r/aegoromantic

Can I be aegoromantic and still develop crushes?

This is also about aegosexuality, but the title is my main question.

I only found out about aegoromanticism about 2 weeks ago after also finding out about aegosexuality. I suspected I was asexual for some years now though and now that I know about aegosexualtity, I'm quite confident about it. I still feel sexual attraction though, although not very strong and only to men. But I've never wanted to have sex with someone I was attracted to.

Now, I've never thought about being an aromantic but then I learned that aegosexuality is something that would describe me. I love shipping characters and I wish I could expierence that same love, even if the thought of me actually being in a romantic relationship makes me uncomfortable. For a while I just thought I haven't found the right person yet.

But I have developed a crush before, a strong one. I couldn't look at that person, I would get all red in the face when he was in the same room as me and I couldn't even talk to him, something I had no problem with before because we had known each other for a very long time and had even been friends once. It has been a couple of years now since that crush but I remember not wanting to be in a romantic relationship with that boy and I don't think I've ever fantazised about us doing romantic things together. Mainly, I just found it annoying and after the boy was mean to me about my crush on him, it dissipated rather quickly.

I've never had a crush after that. I began to really see the value of friendship, like, I would tell my friends that I think platonic relationships are more important than romantic ones.

Now I just feed on the romance and desire of fictional characters, with me being nowhere near the action.

I just wanted to ask if that still makes me aegoromantic (and aegosexual).

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u/Adventurous-Owl3605 — 2 days ago
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Thought about how a good chunk of fanfics for one of my faves are x readers even though I can't get anything out of them and remembered this post

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u/Illustrious-Wear3335 — 8 days ago