anyone else’s asian mom is unsupportive?
I recently went on a mission trip to another country, and I was so excited to tell my mom about it when I got home. I wanted to show her pics, but she started hating on the trip. She would make comments like “why are you volunteering in a different country with random people?” “why don’t you volunteer here in America and take care of people here?”
She’s made comments like this before saying “why don’t you work instead of spending your time volunteering?”
I feel like she’s constantly hating about the things I do. I feel like I always had a rough relationship with my mom. Don’t get me wrong. I love my mom, and she sacrificed so much to for us to be here. But some of the things she does and says is hurtful.
She was barely present in my life because she was always working. Growing up, I always felt like I spent more time with my teachers than my mom and saw them more as mother figures than she ever was. For a mother-daughter brunch event, I didn’t even bother asking my mom and j showed up an hour late crying bc I didn’t have my mom there. I never asked my parents to go to my award shows and musical performances. My mom once said my musical performance was boring. I never asked her to come anywhere ever again. My teacher told me that she could be my mom, and I realize that it happens to most kids with immigrant parents.
How do you guys cope? I live in the south and it’s the same type of people here. They say people are mean everywhere so maybe it’ll just be the same if I move somewhere else? Will it? I don’t know what I want to do with my life. I’ve always wanted to leave the south. Have you guys ever felt so alone? Never having a friend group? Not feeling like you click with anyone?
Sorry this is just a rambling of my thoughts and feelings lately. I just want to know if anyone ever feels the same. I always envied to have a close relationship with my mom and be best friends with her like the girls in the south. How do you make this feeling go away?