r/MenAreNotIntoWomen

I am talking to a 23 year old and he didn’t seem to care about the age gap , I asked him if he was uncomfortable by it because we met when he was 22 and I was 18 and he said no he doesn’t care

that was lowk the first red flag I saw

second red flag was when he would make jokes about other women after we decided we were exclusive and these other women would be my friends that he doesn’t know at all but i told him it made me uncomfortable and he saw how visibly upset I was,
ex; I told him I kissed a girl before and he said lets do a threesome, I said the girl was my friend and she was younger than me and Mexican and he said, “oooh Mexican??? bet”

he also tends to be very dry over text and call and his humor is def not like on par with mine 60% of the time but he is seriously a very sweet and nice guy and he has his moments where I feel like I’m wrong about second guessing this because he is overall not a bad guy, he’s just a man who has gone through a LOT of trauma and hardships.. but the jokes.. and the way he treats me sometimes is a bit too much
ex; he tends to be very bad at reassurance and it seems like he doesn’t care

we also don’t have a lot of things in common outside of very basic things, we don’t listen to the same music outside of Arabic & a handful of certain Tame Impala songs, we dont watch the same movies/shows and I feel like im thinking too much about it… but I can’t help but think that he is not the one for me even though I do have feelings for him, I just can’t seem to be 100% about them and idk how to go about it when it comes to telling him because I feel like after I see him in person it’s all good.

a little bit more background info none of my friends approve and no one knows I still talk to him
he is also the first person I’ve had sex with and I also havent dated anyone since I was like fifteen

he had an ex gf of about a year and a half and he lived with her and I think after I kept bringing it up is when I noticed he really lacks the ability to reassure, but he kept trying his best so I applauded that and told him I hope he keeps trying because I appreciate him attempting to be better rather than staying the same since I know he’s had past relationship trauma as well

we are not dating, but just “talking” it’s been about five months of this though and I don’t really want to be in a “talking stage” I don’t think that’s a real thing and I mentioned it and brought it up to him and I kept reinstating im ready

I made a very stupid mistake having sex with him despite us only being “exclusive but not dating” and now I feel really ridiculous and honestly like if I end things like I would just be making a bigger mistake

I had one of the most depressing conversations I’ll ever have with a man today: he basically said 2 things:

1. Men and woman cannot just be friends because the man - if given the opportunity- would have sex with all of their female friends (while I believe this to be the case in many circumstances, I don’t believe this to be the case in ALL circumstances)

2. (And most depressingly) that all men will cheat on their girlfriends and if they do not it’s either because they don’t have the opportunity (a girl hasn’t offered or they don’t get many girls in the first place) or they have had a long, hard and internal battle about it, but if they choose not to cheat they still want to and will still think about it.

The conversation made me so upset that this is peoples genuine thought process. And I guess I would just like to know whether this is a common consensus among men. While I don’t believe this to be the case, through examples of men in my life, I’m scared they are a minority among every other man… please let me know if there is some credibility behind this

WANIM users seem to define being straight as literally being drawn to the very physical being and appearance of that opposite gender they are supposedly attracted to.

What about yall?

Thinks leggings shouldn’t be worn unless strictly necessary lmao. I have never felt provoked by how someone was dressed 🤦

The title says everything. I will be honest with the answers if I have one. I am not looking for debates inly to help both genders understand each other.

All the people who have complained about how normalized the sexualization of women is are blind to how men's bodies have been objectified and no one says anything, it's so normalized that they sexualize men in entertainment aimed at men.

Media like the boys, marvel, or DC has been moralizing about how evil sexualizing women is while they constantly put shirtless scenes, or male nudity, but never do the opposite.

People would riot and protest if that scene where Thor got stripped naked happened to a women, but since male nudity is so normalized no one even bats an eye.

Or what about the people that make being obsessed with femboys their entire personality. That culture is so porn addicted.

No one says anything, society has normalized male nudity to the point that it is seen as very normal.

And some people have the audacity to say that the problem is the double standards, when that is just the symptom of the problem, if I'm a straight man and I want to read a comic book aimed at my demographic I want to see sexy women with beautiful curves, I don't want to see men being objectified, if I wanted to see that type of content I would read something aimed at women but I'm not a woman nor a gay man.

It's a bad thing because it shows comic books creators and mangakas have forgotten their target audience is straight men.

So I am 18 [F] my ex boyfriend told me what a guy thought about my roommate. So my roommate recently had alcohol with a few of her friends at their flat. When she came back she said how good those guys were and the boys were nice and her female friends were such good drinking partners.

A few weeks later my boyfriend and his friend were talking to the boys whose flat it was. Suddenly the topic of my roommate came and the boy was told that this was not the first time my roommate had alcohol . To which the guy said " Oh hume laga tha ki voh innocent hai agar pehle pata hota ki ye peeti hai toh fir ye toh pakka ch*dti" ( If we knew she had drunk previously she would've definitely been f*cked) EXCUSE ME!??

JUST BECAUSE SHE CHOOSE TO DRINK WITH YOU DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE THE PERMISSION TO GET PHYSICAL.

To this my ex boyfriend said " ladkiya vaise bhi peene ke baad khul jati hai" ( girls open up after drinking)BRO WHAT!???

Why do boys who hear such things from their friends and don't even call their friends out!? It's really sick what these young boys think of females

E.g Myron, Andrew Wilson, Tate. They all speak about women negatively and cite no sources, they speak from emotion and demean women constantly. Yet the women still respect them and speak kind words about them on the podcast. Why?