Started Developing Feelings for someone who is mid divorce.
So this girl is leaving to move in with her sister in a couple of weeks.
My background with her is that we stream the exact same small niche stuff on twitch, that’s where i found her. We go to each others streams, i mod in her stream. I’ve followed her for 2 years, but just recently for the past like 3 months really started watching her all the time. I never had any feelings for her until we started playing games together, we’ll just 1 game really.
This game is counter strike, i just got into it and she has played for years. We always have a good time with each other laughing, banter in game chat etc. I’ve asked a few times if she wanted to call on discord but she always says something like “I’m just chilling right now”. Which is fine, i don’t pry. But i’m not sure if that is a bad sign.
The few times we have called we’re basically just perfect and an amazing night. The first time i was actually helping her setup something for her stream, at this time i didn’t have feelings for her. But we got whatever we had to get done and then just chatted for hours until like 5am.
The 2nd discord call happened when we were playing with her friends and our session ended, and we just decided to stay in call together and talked for a few hours til like 3am. This call was also great, we laughed, got a little personal etc.
Only things that make me think she’s not into me are:
- a couple of times she ignored my invites on counter strike (which is fine, i don’t pry. i just let her be).
- doesn’t wanna call directly, it always happens organically. (also fine)
- doesn’t respond to DMs super fast and i feel like she did much better when i didn’t like her.
I’ve basically chalked all of these things up to “she’s going through a lot right now”.
Basically I wanna know if i should let her settle into her sisters and then tell her how i feel? and i’ll also not really sure what to say, should i mention looks? should i just mention that i enjoy talking with her and have feelings?
I also am wondering if maybe any women know better than me to tell me the oddities that i listed right above are normal and maybe that it’s just she’s going through a lot right now.
At this point, i’m just curious what others say. If you actually read all this, seriously thank you.
EDIT: I should also mention i recently got out of a long relationship of 6 years a month and a half ago.