Rethinking Space and Floor Plans
Hello everyone!
I'd love to hear from folks who have made the switch from living with your partner (no kids, no kids in the future) in a small condo to living with your partner in a multi-storey home. I am currently making this switch right now and my autistic brain is having immense trouble understanding how people stay connected with so many separate spaces - an office space for me, a space for him, a living room, etc, etc.
We have listed our condo for sale, and I'm pretty sure I'm driving my partner crazy because I keep trying to find our condo with an extra bedroom in house form and our price range ($500k-$550k in Calgary) doesn't lend itself well to a reasonably move-in ready bungalow in our neighbourhoods of choice. I worry that we'll revert to our teenager selves and spend days and days in separate spaces (office and office or office and living room, etc) and we'll just... not see each other?
I'd love to hear how you all were able to repurpose traditional house spaces to work better for you and your partner(s) - especially folks who are neurodivergent and know how you can disappear into hobbies and spaces for weeks at a time. haha.
Is there something I'm missing in these two/three/four floor homes? I need an office space that my partner also wants to be a cross stitch space to keep things from spreading too far around the house and those two things are literally how I spend 90% of my not-at-my-other-job time. He's a big computer gamer, so we could both easily just disappear into two separate rooms and never see each other. We can't really stay in our condo because my partner hates it here (and he's done it for six years already) and I need a separate space for my growing side-hustle consulting business that doesn't have him at my back gaming while I'm working with clients.
Is this a problem? Will I discover that disappearing and not seeing him so often is actually a good thing? Is my brain being too inflexible about this and the spread out nature of multi-storey homes really isn't the problem my brain is making it out to be?
Appreciate any advice/thoughts/creative ideas/"what worked for me/us" stories! Thank you all! If my brain is being dumb, it's fine to say that too. I'm dumb most of the time.