r/r4rMelbourne

Hi everyone! As mentioned in the title I’m officially done with my university studies as of today. I’m super proud of all the work I’ve put into my studies but am so relieved it’s final over haha.

With that being said, I’d be keen to go do something to celebrate but have no idea what I want to do. I was thinking of going to Chin-chin and grabbing a drink/dinner but would love any other suggestions for restaurants/bars/activities if anyone has any. I recently took myself on a trip away so not too keen on doing that again until later in the year.

Would also love any tips on how to prepare for corporate life too! I’m already working in a corporate setting but my role right now is far more lenient with me as I’m still early on in my career. Either way, I’m happy to hear from anyone so message away🙂‍↕️

I'm mostly joking...

Anyway, thanks for clicking, reading (and subsequently enjoying) my post. In short (heh) I normally have a full enough social, work and hobby calendar going on but this recent cold weather has been not enjoyable or overly conducive to that. With that said I've been entertaining the idea of company and the warmth/engagement that comes with it. I also like the idea of dinner and letting you beat me at board games once or twice till my pride kicks in and I stop taking it easy on you. I live alone so the monotony of routine can sometimes get a little... well... monotonous? My plants have thus far proven to be poor conversationalists and my robot vacuum is reticent to engage in much chit chat with me these days and has actually withdrawn and gotten quite bitter. It is not a healthy relationship.

About me

• Puts the fun in dysfunctional (that's a joke I am emotionally and financially stable)
• I have the comedic range of an ocean (something something depth) and the wit of a freshly sharpened Crayola©️
• I am able to be attentive and understanding of your needs, preferences and boundaries
• I am open to taking a contrarian stance on most subject matters in the interest of debate (fight me)
• I can ramble for the both of us, conversely I can lend a receptive ear and insert gasps and probing questions where needed
• I have very strong opinions on pizza toppings
• I am not very good at knowing when to use italics
• I am an exceedingly comfy snuggler (partial credit to my couch)
• Also physically I'm 174cm on a good day, of generally average build with olive skin and(very) short dark head and facial hair

What I can offer you

• A genuine want to learn about you and see if our personalities match
• The ability to whip up a restaurant quality meal (the restaurant is Dominos)
• I will say and do increasingly stupid things to try and make you laugh
• Will humour you when you tell me you enjoy bad things
• Will apologise when I call you out for liking those bad things after I can't keep a straight face anymore
• The welcome invite to raid my wardrobe for comfy hoodies and jackets (I really have too many, please come take a couple)
• I enjoy eatingᵒᵘᵗ
• A plethora of board/card/video/mind games
• The willingness to engage in just about anything at least once
• A constant positive impression with a balance of logical solutions/ideas and emotional pick me ups/reinforcement

Just so you know what you're getting yourself I have added a bonus section of pink coloured flags that I'm constantly trying to dilute with white

• Sometimes I struggle to broach serious stern topics without at some point resorting to humour
• I have the resting facial expressiveness of a dull rock/mineral
• I am trying to be more forthright and open with myself and my feelings instead of bottling it all in without an escape valve
• I can sometimes be obtusely impatient in search of short term gratification over long term progress
• I will eat the last slice of pizza without remorse

I understand people are in different stages of life and searching for different things so am welcoming of just short lived fun time or something ongoing. That said I do however have a very stringent non-negotiable requirement for you

• Exists

If it sounds like we might get along and you're interested in mercilessly being beaten (at board games) then send me a message and we can take it from there. Regardless I wish you have a nice and cozy week :)

Edit: I think my DM settings were off but I've turned them on now :)

I enjoy a number of things and have a few hobbies to try to do at least once a week photography being one of the main ones. I love music and going to concerts and already have a few more to go to this year. I'm tall at 6'2 and am in decent shape but going to gym will hopefully be better as well.

I'm looking to find someone to explore a bit with I'm open to try most things at least once. I like hairy as well as shaved so that doesn't bother me. I'd love to learn how to please a woman properly and just how to make sex enjoyable for both parties. Downstairs I'm ok too imo haha but you can judge that.

I'm hoping that the above sounds like a good time ahaha and that is what I want to offer. I can't host but I can travel or work something out.

Anyway hope to hear back soon, cheers

Hey there!

With winter settling in I've realised I'd like to create some simple connections with people. Good conversation and some quality shared time either out somewhere warm or keeping it inside.

I'm not chasing anything forced nor do I hold any expectations, and am interested in chemistry that feels fun and natural. Someone who is thoughtful, and comfortable being themselves. Attraction matters but so does being able to talk to each other 😄

Just a little about me: calm natured, introspective at times, but overall a thoughtful person. I enjoy hiking (and the joys that come with it, exercise and the views), a bit of a reader, and I enjoy restoring vintage vehicles, as well as being a bit of a gamer now and then. Physical wise, I take good care of myself and am fit and hold Vietnamese heritage.

Open to seeing where things go, maybe for some good winter company attending many of Melbourne's winter events.

If this resonates with you, please don't hesitate to say hi.

Inner west but I love heading into the CBD and willing to travel if not too far. Hoping to find people closer to my age.

Looking to find outgoing nerdy/geeky friends to do fun things around Melbourne. Maybe head to Fortress for events (anyone heading to Team Up Tuesday this week who want to buddy up?), have movie and take-out nights, maybe start board game nights with a group, go to Pax/Con (I’ve never been!) or other events that pop up. Also down to explore Melbourne food places and cafes with some nerdy chat.

For me, I love to play games. Fall Out, Tomb Raider, Alan Wake, Control, Sims (now Paralives), GTA, older Assassins Creed and Far Cry, The Last of Us, Metro, Horizon Zero Dawn & Forbidden West, Dying Light, Avowed… and sooo many more. I would love to find people who can sit around and talk about this kind of stuff (e.g. Quantum Break and Tim Breaker… will we ever see Jack Joyce again? Was Ted Faro’s ending deserved or should he have suffered more? Remastered, LAU, or survival trilogy? What do you want to discuss?).
I love watching shows and movies and exploring how they were made. I also adore reading, art, and food.
What about you?

Heads up: I’m not your person if you’re looking for a one-sided conversation to discuss only your own interests or leech the joy out of other’s interests. It’s an unfortunate thing I’ve noticed when seeking nerdy/geeky friends.
Also, I’ve tried many times to get into D&D but I’ve always had a bad time. So while I’m still willing to give it a go with the right circle, and I’m happy to hear you chat about the fun you have with it, it’s not my first choice for first meet ups.

Hey I’m 19 looking for someone to relax and chill with recently arrived in Victoria hopping to meet some new people and have a genuine connection like I said I’m down to do anything really just have a fun time. (:

Stardate: 2026.49. I’ve been in Melbourne for nearly five months now after moving from the U.S. for work and am in a place where I am seeking a relationship. Connections have not been very easy to find thus far, but such is the life of being neurodivergent as well as a newcomer starting from scratch.

About me:

I am a 31-year-old big and beautiful bear of a man (3XB). I am 178 cm tall, am Caucasian, and have blue eyes and dark brown hair. I’m an atmospheric scientist (blue shirt) who enjoys a great deal of sci-fi (especially Star Trek) as well as b-movies. By hobby, I practice game design for a few old, niche video games, collect and build with Lego, enjoy board and card games, practice cartography, and whatever revolving special interest happens to have captured my attention at the time. My flavor of neurodiversity gives me a big, strong heart as I’m not afraid to show my emotions and vulnerable side. I'm usually nervous getting to know someone at first, but after forming a connection I'm an open book. I prefer directness and blunt, honest truth.

Who I seek:

I seek someone who is hopefully as much of a nerd as I am. I seek someone who is in the age range of 25-35, and preferably someone who resides in the southeast region of Melbourne. I seek someone with progressive values that would be foundational to a United Federation of Planets. I am looking for something long-term as I don't think returning to the U.S. is going to be a viable option.

Hoping to hear from you on the subspace frequencies.

About Me

I'm a 37-year-old woman living in Melbourne's west. Originally from the UK, I'm neurodivergent, endlessly curious, and hoping to find someone to build a happy, meaningful life with.

I'm fair-skinned with blue-grey eyes, wavy mouse-brown hair, and a stocky, curvy build. My wardrobe is mostly practical rather than glamorous, and I'd much rather be comfortable than fashionable.

I'm one of those people who can lose an entire evening researching a random topic that caught my attention. History, technology, politics, psychology, philosophy, AI, public transport, infrastructure, maps, religion—you name it, I've probably fallen down a rabbit hole about it at some point. I love documentaries, long conversations, D&D actual-play shows, the occasional gaming session, and learning something new every day.

I'm naturally caring, loyal, and affectionate. I genuinely enjoy listening to people talk about the things they love, even if I know nothing about them. I'm happiest with someone I can laugh with, have thoughtful conversations with, and quietly exist alongside.

What I'm Looking For

I'm looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, patient, and able to communicate openly.

I don't expect us to share every hobby, but I'd love someone who's curious about the world and enjoys learning, exploring ideas, and sharing the little things that make them excited.

For whatever reason, I often seem to click with people who work in IT or other technical fields. Maybe it's because I enjoy analytical minds and people who light up when they're explaining how something works. It's absolutely not a requirement, but it does seem to be my type.

Ultimately, I'm looking for a genuine long-term relationship with someone local to Melbourne who's ready to build something lasting together.

What I Offer

- Loyalty and commitment.

- Honest, open communication.

- Emotional support and encouragement.

- Genuine interest in your passions and interests.

- Curiosity, empathy, and a love of learning.

- A caring, home-oriented personality.

- Someone who believes relationships are built by working through life's challenges together.

If you've made it this far, I'd love to hear from you. Tell me your age, roughly where you live, what you do for a living/hobbies/interests and what's something you could happily talk about for hours. Bonus points for any pics of dogs/cats/trees.

About me:
More of a homebody than a social butterfly. My free time is spent reading, binge-watching TV shows, listening to 2000’s emo on repeat, or diving headfirst into whatever hobby has caught my attention this month (read impulsive spends)… planning on painting up warhammer and dnd miniatures next week.

What I’m looking for:
I'd love to make some new friends, but I'm not the best in large group settings. I tend to connect much better one-on-one. Reddit and Discord has been a new discovery and a comfortable way for me to get to know people.

What I’m not looking for:
right wing politics, racism, queer phobia or general hateful talk.

What I offer:
Connection. Genuine self. Let’s slow down busy life. Ask real questions and just hang out again. Like we used to when we had all the time in the world. 5’10” brunette, if the post requires it 😂

Let’s chat on Discord and see if we click.
If you're into emo/pop-punk, TV shows, books, random hobbies, or just want someone to chat with about whatever's currently consuming your attention, feel free to reach out.

Hey y’all,

The apps are doing my head in again, so here I am.

A few things about me:
• 33, plus size (size 18), 170cm-ish, tattooed with a few piercings, dark hair and blue eyes
• Independent, spontaneous, adventurous, and happiest when I have something exciting planned
• Big reader, hiker, and enthusiastic finder of good restaurants and bakeries
• Currently training for the Everest Base Camp trek
• 99% vegetarian, progressive, and emotionally aware
• Looking for a long-term relationship and hoping for kids in the future

Personality-wise, I'm a little awkward, but self-aware enough to laugh at myself. I value honesty, direct communication, and consistency. I do best with people who say what they mean and don't leave each other guessing.

What I'm looking for:
• Late 20s to late 30s
• Emotionally mature, kind, and genuinely fun to be around
• Progressive values
• Looking for a monogamous long-term relationship
• Wants kids someday (soonish preferably)
• Enjoys travel, food, getting outdoors, random adventures, or has an oddly specific trivia specialty

What I offer:
• Loyalty, affection, and independence
• A genuine desire to show up for my partner
• Thoughtfully planned adventures and spontaneous road trips

If you’re interested in getting to know each other, reach out and tell me something you're passionate about.

Hi everyone.

I'm 35 and haven't really had much luck when it comes too meeting new people. Girls mostly.

I have tried all the dating apps (spent alot of $$) but I'm lucky if I can have a conversation last more then 2 days with someone. I have tried though friends but none of my friends or there partners know anyone.

I have signed up to try speed dating. 6 week wait list 😆

I've signed up to Timeleft to just meet new people.

What are other things I could try?

I'm not looking to hook up with anyone. I want a proper connection. Something long term or forever. I'll be happy just to land a date.

A little about me. I from the west and travel all around Melbourne for work. I do singing lessons, ride motorbikes. I like to go places, travel. Im always up to do things like go see a band ive never heard of or go to a pop up festival ect.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

Hi all,

I am in Melbourne next Sunday and Monday for the Attack on Titan - Beyond the Walls World Tour. I have two tickets and the person I was originally going with can’t come so I’m looking for someone to join me. It’d be cool if you wanted to show me around Melbourne in general on either day too but not a requirement at all. It’s my first time visiting Melbourne so yeah :).

Shoot me a message if you’re interested in joining me to the concert and/or doing more. Completely free as I don’t want the ticket to go to waste. We can exchange further details in direct messages.

Thanks!

42, from Sydney, in Melbourne for work and staying in the CBD.

I was meant to be catching up with an old friend tonight, but they had to pull out at the last minute. So now I find myself with an unexpectedly free evening and figured I’d see if Reddit had a better idea.

I travel to Melbourne fairly regularly and have a soft spot for the city. Good wine bars, hidden rooftops, live music, interesting people, and the kind of places you’d never find unless someone pointed you towards them.

I’m 6’1”, fit, and spend more time than I’d like in airports, boardrooms and hotel lounges.

My current backup plan is a wine bar recommendation from a friend, a martini, and eventually being told by a Melbourne local why Sydney is overrated. I won’t agree, but I’ll listen.

What I’m Looking For

A woman who’s up for a drink tonight and seeing where the evening takes us.

Ideally you’re easy to talk to, enjoy a bit of banter, and can make a spontaneous decision without overthinking it.

Whether that’s one drink, a couple of venues, or discovering somewhere neither of us has been before is open for discussion.

What I Offer

A relaxed, low pressure night with someone who’s genuinely interested in meeting a new person.

A drink, good conversation, and at worst a mildly entertaining story about the time you met a random Sydney guy from Reddit.

Happy to swap photos early so we’re both comfortable before meeting.

If this sounds like your kind of impulsive decision, send me a message.

42M from the States, in Melbourne for a few more weeks and likely back regularly over the coming months.

Successful, well-traveled, emotionally intelligent, employed (apparently this still needs to be stated), and a firm believer that some of life’s best moments start with “just one glass of wine.”

Looking for a woman who enjoys good conversation, playful banter, and the kind of chemistry that makes you forget to check your phone for a few hours.

My ideal evening:

• A rooftop bar.
• Stories about where we’ve been and where we’re going.
• A little flirting.
• A lot of laughter.
• And seeing where the night naturally takes us.

I’m equally comfortable discussing travel, psychology, technology, relationships, why Melbourne is obsessed with laneways, or whether we’re both making a very good decision or a very bad one.

If you’re intelligent, confident, feminine, and enjoy genuine connection with a side of mischief, I’d love to hear from you.

Tell me your favorite rooftop bar in Melbourne and why I should trust your recommendation.