r/GaslightingCheck

Anyone have experience with spouse/significant other/family/friends not believing you when you tell them and give examples of being gaslighted? How did/do you over come this? How were you being gaslighted? I've shared articles that show this is a corporate trend, quiet firing, due to its plausible denyability. They just tell me my examples dont prove/show anything, your boss likes you, you haven't been fired, you got a raise last year, etc. Need some help solving; badly.

My girlfriend sent me this. Its part of a longer correspondence that im happy to share, though dont know how to post screenshots. Steve is/was a friend of mine and had a private conversation with my partner. I brought it up with them both. Theyre pissed that im upset over nothing?? Please give me some opinions, I need perspectives....

"As steve said it’s because you simply didn’t fucking care. I also remember him saying if he were in your position at that time he would have at least asked to see how I was. But never once have you even bothered to ask anyone around me if I’m genuinely okay."

Steve's a prick right, and so is she?

I was talking to my pwBPD earlier in a lighthearted conversation about when we found out our son would be born. Turns out, we both have very different memories of telling my parents about it. She combined the time we told them she was pregnant with the time we told them we were getting married. I tried to explain this but she got very very angry and insisted I was wrong. So I said something like maybe we both are misremembering and such. I made it clear I did not want to argue about this. But she pressed on. It wasnt enough for me to say I might be wrong (I’m not and I actually have proof of it) but she would not stop. She even went so far as to say the events I was describing did not happen at all. Those were two major life events for me and I remember those days very clearly. To be told they didn’t happen at all is very hurtful and belittling. I refused to acknowledge it and stopped the discussion.

I (30F) have been on and off with my bf (33M) for a few years. There's a lot of shitty stuff he's done (cheating, gaslighting, controlling, emotionally manipulating me), but I've found it really hard to leave.

To give some background, I've had back issues since I was like 10 years old, and they've been getting worse as I age. I used to throw my back out a couple of times a year, and it was only bad for a few days at a time. I stopped running and certain workouts to avoid it. Doctors weren't really sure what was happening, they thought maybe it was disc issues because of my MRI showed multiple lower disc herniations. But this year I've already thrown it out at least 3 times and had serious pain and an inability to walk. My symptoms last for weeks at a time and it has been especially interfering with my work. A PT finally figured out why it was happening a few months ago, hypermobility leading to vertebrae slipping out of place, which is causing severe pain, muscle spasms, and weakness (I cannot walk). I don't take opioids, just Tylenol, Aleve, Gabapentin, ice/heat, and light movement.

Fast-forward to today. I threw my back out again yesterday and wanted to use the weekend to rest as much as possible, hoping I would be able to go to work on Monday. I started my usual routine of OTC pills and realized I was out of Tylenol. I use it to help with pain, while Aleve helps with inflammation, so I need both, as per my doctor's advice. I called my BF to see if he could grab some Tylenol for me since it's painful to walk and I can't sit to drive, plus, I'm taking gabapentin, which literally makes me unable to drive. He said okay, but when I called him later, he said he was on his way with Aleve. I told him I really needed the Tylenol. He made up some story about how his car was broken so he couldn't stop to get any, he was clearly lying. When I asked how he was able to come over to my place and then back to his if his car was broken, he screamed at me, "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU, WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? YOU'RE SO SELFISH, I'M NOT COMING OVER!" then hung up on me. I immediately lost it. I never ask him for help ever, but I really needed someone today, and I feel like getting me some Tylonal isn't a giant thing to ask when he lives 15-20 minutes from me, on a Saturday. I tried calling him back, and he had gone home and basically told me that I was a bad girlfriend for not realizing how mad he was and not "backing down." I'm so confused because all I did was ask him how he was using his car if it was so broken he couldn't stop for tylonal. I feel like I'm going crazy. Is this gaslighting or emotional abuse, or is he just a bad boyfriend? I feel like there is something else more deep happening, like he can't stomach something not being about him, and he's tuning this whole situation into a scenario where he is the victim, and I am the abusive one?

TLDR: I threw out my back out and called my BF asking if he could bring me some tylonal because I ran out. He lied to me about his car being broken as an excuse to not get me any and then screamed at me and belittled me for questioning how he was able to drive to my apartment and then back to his place if his car was broken. He then drove home, leaving me without any help.

so i have never in my life watched a porn video. i’m actually quite proud of that fact, because i think that industry is very exploitive to women and children. my parents, when i was younger, took away and monitored my devices because i was watching “inappropriate content”, and i always assumed this was the other “erotic” things i was consuming at the time (censored comics, pg-14 shows with innuendoes, things that were not super explicit). i brought it up last night and said i was proud i had never watched a porn video, and my parents said the real reason they had monitored my devices is because they had found me watching those videos, and told me i was lying. i told them none of that ever happened, i didn’t even know what a penis really looked like on another person until i was 18. they were confused for a second, but were ultimately firm that i was watching hardcore porn and they were justified in all their actions. i have absolutely no recollection of watching these videos, and my parents have a history of being wrong/exaggerating things and trying to control me. did i really watch these videos and they were so traumatic i just blocked them completely out of my mind, or are my parents lying?