r/r4rMelbourne

Hi! Looking to add some new people and activities into my life.

If you're looking for a tag along buddy for events, shows, movies, gigs, new restaurants etc. and a gab over a few drinks I'm your gal. Ideally things in or near the city, show me your favourite spots!

About me

I'm a bit of a nerd in my work life, outside of that I like art and anything crafty. I love food and learning about different cultures (all english levels welcome), music, live comedy, movies, libraries, art galleries or a good cocktail.

Neurodivergent, quite curious by nature and love getting to know people, pretty non-judgemental and accepting, just an overall fan of spending time with fun people! Introvert but pretty good at knowing my limits. Keen to get to know each other online first and see if we click

About you

Looking for friendship, not interested in other types of connection

Preferably 22-30 but that's not strict

Girls gays and theys welcome

Consistent, open, left leaning, kind

Able to get to the CBD

About Me: I’m a bit introverted but good in groups of 2 or 3. I love tv drama but don’t like reality tv. Love gadgets, tech, and learning new things! I like going to cafes & restaurants, going to the movies or to artsy things like Lightscape or theatre. I’m a big leftie & passionate about equal rights and all things “woke”

What I'm Looking For: An engaged reciprocal friendship where we text all the time and catch up and hang out regularly on weekends or occasional weeknights. I’m based in South East near Dandenong but happy to drive 30-40 mins to catch up.

What I offer: I’m a loyal and engaged friend who is there for support as much as she is for fun. I easily take friendship from 0 to 100 and will always be absolutely transparent to the point of TMI lol. I never ghost people and am always there for people I care about.

Tradie who works long hours in Melbourne CBD.
Looking for someone to spend my lunch or dinner breaks with, maybe once a week.
Show up, get to know a little bit about eachother, talk shit, eat and then part ways. Nothing more.
Leave your money at home, my shout.

Serious question looking for genuine responses please.

I've found myself recently being very intimate with some of my female friends in a non sexual way. Some had fallen into that trap of early 30s, given up on dating, and honestly just touch starved.

I've thoroughly enjoyed the times we have spent cuddling, hugging and just enjoying the intimate touch of another human without any expectations either way, some had even remarked about how they have hired escorts in the past, but there is alot of stigma around that.

I've been pondering the idea for a while but now I'm genuinely serious in exploring if there might be a market for women looking for non sexual intimate relationships, and whether I could turn my ability to create safe intimate spaces into more than just an offering for close friends.

I would absolutely love to hear each and every one of your thoughts if this sounds like it might be something you have quietly been craving, and what the main hesitations or push backs could be. For serious applicants I am happy for you to contact character witnesses and past females I've had the pleasure of creating this space with.

Hi all, lovely folks and, more specifically, folkettes of reddit. This is a post I've thought about making for a long while now and I am really looking forward to seeing how it works out. I am an optimist by nature, so we'll see how we go. I am also pretty sure there aren't many groups of three women sitting around waiting for a post like this, so coordination between a pair and a single, or, likely, three singles is probably how this will play out. Also, if I fall short of my goal, I'm pretty sure it's going to be a fun time anyway. But we have a goal so let's see if we can reach it together 😊

What I'm looking for: I'm searching for people to join me for an exciting experience one day hopefully this month, our schedules permitting! If you've read this far, I presume your curiosity is piqued. This is exactly the kind of energy I am looking for. I am very open and accepting of all body types, height, weight and so on. Anybody intrigued enough by this post should be thinking this is an attitude over attributes request. A chill mindset, a willingness to explore, ability to share a laugh and to relax into the experience with everybody else are the desirable traits I think will make this work best. (An ability to be somewhat punctual may come in handy on the day) 😋 

What I offer: I am a very relaxed person by nature and I offer myself as a generally fairly chill guy to vibe and hang out with. I also want everyone to be as comfortable as possible and am happy to picswap/vibecheck meetup before the day. This will probably be a one time thing and accomodation will be covered. This will be most likely in the city (as it's fairly central) in a spacious room with a space to chill separate from the main activity for anyone who needs a breather 😊

About me: 38, M, Normally fairly quiet guy who works in a somewhat technical and demanding field. I prefer relaxing and chilling with some good company, tasty food and pleasant vibes. Sort-of dad-bod shaped, very blue eyes, some say cute, and an offbeat/offkilter sense of humour. Oh, and I kind of have a bit of an exhibitionist streak 😋 if you couldn't tell already. 

Reddit sometimes drops messages if they're direct replies to posts, so to any interested parties, DMs/chat requests preferred! Let's make something wild and exciting happen haha

Hiii 👋🏻

I’m a 28yo female, working in hospitality management and looking for a FWB/fling.

As a retired baddie I’m no longer interested in relationships 😂 I have a pretty peaceful life (stressed af with work but overall peaceful lol) so I just need someone to 👉🏻👌🏻💦 once in a while.

I work fulltime and also an introvert so I don’t have a huge amount of free time, probably looking at once or twice a week depending on how life fucks me up 😩

A little about me: I’m Asian, 5’3, black cat energy, a sassy bitch with attitude but if you’re lucky enough you might unlock a few secret sides of me lol I’m a bit on the soft/chubby side with small boobs and bigger hips/ass. I’ve been living in Melbourne for nearly 10 years.

My type is more on the slim/skinny fit side, ideally 5’9/5’10+ 👀 I don’t necessarily need someone super muscular or bulky but it doesn’t hurt to try something different 🥰 (I mean who wouldn’t want to be picked up and pinned against the wall lmao) I’m generally attracted to Asian and white/Caucasian guys (even better if you’re mixed 😋), so that’s who I’m mainly hoping to meet.

I like watching anime, kdramas, reading manhwa and books, and hanging out with my girlies on my days off. Tho I’m a homebody I’d also appreciate someone willing to drag me back to the gym (ideally at midnight cuz apparently that’s when my ass decides it wants to be productive 💀)

I’m also obsessed with fictional men so just keep that in mind when you see me with all my merch hahaha

As for my sex partner, I do have one very specific preference: 6in+ 🍆 Size matters to me because that’s what I’ve found works for me based on previous experience.

I read dark romance too, so bonus points if you’re a biker and can fuck me with your helmet on lmaooo

Good hygiene, communication, discretion and no unnecessary drama are definitely appreciated. I’d also prefer us both to have recent STI test results (or be willing to take one) before we get down to business (let’s be responsible hoes 😂)

I’m happy to chat first and see how we vibe. If we click and both feel comfortable, then we can decide whether to meet up irl. No need to rush anything 😌

Anyway, feel free to DM me if you’re interested! Tell me a little about yourself rather than just sending “hey” because I’m absolutely judging your opening message 🫵🏻

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Update: Currently going through DMs. I appreciate all applicants who applied for this position 😂 If you don’t hear back from me within 3 days, unfortunately your application may not have progressed to the next round. Please don’t take it personally, it just means we might not be a match. I’ll still try my best to respond to everyone who took the time to apply. Thank youuu 🫶🏻

EDIT: I forgot to mention my preferred age range 😂 I’m most comfortable with guys around 25-35, but I could probably stretch that to roughly 22-38 depending on the person. Anything outside that is probably pushing it for me 😭

Single nerd looking for female 25 - 50.. Ballarat / Australia.

Hi All,

I'm single. Live alone. Finding no luck with dating apps.

Looking for girls to hang out with.

Love singing to music (can't sing).

Will put on tv for company.

Will tell you your face is bad when it isn't.

Me: I'm into banter, pranks and crossing the line. I follow the Cats in footy and love watching cricket. Star Wars, Board Games, Movies, Superheros, TV and reading are me. Day or night I like to be with a group of friends, playing board games, and having a drinks.

Also looking for a girl I can do this with.

Open minded and up for slow or fast approach.

Start a chat. Let's see if we click. We can chat online. Take it social. You can come to board game nights with me. Anything!

Thanks

So I live down in the South East and have always lived here but recently I've been driving more up into the city to just experience it and explore things so if you're more native to the city maybe you could show me some places but I don't mind where abouts you're from. I've driven up to the North West before to see mates as well so the distance isn't a huge issue, I also don't mind male or female mates either, I'm not picky.

Some things I enjoy are riding on my motorbike (need to repair it because I got rear ended rip,) drawing, fitness, guitar, anime/manga/cosplay, video games, as well as a bunch of other things. I don't mind if we haven't got to many things in common, it'd help to lead into conversation but I don't think you need to have all that in common with someone to be mates.

Anyways if any of this sounds interesting please send a message and it'd be nice to meet some new people.

Hiya! Soft-hearted menace looking for someone to annoy for the rest of my life. Looking for my best friend, safe place, adventure buddy, and the person I can be a complete weirdo with.

About Me:

• 5' with olive skin, brown hair and eyes, smol build, based westside
• Self-confessed snack gremlin who enjoys yoga, nature trips, board/video games and hunting down sweet treats
• Will discuss consciousness, trauma, masculine/feminine dynamics and the universe for hours... then spend the next hour laughing because "poo" was mentioned (I am a child)
• Dark sense of humour. HR probably wouldn't enjoy me. You probably will.
• Golden retriever energy with raccoon morals.
• Can be an emotional, sensitive potato, but I have a big heart 
• Growth, playfulness, ambition, adventure, safety and security are all core values for me

Basically: smol build, many tabs open.

Included in Your Package:

• A best friend who wants to keep growing with you
• Endless yaps and stimulating, thought-provoking conversations
• An abundance of affection, silly memes, grocery trips turned into fun adventures
• Someone who remembers your sweet treat and coffee order
• A teammate to cheer and hype you on through life

Potential Side Effects

• You'll develop an unhealthy amount of confidence because I think you're hot.
• Your vocabulary will somehow include "little menace."
• You'll never pee alone again because I have something important to tell you. It isn't important.
• You'll receive approximately 14 memes instead of one because context matters.

Looking For

• Someone that understands that buying me fries means you're legally my husband.
• Emotionally available with a romantic side, remembers the little things and genuinely wants to understand and learn the person they're with.
• Is a yapper, will indulge my curiosity and tolerate my 47 open mental tabs.
• A strong flirt to roast ratio and can handle sarcasm without needing a wellness check
• Thinks "Let's build a pillow fort, eat pancakes for dinner and ignore our responsibilities for one evening" is a valid date.
• Wants a relationship where we can be completely ridiculous and completely real.
• Someone who wants to travel, try new things, workout together but also enjoys a cosy night at home (with cuddles, obviously)

If you're the type of person who wants a teammate, values emotional maturity, can laugh at yourself, and thinks the best relationships feel like you've somehow found your favourite human...

I'd love to hear from you. Please send through a photo when messaging, as mutual attraction is also important. Will happily send a photo in exchange. 

Tell me something you're genuinely passionate about, or what's a conversation topic you could happily lose three hours talking about?

I’m in Melbourne solo until Monday when I fly back to Sydney.

Just wanted to see if anyone wanted to make spontaneous Saturday night or Sunday night plans I’m really up for anything would prefer around my age.

Pics of me on my profile :)

Everyone needs a hug now and then, even you!

Whether it's a friendly hug hello, a platonic quick cuddle, a big bear hug squeeze, a passionate embrace or just someone to hold you, stroke your hair and tell you everything will be ok.*

My hugs are the perfect gift to yourself: one-size-fits-all, and fully accepting of who you are and whatever is going on in your life.

So, if you'd like to meet up with a tall, 40s guy and have a coffee and a hug, send me a message. No strings, no complications, and no pressure for anything more. Just hugs. Because the world needs more hugs. And so do you.

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*Note: Unfortunately, I can't guarantee that everything will be ok. But I promise it will feel better after talking it out and hugging.

#About Me

I'm a 37-year-old woman living in Melbourne's west. I'm originally from the UK, neurodivergent, fairly introverted, and looking to build a happy and meaningful life with someone.

I'm grounded, practical, affectionate and endlessly curious. I'm one of those people who can start researching a random question and emerge several hours later having acquired a completely unnecessary amount of knowledge about it.

My interests include science, technology, history, politics and current affairs, psychology, philosophy, religion, AI, infrastructure, public transport, maps, and generally understanding how complicated things work.

I enjoy documentaries, D&D actual-play shows, occasional gaming, and comedy/panel shows like Utopia, Taskmaster and Have I Got News for You.

I love conversations where we can jump between serious subjects, ridiculous observations and whatever rabbit hole one of us has fallen into this week.

I'm quite home-oriented. While I enjoy going places and discovering things, I'm equally happy simply sharing a space with someone. You might be working from home while I'm pottering around doing my own thing, occasionally appearing to make tea, ask you a question, or tell you about something I've discovered.

Physically, I'm fair-skinned with blue-grey eyes and wavy mouse-brown hair. I'm a larger person with a stocky/curvy build, with a generally European appearance. I'm much more comfortable in practical, casual clothes than dressing glamorously.

#What I'm Looking For

I'm looking for a genuine, committed, long-term relationship rather than something casual. I'd like this to become an actual in-person relationship rather than an endless online conversation.

I'm looking for someone kind, patient, emotionally mature and capable of communicating openly. Intellectual curiosity is particularly attractive to me. You don't need to share all my interests, but I'd love someone who enjoys learning and has interests of their own that they're genuinely passionate about.

I seem to naturally click with people in IT, engineering, science, academia and other technical or analytical fields. That's definitely not a requirement, though. I just really like people who enjoy solving problems and understanding how things work.

If you have some wonderfully niche subjects you can enthusiastically explain to me for half an hour, I'm probably going to enjoy listening.

I'd like a relationship where we're a team. That means enjoying the interesting parts of life together, but also being able to tackle ordinary things together: planning meals, doing the shopping, getting places, solving problems, working on projects and helping each other when one of us needs a hand.

I'm introverted, but you don't necessarily need to be. An extroverted partner could work perfectly well as long as you're comfortable with me sometimes staying home while you go out and socialise.

Ultimately, I'd like someone I can love, trust, be affectionate and intimate with, laugh with, learn alongside, and eventually share the comfortable everyday parts of life with.

#What I Offer

Curiosity. I genuinely want to know about you. Tell me what you're working on, what you've been reading, what weird thing you're obsessed with or why the project you've spent three hours debugging still refuses to work.

Loyalty. When I care about someone, I invest in them and their life. I'm looking for one person to build something lasting with.

Affection and companionship. I'm quite happy being someone's quiet background presence. We don't need to constantly entertain each other to enjoy being together.

Practical partnership. I'll help you solve problems, plan things, work things out and get through the mundane bits of adulthood. I'd like us to be able to depend on each other when necessary.

A willingness to learn. I don't expect either of us to arrive as perfectly finished human beings. I'd rather have a relationship where we can communicate, learn each other's quirks and boundaries, admit when something isn't working and figure it out together.

Someone to explore the world with. That might mean travelling somewhere new. It might mean visiting a museum, going for a drive, discovering somewhere around Melbourne, watching a documentary together or spending Sunday afternoon researching something completely ridiculous.

And sometimes it'll simply mean being in the same room doing completely different things and being happy that the other person is there.

If this sounds like the sort of relationship you're looking for, send me a message introducing yourself.

Tell me your age, roughly where in Melbourne you are, what you're looking for, what kind of stuff you do for work and whether you have any hobbies or interests?

Added bonus for pictures of any pet dogs/cats or plants. 🤍

Happy weekend everyone!

I've been in Melbourne for about 3 years now (moved from overseas) and still haven't landed a proper friend group. It's a weird paradox - amazing people all around, but everyone's so locked into their cliques that finding people who actually want to connect feels harder than its been elsewhere. My old crew's scattered across different countries, so my social circle's been shrinking. Figured I'd throw myself out there instead of waiting for it to happen.

About me:

Gym and music are my two constants. Big into gaming too - mostly Valorant and GTAV with the boys, just finished Expedition 33 and loved every second of it. I'm also always tinkering with random side-hustle ideas for fun. Massive foodie, always down to try new spots and shout for coffee.

I also used to play badminton and basketball pre-COVID and been really meaning to get into some sorta local club or group for casual play - hmu if you know somewhere or someone! Not big on politics or religion, but happy to hear anyone out if that's their thing.

On a typical free evening you'll find me gaming, spiralling over what my next side-hustle should be, on a long walk with my headphones on, or just deep in music - im big into pop and hip hop (Tate McRae, Kanye, Travis, Don on repeat).

Like your average joe, im just another ambivert - quiet and a little awkward at first, but once I warm up I'm a solid homeboy, the type who'll have your back. I live in the East, but I'm in the CBD most weeks.

What I'm looking for:

People into cafe/bar hopping, outdoorsy stuff, random events, and the occasional deep 1am conversation. Guys and girls drop a comment or DM, always up for a chat :D

Not looking for a relationship or anything "discrete," I've had some creepy experiences on Reddit before and had to block a few people. Just come correct and be respectful ;)

What I offer:

A genuinely good listener - very happy to just sit back and let you yap to your heart's content XD. A solid homeboy once you're in, the type who'll have your back. Someone who'll actually show up and put in effort, not just talk about hanging out or plans.

I'm down to yap or call or whatever im pretty bored so if you want a friend or just someone to talk to im down! im 24 and im from australia, i also like watching movies and games and stuff if you are keen :')

when it comes to music i like rock and pop mostly stuff from 90's 80's 70's (its just way better lets be so fr) I also have boring hobbies like fishing where you just wait and do nothing for ageeees, and F1 where you wait and watch cars go around in circles 😴

for games i used to play games alottt now i just idk i like playing stuff with other people i guess but ive lost the intrest i used too have, im more than down to watch someone play games i find that more interesting, but even something simple like minecraft i very much enjoy!!

but yea i don't bite so if your up for a chat just dm me

About Me:

Hey everyone! I’m 33, 6'1", fit, and active. I like to stay healthy and like going for walks by the beach (yes I know its a trope), also a big cinephile. Pretty easygoing, friendly, and always up for good conversation, whether we're dissecting nerdy stuff or just life in general.

What I’m Looking For:

I’m looking for someone who is free tonight and down to go check out the new Spider-Man movie with me! I've been dying to see it on the big screen, but none of my usual crew are free on short notice. Age-wise, looking for anyone roughly around my age (mid-20s to late 30s) who enjoys comic books, good energy, and fun low-pressure hangouts.

What I Offer:

The ticket and snacks are completely on me! Full cinema experience, picking popcorn out of your teeth included. Happy to grab a bite beforehand if you'd like! Based in the South East.

Physical Attributes / Visuals:

Age: 33

Height: 6'1"

Build: Athletic / fit build

If you're free tonight and down for popcorn and a flick, drop me a message with a bit about yourself :)

So I live down in the South East and have always lived here but recently I've been driving more up into the city to just experience it and explore things so if you're more native to the city maybe you could show me some places but I don't mind where abouts you're from. I've driven up to the North West before to see mates as well so the distance isn't a huge issue, I also don't mind male or female mates either, I'm not picky.

Some things I enjoy are riding on my motorbike (need to repair it because I got rear ended rip,) drawing, fitness, guitar, anime/manga/cosplay, video games, as well as a bunch of other things. I don't mind if we haven't got to many things in common, it'd help to lead into conversation but I don't think you need to have all that in common with someone to be mates.

Anyways if any of this sounds interesting please send a message and it'd be nice to meet some new people