on the stairs with my door remaining closed but not locked. (Extra detail, the AirTag was stuck to under my car).

⁃ The using my shower? She claims she didn’t do it always just on hot days or days she couldn’t at home. I can’t deny or confirm this, like I said previously being a gym goer id shower 5+ times a week so.

⁃ How did her parents never notice? Well the dad leaves early for work, 5am ish since his bus route starts around 6. The mom is up around 6-7. But since she’s preparing for her own students for the day + her own kids to send to school she wasn’t too bothered what her eldest 20 year old daughter was doing really. She’d just say “I’m going to the college library” or “I’m going to my girlfriend’s” and that was good enough.

⁃ Did she have a thing for me like a crush? My police friend didn’t really say anything about this presumably he never asked since it’s not as important as other details or it never came back. It makes little difference.

⁃ How’s my standings with the family right now? The mum and dad both apologised to me. The mum via text and the dad in person at my door, he offered to pay for the camera I installed as his daughter was the direct cause of it but it was cheap off of amazon so I said no it’s fine. We had a 10-15 minute conversation and he was very apologetic and explained his daughter had always been extremely quiet and well behaved so something like this would never have crossed his mind in a million years.

He added that his daughter’s never had a boyfriend (at least that he knows of) and only has a few friends so her social interaction skills aren’t necessarily top notch and that even when guests would come she’d hide away in the spare room. So to the few people who predicted that maybe Covid and lockdown lead to her not having good social interaction skills. You were half right. He again offered me money for my troubles like missing food, new locks and cleaning etc but I felt bad enough already I declined.

He did also ask if I would press charges and I again said no. More on that below. He said he will send his daughter to apologise to me in person too when the situation has calmed down as she’s apparently very very tense and upset and hasn’t left her room in days.

⁃ Am I going to press charges? No. I’m still not happy about the situation ESPECIALLY the f**ing AirTag on my car, but the family is apologetic as well as the culprit herself and honestly no one is going to gain anything from this. I would like an apology though. (For anyone that cares about the extra detail, she got the AirTag as a gift a while back from her parents because she kept losing her stuff)

⁃ Have I seen her since? No, she won’t apparently leave her room and is terrified that I’ll press charges, though presumably her family’s told her I said I won’t.

⁃ How do I currently feel? Well I was never especially worried or nervous just really really creeped out about the whole situation. It felt like I’d been a parasite host and somehow never noticed until then. I currently still feel a little angry and a small part of me is thinking to seek “revenge” but any “revenge” I seek like money or slander is truthfully going to impact the parents more than her.

- Do I feel bad for her? Truthfully? No. She’s not 10. She’s 20 or something and educated so yea you should be remorseful, feel guilty and scared. Get over that hump and we’ll talk. Plus there’s loads of spaces for young adults like public libraries and her college spaces. By no means was my house the only viable option.

⁃ Finally. Did she use my bed? Or wear my clothes? Believe it or not. Yes. She did.

⁃ Any advice I can give? Check your wifi devices. If I had checked that I would have noticed her phone and laptop all the way back when. Obviously my wifi modem is in my house and so she helped herself to that. Again it’s one of those things. How often does one check their wifi devices. Truthfully, with all my family visiting me and their devices I probably wouldn’t have noticed 1 extra phone amongst the existing 10+ but I 100% WOULD have noticed the 1 extra laptop. So let that be a lesson to all. And yes I have removed her devices from the list and changed my password.

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So me (28M) and my girlfriend (28F) have been together for 3 years now and i recently brought up the marriage and kids talk. My reason is pretty simple, i want to be fit and active while my kids are growing up. Like if we have kids at 30 ill be 48 when they turn 18 which still feels decent enough to actually be involved and active in their lives. So i wanted to start planning ahead.

She said she also wants to get married and have kids but she had one condition. She wants to get married around the same time as her best friend. Not the same event necessarily just the same season or timeframe. Honestly i found it cute at first.

Here's where it gets complicated. I actually know her best friend personally and she is genuinely terrible at relationships, never lasted more than 6 months with anyone and is currently single. But the bigger issue is her best friend doesn't even want to get married. So my girlfriend's whole plan is to first convince her that she wants marriage, then find her a guy, then hope that guy proposes, then coordinate weddings.

I told her i don't mind waiting but i'm not comfortable with our future basically being in someone else's hands. She got upset saying i don't respect the friendship. So i said fine, 2 years, if things fall into place great but i can't wait forever with no end in sight. That got her even more riled up.

AITA for putting a timeframe on this?

EDIT: so after reading through all the comments i decided to reach out to her best friend and told her everything. and honestly her friend found the whole thing just as ridiculous as you guys did and immediately went and talked to my girlfriend trying to knock some sense into her. now my girlfriend is mad at both of us lmaooo. but hey at least her friend and i are on the same page. will update if anything changes.

EDIT 2: Did not expect this to blow up like this so here is a quick update. GF is currently giving me the silent treatment. But the wildest part? Her best friend texted me again apologizing for the collateral damage. She said she explicitly told my GF to drop the ridiculous condition. Instead of listening, my GF lost it on her and accused her of “betraying their friendship”, "not supporting her dream" and “choosing a guy over our friendship.” So now the two of them are fighting. After reading all your comments about codependency and projecting the red flags are glaring. Im taking a few days of space to seriously re evaluate this relationship. I dont think this is just about a wedding anymore. Will update if anything changes.

EDIT 3: Its been a few hours since the last update. I had a long talk with my GF earlier. She is still very upset and keeps saying that I don’t understand how important her friendship is and that I’m forcing her to choose. The best friend also messaged me again saying she is done trying to explain and is taking a step back from my GF for now. Honestly after everything that’s happened in the last 2 days I think I need more than just a few days of space. This whole situation has made me question a lot of things about our future. I will give one final update in a day or two after I clear my head.

EDIT 4: The situation is finally over. this post was getting way too long to keep updating with all the edits, so i posted the final conclusion in a new thread. you can read it here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/nsD5Fi3Ap9

I(18f) am in a conundrum. I'm a college student who has recently changed my career path, so I'm unsure of what to do next. Sorry for formatting, I'm on my phone.

I live in the house with my mom, 38, stepdad, 40 (technically, their longtime boyfriend, but they call each other wife and husband), and my younger sisters, 3, 5, and 7 years old.

Tonight I ended up doing my assigned chore, which is cleaning the kitchen, later than usual. Typically, I'd do said chore about 9:30 on days I'm not at work. The reason why I didn't today, because I rubbed lotion in my skin, which had melatonin in the lotion (I'd forgotten it did). This was after I'd help my mom get my sisters dressed after their bath.

I've consistently had problems with my sleeping pattern but I've gotten better over time. Sometimes, it gets out of whack, especially since I'm out of classes for now.

My stepdad, Greg (fake name) reprimanded me for doing it so late even after I told him I fell asleep accidentally. He basically told me to do my chore by 8pm and no later. He has specifically told me many times. I don't have a problem with this.

My problem in this specific situation is that he never said anything in the past few months when I would clean at my usual time.

But that's not why I want to move out. I feel like it's the audacity to tell me how to do my own chore when several times my mom had to remind him or he just doesn't check the trash can regularly, we have a relative nice sized trash can that fills up fast. In fact, when I did go to clean the kitchen, the trash wasn't even taken out and he's been here since 9pm from work (he went to work at 2pm).

Also, I feel a little resentment about having to pay rent in a few months even though I only just turned 18 not even a year ago. I don't have a problem with paying my way, I often pay for things without being asked and I don't even ask for money to watch my sisters often, even if I have plans.

The reason I feel resentment, is that when my older cousin, who wasn't going to school, bringing random girls into my mom's house and barely working, was living here for 1.5 years, and didn't pay rent until the last 6 months of his stay. But I have to even though I'm barely an adult, I work, and I go to school full-time, most of the year.

I just feel like it's unfair that I have to pay rent when he didn't have to for a long time. Also, Greg convinced my mom to let my cousin stay even when she wanted to kick him out. I, in turn, don't do any of this. I still inform my mom, most of the time when I go, when I have people over, even though Greg tries to tell me that I don't have to. I'm not doing that though, I respect my mother enough to tell her who's going in or to her house.

Sometimes it feels like he wants me to be treated as older than I actually am. For example, on Easter, my mom got me a mini basket of goodies (soap, deodorant, candy, Gatorade and other non expensive stuff, which I appreciated). He told me that once I turn 19, I shouldn't expect to get anything from them, my mom gave him side eye. He doubled down even when I told him for years I didn't really get gifts for my birthdays or Christmas consistently.

The reason why my mom wants me to pay rent is a mixture of maybe his influence and definitely because she's been the main breadwinner for years while he often would do nothing.

Until last year, he didn't have a stable job. A few times, it wasn't his fault but often he would quit the job because of a minor inconvenience or his wish to be an unsuccessful street pharmacist. This caused my mom to overwork herself to not only pay for the bills but majority of the expenses in general. She's landed in the hospital a few times for overworking herself.

When he does have a job for a few months, he didn't contribute to the bills (he does now but he didn't really used to), nor did he contribute to the chores, or sometimes the kids, early on. Hence why my mom finally snapped and said that we, not just me, help her pay bills. This is not everything that has happened in the last 8 years.

Also, I help pay my phone bill, mom and I are on the same plan and I contribute regularly to gas and other bills when asked even before I was an adult. Meanwhile, they'd often have arguments about his lack of a job and non contribution to the household.

This is not my only problem with him. I love my mom but I just feel like it's not going to work long-term now that I'm an adult. So, WIBTA?

I have a friend of many years, who is a bit flaky and permanently skint, she is married, multiple children, and between her and her husband they work 25 hours a week, with a mortgage, bills, pets, kids, things are often tight for them. We only have one child and both work full time, so finances are often a little easier for us, though a lot gets tied up in investment, and we all do like to shop and holiday. I am aware of their financial discrepancy between us and it hasn’t ever been an issue, we go to free activities, look for discounts etc, or I’ll pick the bill up, let’s go away with the kids for the weekend, you tell me which weekend you are free, I’ll book and pay, you drive. It worked well. Recently it’s taken a turn though, in the last couple of weeks for various emergencies she’s ’borrowed’ 1k from me, most of which to avoid awkwardness and complications, I said not to worry about and see as a gift. This culminated with a request for a smaller amount of money $50 to replace one of the kids shoes, no worries, I got you, get that baby them shoes. For the next night her husband to invite mine out drinking because she’d given him $50 …. That was for the babies shoes … I went into a rage, and pointed out that was my money and was for the shoes, and realised, I had been completely taken advantage of, I told the husband, he needed to get a job and stop borrowing all the time, turns out he didn’t know I’d been financially helping out,now they are arguing and fighting, and I feel it’s my fault. I could have stayed quiet, then again, when I hear someone at the door, it makes me feel nauseous, because i automatically think it’s them asking for more. It is amplified by the fact I do have some memory issues, and I feel taken advantage of. So AITAH, should I have just stayed quiet.

I am not a regular reddit user, so forgive me if I'm in the wrong place. Here I go.

I(35f) have a daughter(16f Autistic+OCD) who prefers to dress rather conservatively. She loves wearing frilly, colorful skirts and dresses with multiple layers. As a seamstress, I enjoy making these clothes for her because they facilitate my hobby of sewing and make her feel beautiful and confident. My mother, however, has shown concern that my daughters lack of interest in displaying her womanly features (cleavage, etc.) is a sign of psychological instability. She worries that my daughter's interest in frilly dresses is a symptom of her desire to cling to childhood. She even suggested that my daughter is severely mentally unwell. My daughter is an excellent student in school and is expected to get her learners permit soon. She even wants to get a summer job. I don't know where this concern about infantilization is coming from. I may be the crazy person here, but I don't see anything wrong with letting my 16 yr old break from modern fashion norms and be confident in herself. I just don't see how making her dress like everyone else at the expense of her self-esteem would be better for her mental health. She's never been bullied for her dress. She actually regularly receives compliments. Am I missing something?

I (34,M) and my gf (29,F) have been dating for 6months and have been planning to attend my cousin’s wedding in June. We will be flying from Detroit to D.C. I booked the itinerary in April.
Earlier today (May), she discovered that she has warrants from over the past few years (says she doesn’t remember the charges). I expressed concern that she wouldn’t be able to board the flight with those warrants in place.
She expressed that she would get the warrants taken care of before the trip in a month. She then asked if I would continue to board the flight if she were to be arrested at the airport.
I responded that I would continue to board the flight as it is her responsibility as an adult to have things in place & and we are not a married couple.
Am I wrong?