u/AdvanceFar535

▲ 261 r/nairobi

LIQOUR PRIVILEGED

I used to think my aunt was just the “wild drunk aunt” of the family.

Back in her prime years she was everywhere. Nairobi clubs, Kapsabet lounges, road trips, nyama choma spots, random bars in every major town. Always outgoing, always laughing, always surrounded by people. Meanwhile my mom — her sister — took the traditional route. Stayed disciplined, focused on family, got married, built a stable life.

Growing up, everyone quietly treated my aunt like the cautionary tale.

But now I’m older and I’m realizing something nobody told me:

Alcohol culture isn’t just drinking. For some people it’s networking.

My aunt somehow knows MPs, governors, businessmen, senior government people, rich guys, people with actual influence. Not “Instagram famous” people — I mean real power connections.

My younger brother finished school and stayed unemployed for almost a year. Applications everywhere. Nothing.

Three weeks ago my aunt visited us. She casually said: “Let me call someone.”

I thought it was the usual Kenyan “nitakuconnect” story that goes nowhere.

Two weeks later my brother lands a job paying 200k+ a month plus benefits like rent and shopping allowances.

I’m sitting here realizing what we searched for over a year came from one random contact in my aunt’s phone.

Now I understand why some outgoing people move through life differently. Sometimes the real currency isn’t grades or even hard work alone — it’s access.

And weirdly enough, some people build that access in bars, parties, and social scenes everyone else judges.

Life is strange man.

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 2 days ago
▲ 11 r/nairobi

FEMICIDE IN KENYA.

Kenyans, especially our sisters and daughters – this is a serious warning. As a businessman operating in Nairobi, I've seen firsthand how the world of "big money" really works. Kenya has a femicide crisis exploding right now, and too many cases involve powerful, connected men who believe they are above the law.The Numbers Don't LieKenya is facing record levels of violence against women:In 2024, at least 170 women were killed in femicide cases – a 79% increase from 95 in 2023.

From 2016 to 2025, at least 1,069 women were killed, with the majority (around 78%) classified as femicide – often by intimate partners or people they knew and trusted.

In early 2025, 129 cases were recorded in just the first three months.

Most victims are young women aged 18-35. Many killings happen in relationships involving economic dependence, jealousy, or disputes over money. Nairobi, Kiambu, and Nakuru lead in reported cases.

What Business Taught Me About ImpunityI've done deals with men who present as legitimate, polished businessmen – nice cars, offices in prime areas, connections. Then a meeting in Kilimani or Westlands turns into threats, goons showing up, or guns pulled. This isn't rare; it's a pattern I've encountered and heard about repeatedly.Now imagine women dating or married to these same men. These "tycoons" often have:Ties to politicians or high-level protection.

Side hustles like gold scams (Nairobi has seen multiple high-profile cases where fake gold deals target investors – the same networks operate in other shady businesses).

A belief that money and connections mean zero consequences.

When things go wrong – a breakup, demands for more money, or jealousy – some resort to the ultimate betrayal. Women chasing the lifestyle or trapped in transactional relationships are especially vulnerable. Many perpetrators are husbands or boyfriends (the most common in reports), and the culture of impunity makes it worse. Enforcement is weak despite existing laws like the Protection Against Domestic Violence Act.This Is Not Fearmongering – It's RealityFemicide in Kenya is often intimate partner violence escalating to murder. Women seek help but the system fails too many times. Strangers commit some cases, but the majority involve people the victim knew.

Ladies, please:Vet partners thoroughly – financial transparency, background, how they handle conflict.

Don't ignore red flags like controlling behavior, unexplained wealth, or threats.

Build your own independence; never be fully dependent in a way that traps you.

Have safety plans, trusted friends/family, and know your rights.

Report early – though we all know justice is slow.

To the men involved: Wealth doesn't give you the right to own or destroy lives. Justice might be delayed, but the blood of these women cries out.Kenya must do better – stronger enforcement, faster prosecutions, protection for victims, and addressing root causes like toxic masculinity and economic desperation. Task forces have been formed, but results are lacking. We need accountability, not just reports.This affects all of us. Protect your daughters, sisters, and mothers. Share this if it resonates. Let's demand change.#EndFemicideKE #StopKillingWomen #Kenya

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 8 days ago
▲ 64 r/nairobi

STABBING IN KILIMANI

Someone has just stabbed two young women Outside alma towers kirichwa road, and no it wasn't a robbery it was someone they are familiar with possibly one of the girls boyfriend or Ex boyfriend, I couldn't take images they are so Graphic, The girls are in very critical condition Kenyan police are just standing their watching as these young girls breath their last, I wonder what training these guys go through, Hii bado haijafika Nairobi Gossip Club.

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 8 days ago

Help me Find a new LCD Cable

Hello Guys, Yesterday I opened my laptop after tightening the hinge and my LCD cable was cut it's from a HP zbook G7 40 pin cable supports touchscreen too if any of you guys know a reliable shop I can replace the cable In I'll much appreciate I've been searching in google almost 2 hours nothing useful shows up

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 11 days ago
▲ 364 r/nairobi

IM CUTTING MY FAMILY OFF

I think I’m cutting my family off.

I grew up in a single-parent family and we were POOR poor. The kind of poor where anything above 5k looked expensive. My dad wasn’t a deadbeat though — he paid school fees all the way through university, and I respect him for that.

Eventually I got older, landed my first overseas job, made some decent money, bought my first car, and for the first time in my life I felt like I escaped survival mode.

So naturally I wanted to give back.

I had even set aside around 1.5 million to help my family build something stable.

But the more successful I became, the more I realized something painful:

Nobody around me actually wants independence.

Everyone just wants access to me.

Every funeral contribution? My phone rings first.

Someone in the village is sick? They call me.

Random relatives I never even grew up around suddenly remember I’m “family.”

People who never checked on me now have emergencies every month.

And the craziest part is… I genuinely wanted to help.

But help feels useless when nobody wants to learn skills, grow, build income, or become self-sufficient. Most of the money would disappear into chama contributions, emergencies, and temporary relief — then two months later I’d still be expected to solve everything again.

The only hope I had was my younger brother, but he spends most of his time gaming and avoiding reality. So now I’m sitting here realizing I might actually be alone mentally.

I’m starting to understand why some successful people quietly disappear from their hometowns.

Not because they hate their families.

But because constantly being treated like a walking solution slowly kills your peace.

Has anyone else experienced this after becoming the “successful one” in the family?

u/AdvanceFar535 — 11 days ago
▲ 80 r/nairobi

AS A WOMAN WHAT DO YOU BRING TO THE TABLE ???

I find it interesting how society normalized the idea that “broke boys don’t deserve love,” but the moment men start dating intentionally and asking women what they actually bring into a relationship, suddenly it becomes offensive.

This girl literally stole my number and pushed hard for a relationship. Cool, no problem. We start talking, she tells me she wants something serious and long term, so naturally I start trying to understand her beyond looks and vibes.

I asked a simple question:

“What can we build together? What skills, mindset, value, or energy do you bring into a partnership?”

Nothing.

And somehow I’m the bad guy for being intentional?

I’m not saying every relationship has to be business-oriented or transactional, but I also don’t believe someone should qualify to be your partner simply because they’re single and attractive.

A relationship title alone is not value.

If men are expected to have ambition, direction, money, emotional strength, protection, leadership, and purpose, why is it wrong for a man to also ask:

“What do YOU offer besides wanting the title of girlfriend?”

Modern dating became so focused on what men should provide that asking for mutual value now sounds controversial.

u/AdvanceFar535 — 12 days ago