u/truenighog

saw a repost from a tattoo artist i follow that made me go 😬😬 (yes, he has a dog but I thought he was normal about it since majority of his post are just his work)

the post asked the hypothetical question of “Would you hit a child if it meant your dog could live forever?” ofc because it’s a dog Instagram account there was little hesitation from everyone to agree. But the comments… look I know instagram comments rival the evilness of some of the worst on twitter but just Christ, some of these answers were very unnecessary. A simple yes, would have sufficed but no we got… (yes, these are some of the actual comments)

“I would run through a daycare like Connor Mcgergor“ (Interesting choice for an example.)

“Not me thinking you meant with my car and sitting here seriously considering it“

“Line them up, l'm doing it for all the dogs“

“I'd volunteer my child if I had one”

“Do disabled children count? If so, yes.”

“Ill hit 3 even if I only need one”

“Oh was it not with my car???“

“Get me a sledgehammer.“

“Point me to the kid. Hope he deserves it. Lol”

among many others. And look, I get dogs are dear to their owners and kids can be very annoying but a dog cannot be that dear that you are willing to go the extreme and hit a child with your car for your dog. (that’s not even getting into the repercussions, you want me to believe you’ll go to jail for this dog?? or Possibly into debt for this because of the legal fees for this dog??) Im sorry that’s just insane ? like i know this is ‘hypothetical’ but why would you admit any of this????

But this made me think, do some owners only like dogs as much as they do because they don’t talk? (minus the companionship aspect, being bred to serve + please and it’s an animal) They make a ton of noises yes, but they’ll never talk back to you or say their actual thoughts about you. If they were able to say words and talk like people, I wonder would their owners like them less (most owners would probably be in for a rude awakening.)

My son from previous marriage is 13 years old. I have been married to my husband for 5 years and we have a newborn.

My son said that my husband slapped him and I kinda freaked out. I confronted him and he was confused(atleast from his expression). He denied it vehemently and i kinda was not hearing it. He walked away from me.

After i calmed down after , I talked to him and he said that he didn't hit him and he has no obligation to prove anything. So if i want to be mad, be mad in another room. I did leave.

At night, when I joined him in the bed, he said he wants a divorce. He said that my son lied and he doesn't care why he lied. Whether he is jealous of him or want me for himself, he is not interested in finding out. He doesn't wanna deal with it and he doesn't want to be accused of something he didn't do. So he is out.

Here is the thing, I talked to my son in detail and he is being evasive, defensive and I am seriously doubting him but I do have the obligation to protect him..

Did i destroyed my marriage for nothing? What should I do? How do I know the truth. If my son lied than I need to deal with him and I am gonna be talking to him again and getting full story.

But my husband? He just left. I was not gonna leave him over just one slap without knowing the full story. He has never shown aggression towards him or anyone. I would have tried other methods first. Is that bad? Am I a bad mom for it that i didn't jump to divorce straight away?

I have tried to talk to my husband but he basically said that he doesn't want to be painted as a bad person. It's not like he can prove his innocence. So he would rather not wait for another false accusation and just protect himself

Buckle up. This might get long and it's abridged because I can't remember all of it. TLDR on bottom.

Let's set this back to when I was in my freshman year in high school. It was me, my mom, and the new-ish acquired step dad. He was in the military. He finds out he has a spawn from an old relationship. She's 11 years younger than myself. I was already used to being an only child, so I wasn't thrilled.

Fast forward to when we go meet her. She's in West Virginia. Deep in the mountains where the banjos are playing and the further you went in, the amount of teeth per mile lessened. You can smell the love between the local siblings. Anyhow, we get to her house. It was a "quaint mountain shack" that had one bedroom and the kids...Yes kids...were sleeping in a "room" made of sheets in the hallway. This kid looks like the girl from that movie The Orphan. The adults were talking and I had to take a piss. On the way to the bathroom, I had a quick glance around. It was a mess. The bathroom was a mess (squat time). Bugs everywhere. Dirt, rust, grime everywhere. Big ass spider in the bathtub. Ain't no one used that tub, you could tell. I do my business and my mom is next. Gave her a heads up. Fast forward, kid is covered in cake icing. Just gross. To sum it up, he got custody.

So, yay dad saves kid. Everything is great right? Nah. I had bad vibes from this kid since day one and I told them I wanted nothing to do with her. I told them they'd regret it. (Foreshadowing) So, fast forward to a new town we move to because the high school there has the Ag classes I wanted to take. Kid is in primary school. I'm already driving somewhat with a limited license and am tasked to pick her up from her school in the afternoon. Ugh. Step dad is working more (both worked) due to him wanting to promote to the next rank. It's about this time where things start getting...fucky. We get reports that the kid is acting odd. Like, inappropriately touching boys and trying to get them to touch her up her skirt. Um, what?! This gets addressed via change in wardrobe (uniform looking pants and collared shirt), blocking her TV even more, and a few hard conversations with her. Step dad was involved as well. For now.

Few weeks pass and the manipulation starts. She knows how to play the system with the boo-hoo tears. This family was a spanking family. Not anything excessive. This policy got changed when it didn't work. Switched to corner time and groundings. Taking privileges away. Didn't work. One time, my mom had to run from the grocery store, leaving the groceries, because child was flirting with a grown ass man. I was already working, so I missed most of that. Enter therapy for her. They find out she was abused by the guy her mom was with. Ok, treatment was started asap. It was too late but they didn't know it yet. My mom would DJ karaoke for a friend of hers. They were at a get-together and once again, cold starts being inappropriate with another grown man. We know normal kids don't pull this crap and it's from her previous trauma.

Now I don't remember much from that point but I know she steals $200 from my mom's wallet, let's herself into my room to take pictures of herself with my camera (narcissism begins), and step dad is mostly consumed by online gaming because this behavior was getting to him and he shuts down. At some point in time, we meet step dad's white side of the family (he's half asian and dad was white). They meet the child and of course loved her. Remember these people. It gets worse. Back at home, child calls CPS on us because mom grounded her and she didn't get presents on her birthday because she was acting an ass. I was so terrified about being taken away, I looked up emancipation laws for minors. Nothing ended happening with that. Case closed.

So, skipping to about junior year or maybe senior year (pretty sure senior year), parents split. He moves child to family in PA. Step dad's father I think died beforehand. We stay at the house we've been in and he lets us keep it. Mom can't switch the loan to her name because it's the VA. But we're able to keep making payments. So that's why they kept in touch. We get updates on how is going up there. Child has gotten worse about her behavior and come to find out grand parents kept enabling her rather than discipline. I'm in my first year of college and I get a call from my mom that ex step dad is in prison. Wait, what?! Straight edge Sgt Motivated on prison?! Why. Kid accused him of being inappropriate with her while we were all living together. I could not believe it. There was no way. Her room was across from mine and the walls were paper thin. I could hear everything. Nothing from this story fit. I remember he got so tired of her shit that he became reclusive and stuck to his games on the computer. He hardly tried anymore. Come to find out, Christmas was cancelled for her because of her shit behavior and she wasn't too keen about that. So, false accusations were made. Grandparents sided with her. His new wife tried and tried for a retrial, and couldn't go up to a supreme court level because of money running out and they had a kid together. She's the one updating my mom now. Things got worse for him because it was election season for the DA in their state and this was a great opportunity to gain brownie points for the upcoming re-election by locking up a child molester. Here's the thing, the Marine Corps had evidence to support him but that got thrown out and we were not allowed to make testimonies in his behalf. Nothing could be done to help him. They were bent on convicting him. The child's testimony was false, you can tell a mile away. He ended up with 30 years or more. All because she didn't get the Christmas she wanted. My mom was telling me all this and I turned around and looked at her and told her I told you so. I told you to not get involved and to leave her ass where she was. Now, an innocent man is in prison and his career is gone because of the child he saved. I've never trusted kids since then. I will never trust them. I will always think of them as manipulative and evil. They may not be, but they have the potential and it's scary because everyone thinks they're sweet and innocent.

TLDR stepdad saves daughter from crap conditions. Daughter evolves into a manipulative monster that goes after grown men. She steals, lies, calls CPS on us. I get anxiety and traumatized at the thought of getting taken away. Find out bad shit happened to her in last family. Stepdad moves child to PA after splitting with my mom. Stepdad gets thrown in prison by his own daughter on false accusations of being inappropriate. Gets 30+ years in prison without a fair trial because the new DA was hoping to get reelected. All because she got grounded on Christmas. I knew this child was evil from the beginning but no one listened. Told my mom she should've listened. He was in his mid to late 30s.

I know that she can't be blamed for some of her behavior toward men. That's from her trauma. I'm blaming her for the manipulation and the other toxic behaviors she evolved because grandparents wouldn't discipline her. She got a decent person thrown in prison for no reason. I will never trust children because they can get away with so much shit it's scary. They know how to play the system. I hope karma gets her ass.