u/heathendottir

I (31f) "snapped" at my fiancé (38m) for reaching over me and taking food off my plate. He thinks he's entitled to the food since he bought it but even if i buy the food I would never do the that since I was taught that I should never take food off someone else's plate without permission. Now he's pissed at me and thinks I'm ungrateful and selfish. Like maybe I'm the asshole? I know I was hangry in the moment because I had not eaten all day. Now he's going to hold the moment over my head. Was I the asshole?

Hello! Long time listener here and this isnt my first write in. I'm just dropping this here via phone in my work truck because I just need to vent to non bias people.

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So I'm 31 and my now fiancé (37) proposed to me on new years. I also have someone who used to be a constant in my life who is a year or 2 younger than me who married before me and I was her maid of honor (I was her second choice because she had a temporary falling out with her then current bff). However, I did not ask her to be in my wedding. Why? I haven't spoken to her in a year despite wanting to.

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We were each other's ride or die. We got mat thing tattoos. I was there during her mother's cancer decline and death. I was there for her father-in-law's death. I was there when her rabbit died. She was there for me through 2 pet deaths and my grandmother's death. She was like a sister to me.

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The decline in the friendship started after my grandmother passed. My at the time boyfriend got us Broadway tickets to cheer me up. However the date of the musical ended up being the same day said friend planned her first house party since she had bought a house with her inheritance. She got upset with me wanting to go to the show over her party and put our friendship on the line if i didnt come to her party. I chose her party and when she asked why I wanted to go to the show so bad I told her the reason and she was like "you should have told me" when I did. My boyfriend was done with her then and there but I forgave her.

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Over the next year I noticed me slowly being left out in the friend group. It started with me being invited last minute then slowly went to me seeing pics on fb of the group hanging out without me. I was sad but oh well.

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Then came my 30th bday party. We recently brought in a mutual friend we had rescued from a bad domestic living situation. My partner and I were open to the idea of an open relationship and this friend had been a choice (we decided against her as a choice after living with her longer). So the 3 of us would flirt. My friend came to me worried my partner was cheating on me with the new roommate bc she was getting close to him. I had explained to her what we had considered in our relationship but it wasn't really of her business. She took that super personally and stone walled me for 2 weeks.

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Finally I got her to talk to me and explained that my therapist suggested I not over share sensitive info regarding my relationship esp with my partner wishing I would stop sharing every little detail of our relationship. I've been working on it. Still she and I got into an argument and I told her that she needs to look in the mirror and stop letting anger control her. She agreed and suggested we take a break as friends. I told her I would be here when she was ready to talk again.

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I have not heard from her since. It's been a year. The only thing I got outta her was a congrats when I got engaged and then nothing. She declined my invite to my 31st birthday and didnt wish me a happy birthday.

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So I asked someone else to be my maid/matron of honor. I have a maid of honor and a matron of honor. Both girls have been in my life more these past 2 years than she has been.

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Mourning a friendship is hard especially one that was over 10 years old. Our matching tattoos say "you are my person" and now im considering getting it covered up.

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That is all. Just wanted to vent a little. Thank you.

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