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Well, after reading some of the comments on my last post, I decided the mature thing to do was sit down with my wife and actually talk this through instead of just screaming at each other. You know, maybe even swap with each other, so she could get that idea out of her system. 

But honestly, I’m not sure I feel better.

At first she tried explaining why she did the swap with William. She said after our son left for college she started feeling old in a way she never had before. According to her, being in a 19-year-old body again made her feel energetic, bold, young, all of that. And honestly, part of me could understand that. I’m getting older too. I see the gray hairs and wrinkles every morning myself. I can understand the temptation of wanting to feel young again.

But then we got into the part I was actually afraid to ask about.

I asked her directly if she was aware that William was masturbating in her body while they were swapped. Honestly, I hated even asking the question out loud. She got really quiet for a while before finally admitting yes, she did, and that she wasn’t angry. She kept saying it “wasn’t part of the original plan” but that things just “got weird” because “they were both curious”.

“Both?” I asked. I was scared to even follow up. But at that point the question had been eating at me ever since she first confessed everything. I was afraid where the conversation was going.

I asked her if she did the same thing while she was inside William’s body.

She admitted she did.

I honestly don’t even know how to explain how that felt to hear. It was already bad enough knowing there was another guy walking around in my wife’s body, seeing her naked, touching her body, staring at himself in the mirror. But hearing my wife admit she touched another man’s penis honestly made something in me snap a little.

And somehow it gets worse.

I found out this wasn’t going to be a one time thing. They swapped again this past weekend. Which means while I was sitting there trying to process all of this, William was back in my wife’s body again like nothing had even happened. I spent all three nights sleeping on the couch because I genuinely couldn’t stand being near her body with him inside. It’s so traumatic hearing her moanings, but knowing there is a man inside.

But this morning I broke and finally told our son everything. He was furious, especially because this is his roommate and supposedly one of his best friends. Apparently William’s girlfriend (I’ll call her Miranda for privacy) had absolutely no idea any of this was going on either. My son gave me her contact info, and after talking to her for a while, she’s just as angry as I am. She considers this cheating too.

Now Miranda wants revenge. Honestly? Part of me does too.

So despite a lot of people warning me not to escalate this, me and her are planning to swap too using the app. It’s supposed to happen in a few hours and we’ll stay swapped for the whole week.

Maybe this is a terrible idea. Maybe I’m just angry and trying to hurt my wife back. I honestly don’t even recognize myself right now.

And yeah, before people ask, I already know how weird this sounds. She’s basically my son’s age. I feel weird about that too. I’ve never even used this app before and now suddenly I’m about to spend a week in the body of a college-aged girl because my marriage apparently turned into some insane sci-fi disaster.

But after hearing my wife casually admit she spent the weekend touching another man’s penis while wearing his body, part of me wants her to understand what this feels like from the other side.

I don’t know. I genuinely can’t tell if this is me standing up for myself or just me turning into the exact same kind of person I’ve been angry at all week. Maybe this makes me a creep too now.

So I guess I’m asking: am I completely losing my mind here? Is this revenge, cheating, both, neither? Should I call this whole thing off before I make everything even worse? And if I actually go through with this… how the hell am I even supposed to act around Miranda while we’re swapped? Any tips from people who’ve actually used this app before?

I guess we’ll see how “funny and harmless” this app still seems to them next Friday.

I’m pretty old-school (45M). I mostly use my phone as a flashlight, for calls, and to read Reddit news. I’m not really into all this modern tech stuff like AI, games, or those new “body swap” apps.

Recently, though, my wife (41F) saw a TV report about those apps and became obsessed with trying one with me. I told her absolutely not. For all I know, those things could give you cancer, steal your information, or leave you with some insane hidden charge in your phone bill. I’m not that innocent to belive such thing as a “free app.”

Last Friday, though, I started noticing my wife acting strange. She almost tripped over herself just walking through the house. Her makeup looked terrible, like she’d suddenly forgotten how to put it on. She kept staring at herself in the mirror for hours, half-dressed, taking selfies with her phone. Then one night I walked into our bedroom and caught her doing something she would never normally do alone… let’s just say it was highly intimate and definitely not something I wanted uploaded to the internet.

At first I thought maybe she was just tired or stressed, but then she forgot my middle name when a delivery driver asked for it. After 20 years of marriage she forgot my name?! that honestly scared me. I started wondering if she was having some kind of medical issue.

So Monday morning, when she finally seemed back to normal, I asked if she’d been feeling okay and whether she wanted to see a doctor. She immediately got nervous and tell me she is feeling fine, but after two decades together, I know exactly when she’s lying. Honestly, I was worried maybe she’d had an affair or something.

Then she confessed.

Apparently, she spent the entire weekend swapped into the body of my son’s best friend (let’s call him “William”).

For context, my son is away at college now in another state, and William is actually his roommate. They’ve been friends since middle school. So imagine my shock realizing that for the last three days I’d been living with him while believing he was my wife. The other day I almost kissed him!

And the thought of him walking around in my wife’s body, staring at himself naked, touching her body… It makes my blood boil.

After she told me, we had the biggest fight of our marriage. She says I’m overreacting and that she only did it because she was curious, and blame me because I refused to try the app with her. She also says William was curious too, and that he was the only person she knew who would actually agree to swap with her. Apparently they even convinced themselves it could somehow help her visit our son at college “without taking a flight.”

Now she’s acting like I’m the bad guy because I got angry instead of immediately supporting her emotionally. Meanwhile, I feel like she turned our entire family into some bizarre science experiment and expects me to pretend this is all normal.

I honestly feel betrayed. I’m exhausted, deeply unsettled, and terrified this could happen again, especially because I’ve never actually heard my wife say she wouldn’t do it again. .

At the same time, part of me wonders if none of this would’ve happened if I’d just agreed to try the app with her in the first place. Maybe I'm the one to blame?

AITA?