ADHD struggles? Reposting
So, long story short: I can’t be the only one who feels this way.
I’m 39F, recently diagnosed with ADHD, which explained a lot of things about how my brain works and why some aspects of life have always felt more challenging than they seemed for other people. From the outside, I probably look like I have everything together. Internally, it often feels like my brain is a browser with 99 tabs open.
I was in a long-term relationship that ended because we ultimately wanted different things in life. I've been single for four years since then. What I’ve realised is that I really struggle with modern dating culture. Dating apps feel exhausting, and I have very little patience for endless small talk or surface-level interactions.
I have a full life. I work, go to the gym regularly, have great friends, travel, and genuinely enjoy my own company. I’m not unhappy being single. In fact, I’d rather be alone than settle for a relationship that isn’t right.
What I do miss sometimes is genuine connection. Not just attraction, but meeting someone you can talk to for hours, share experiences with, challenge each other intellectually, enjoy comfortable silence with, and simply be yourself around.
Maybe this is where I'm struggling: I feel independent, content, and fulfilled on my own, but I still value connection. Sometimes it feels like society pushes people into two categories: either you're actively searching for "the one," or you've completely opted out. I don't really fit into either.
Does anyone else feel this way? Have you found it harder to build meaningful connections as you've gotten older? Is this just part of modern life now, or are there still people looking for depth over convenience?
Curious to hear other people's experiences.