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WHO GETS TO HAVE IT ALL ?

( PART 2 OF ME TALKING ABOUT WEALTH AND FINANCIAL EDUCATION)

About two days ago, I published my first article on wealth—sharing what I've learned and accumulated over the past few years.

I was really hoping Nairobians would hit me with some challenging perspectives, maybe even push back on my ideas.

Instead, my comment section got flooded with "TL;DR" spams.

😂

Still, a few of you actually reached out to thank me for the information I shared, and for that, I'm genuinely humbled.

You might be wondering—why Reddit over other social media platforms?

The answer is pretty simple.

First, I was looking for real discussion.

Second, I prefer staying anonymous.

And third, I really don't want to be lumped in with all those "wealth mentors" and Folex tladers you see everywhere else.

Also, no—I’m not a bot.

I'm a real person typing this.

Born on April 19, 2002, so I'm probably around your age too.

And that's probably the only piece of information about me that I want out in public.

Anyway...

Let's talk about something much bigger than money.

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IF LIFE WAS A MERITOCRACY, WOULDN'T THE HARDEST-WORKING PEOPLE ALWAYS WIN?

But they don't.

The genius doesn't always win.

The hardworking person doesn't always win.

The poor person isn't necessarily lazy.

The privileged person isn't necessarily talented.

And sometimes someone seemingly does everything right and still loses.

Why?

Scroll through your feed and you'd think everyone's winning.

Perfect angles.

Bought aesthetics.

Faked smiles.

Carefully curated characters.

Everyone performing a version of life that looks complete.

But there's a social media reality nobody wants to admit:

Maybe nobody actually gets to have it all.

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WHO GETS TO HAVE IT ALL?

And can someone actually have it all?

We compare our behind-the-scenes to everyone else's director's cut, forgetting that life doesn't distribute its blessings in complete packages.

It deals in trade-offs.

Someone has money and no peace.

Someone has intelligence and no opportunity.

Someone has opportunity and no discipline.

Someone has discipline and terrible timing.

Someone has everything materially and still spends their entire existence trying to recover something money can't buy.

But why does one person seem to receive blessing after blessing while another person struggles from birth?

A child doesn't choose their parents.

They don't choose their country.

They don't choose whether they're born into wealth or poverty.

They don't choose their genetics.

They don't choose their health.

They don't choose the era they're born into.

They don't choose whether their father owns a company or disappears from their life.

So when we look at two adults and say:

«"They both had the same 24 hours."»

It's technically true.

But it's a ridiculous comparison.

One person's 24 hours might be spent building a company.

Another person's 24 hours might be spent figuring out how to pay rent.

Same clock.

Completely different game.

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I KNOW WHAT THAT DIFFERENCE FEELS LIKE

When I was 17, I was doing construction.

Someone else my age might have been studying in an expensive school, travelling, learning how businesses work from their parents, or simply having the luxury of failing.

I didn't have that privilege.

I was being paid KSh 450 a day.

Eventually, I saved enough for a laptop.

About KSh 25,000 might sound like small money to some people today.

But think about earning KSh 450 every day.

That laptop represented much more than a laptop.

It changed the environment I was operating in.

After the laptop:

My skills changed.

My circumstances changed.

My network changed.

My exposure changed.

And definitely...

my luck changed.

Maybe luck isn't always something that simply happens to you.

Sometimes it's what becomes possible when your circumstances change.

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BUT THAT ISN'T MY CONCLUSION

Ask yourself this:

If a billionaire's child starts a company with KSh 50 million and succeeds, how much of that success belongs to their genius?

Now ask yourself something else.

If someone born in poverty builds a KSh 50 million company from nothing, how much of that achievement belongs to their hard work—and how much belongs to the thousands of circumstances that happened to go right?

Because both of them have a story.

And both of them will probably tell you something like:

"I worked hard."

And they'll both be telling the truth.

That's what makes this complicated.

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WE THINK THERE ARE ONLY THREE CLASSES

Most people think in socioeconomic classes:

Upper class.

Middle class.

Poor.

But I think there's another way to look at it.

There are people who occupy completely different positions in the game, even when they might appear to belong to the same economic class.

THE PRIVILEGED

They start ahead.

They inherit access, education, networks, capital, security or simply the freedom to make mistakes without destroying their lives.

THE HARDWORKING

They refuse to stop.

They might not have the best starting position, but they keep moving.

Sometimes that persistence eventually creates opportunities.

Sometimes it doesn't.

THE GENIUS

They see something other people don't.

An invention.

A business model.

A technological opportunity.

A different way of solving a problem.

But intelligence alone doesn't guarantee that the world will notice.

THE DISADVANTAGED

They start with enormous barriers.

Maybe poverty.

Maybe family responsibilities.

Maybe poor education.

Maybe geography.

Maybe lack of connections.

Maybe circumstances they never chose.

Their struggle isn't necessarily a lack of ambition.

Sometimes the starting line itself is further away.

THE LUCKY

They're in the right place at the right time.

They meet the right person.

They enter the right industry.

They buy the right asset before everyone else notices it.

They catch a wave they didn't create.

And sometimes...

they simply get lucky.

These aren't official socioeconomic classes.

They're different forces that can shape where someone ends up.

And most of us are probably a combination of several.

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SO WHERE DO YOU FIT?

Maybe you're privileged and hardworking.

Maybe you're intelligent but unlucky.

Maybe you're poor but incredibly ambitious.

Maybe you're connected but inexperienced.

Maybe you've had almost every advantage and still haven't figured out what to do with them.

Maybe you've had almost none of them and somehow kept moving.

And maybe you're lucky without even realizing it.

That's the uncomfortable part.

We love stories where success has one clear explanation.

"He worked hard."

"She's a genius."

"His parents were rich."

"He's just lucky."

Real life is rarely that simple.

Success is usually a messy combination of things.

And failure is too.

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SO WHO GETS TO HAVE IT ALL?

God's favourite?

The hardest worker?

The smartest?

The richest?

The most connected?

The most disciplined?

The person born at exactly the right time?

The person who took the biggest risk?

The person who got lucky?

Or is the uncomfortable answer that life distributes opportunities without first checking who deserves them?

I've stopped believing that everyone gets what they deserve.

Some people get more.

Some people get less.

Some people get a head start.

Some people start 20 years behind.

Some people get lucky.

Some people create their own opportunities.

Some people pray.

Some people work.

Some people do both.

And some people do everything right...

and still don't get the ending they wanted.

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MAYBE THAT'S THE PART WE HAVE TO ACCEPT

We don't get to choose the hand we're dealt.

You didn't choose your parents.

You didn't choose your childhood.

You didn't choose your starting capital.

You didn't choose your country.

You didn't choose your genetics.

You didn't choose every opportunity that came—or didn't come—your way.

But eventually, you do have to decide what you're going to do with what you were given.

And that's where I think the conversation becomes much more interesting than simply asking:

"Why does he have everything?"

Maybe the better question is:

"What am I going to do with what I was given?"

Because whatever you believe about God, luck, privilege, intelligence or hard work...

none of us got to choose the hand we were dealt.

We only get to decide what we do with it.

My next article will be about

If nobody gets everything, why are we killing ourselves trying to get everything? Tune in ..

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 2 days ago
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What Do Kenyans Really Know about Wealth (Part 1 )

I wasn't introduced to money at an early stage of my life.

You all know what that means, right...??

Damn.

And it was that bad.

We struggled as a single-mom household. Everything Mom accumulated was either spent on rent, food, fees or transportation. There was no room for leisure, let alone the privilege of having a proper savings plan.

Every month was another equation.

Pay the previous loan.

Acquire another one.

Survive.

Repeat.

Sad to say, a lot of Kenyans still live exactly like this.

And when you grow up around that kind of environment, you develop a particular philosophy about life.

"Itajipa tu."

It will work out.

Somehow.

Eventually.

In my case...

Ilijipa.

But it wasn't as easy as that phrase makes it sound.

I remember crying my lungs out the whole night and waking up the next morning to go do manual labour at 1st Parklands, at that building after I&M Bank. It's an Indian building—I don't even know if it's called Pushoram Heights.

I was 17.

Working at a construction site.

Working with a forged identity card I had drafted on Paint and printed at a cyber café.

I used to get blisters over previous blisters.

I'd come home, wrap my hands in bandages, then take the bandages off the next morning because I didn't want them getting dirty with cement dust.

Sad reality?

Nobody seemed to care.

Actually, my workmates figured out something very quickly.

They had a kid they could command around.

So my workload became almost twice what everybody else's was.

I was young.

I needed the money.

And they knew it.

So I worked.

And worked.

And worked.

Until I saved enough for a laptop.

Then I left mjengo as quickly as I could,

~ MY LAPTOP

I started working on my own stuff.

And this is where things became interesting.

My family didn't really understand what I was doing.

They'd tell me:

"You need to find a job. Sitting home looking at a screen won't do you anything."

In my mother's mind, I was probably watching movies while the rest of the world moved forward.

But I wasn't.

I was slowly building a digital skill set.

And I think this is where my understanding of wealth started changing.

Because I had just discovered something I didn't know existed when I was younger:

Your labour doesn't always have to look like labour.

A construction worker uses his body.

A developer can use a laptop.

A mechanic uses tools.

A company can use thousands of employees.

A factory uses machines.

A software company can sell the same piece of software to a million people.

The amount of effort involved isn't necessarily proportional to the amount of value eventually created.

That's a dangerous thing to realize when you've grown up believing that the hardest worker deserves the most money.

Because the economy doesn't actually work that way.

And maybe that's one of the first uncomfortable things we need to understand about wealth.

~ HARDWORK ISNT THE ECONOMY

I'd worked harder than I had ever worked before at 17.

My hands were literally telling the story.

But working twice as hard didn't make me twice as wealthy.

Why?

Because I was selling time and physical labour.

There were only so many hours I could work.

The building could get bigger.

The project could become more expensive.

The company could make more money.

But I was still one person.

There is a ceiling on human labour.

And then there is leverage.

Technology.

Capital.

People.

Distribution.

Ownership.

Intellectual property.

Networks.

Those things can multiply what one person's effort can produce.

That was the first time I started wondering:

If two people work equally hard but one owns the machine and the other operates it...

who is the economy actually paying?

And why?

~ MONEY

When you're broke, money looks like cash.

You see KSh 1,000 and think about what KSh 1,000 can buy.

When you start understanding wealth, money starts looking more like stored economic power.

Capital.

The ability to command resources.

The ability to take a risk.

The ability to wait.

The ability to survive a bad month.

The ability to buy an opportunity when everyone else is forced to sell.

That's a completely different way of looking at money.

And it explains something that confused me when I was younger.

Why can someone appear to have unlimited money?

It's not necessarily because they have a magical bank account that never runs out.

Sometimes they own things that continuously produce money.

Businesses.

Shares.

Property.

Intellectual property.

Distribution networks.

Brands.

Companies.

Land.

Machines.

And sometimes...

They simply inherited the starting position.

That's the part nobody likes talking about.

~ THE GAME DOESN'T START 0 FOR EVERYBODY

Two people can wake up on Monday morning with exactly the same ambition.

One grew up in a house where dinner-table conversations included businesses, investments, property, taxes, lawyers and opportunities.

The other grew up hearing:

"Don't waste food."

Both can be intelligent.

Both can be hardworking.

Both can be disciplined.

But they aren't entering the same game.

One person may have inherited capital.

The other may have inherited survival instincts.

One knows what a term sheet is.

The other knows how to stretch KSh 500 until Friday.

Both are forms of knowledge.

But only one of them is immediately convertible into ownership.

And this is where I think the conversation around generational wealth becomes much deeper than:

"Rich parents give their children money."

Generational wealth can be money.

But it can also be:

Knowledge.

Networks.

Reputation.

Education.

Property.

Business ownership.

Access.

Confidence.

A safety net.

Even the ability to fail without your entire life collapsing.

Imagine having the freedom to spend two years building a company because your parents can keep the lights on.

Now imagine building that same company while wondering whether next month's rent is coming.

That's not the same entrepreneurial experience.

~ SO WHY ARE THERE RICH PEOPLE IF POOR PEOPLE EXIST?

This is probably one of the biggest questions I think about.

Not because rich people existing is inherently wrong.

But because wealth doesn't exist in isolation.

Wealth is created through an economy.

Someone builds a company.

Someone works for that company.

Someone buys its products.

Someone finances it.

Someone supplies it.

Someone owns shares in it.

Someone pays taxes on the activity.

Someone consumes the product.

Money moves.

That's capitalism.

And capitalism is fascinating because it can simultaneously be one of the greatest engines of opportunity and one of the greatest engines of inequality.

It gives an ambitious 20-year-old the possibility of building something that didn't exist yesterday.

But it also rewards ownership.

And ownership compounds.

If you own 10% of something that becomes enormous, your wealth can grow without you personally working 10 times harder.

That's fundamentally different from selling your time.

~ KENYAN Economy

We have a strange economy.

We have billion-shilling companies operating alongside people surviving on daily income.

We have sophisticated banks alongside people borrowing from friends.

We have mobile money in almost everybody's pocket, yet long-term financial health remains extremely weak.

The 2024 FinAccess survey found formal financial inclusion had reached 84.8% of Kenyan adults, while only 18.3% were considered financially healthy.

Read that again.

84.8% can access the financial system.

Only 18.3% are financially healthy.

That's a massive distinction.

We've become very good at accessing money.

That doesn't necessarily mean we've become good at building wealth.

Mobile money alone reached 82.3% of adults in 2024, up dramatically from 27.9% in 2009.

Kenya basically skipped several stages of traditional financial infrastructure.

A person in a Nairobi estate can send money to someone in rural Kenya in seconds.

That's incredible.

But access to financial infrastructure is not the same thing as economic mobility.

You can have M-Pesa and still be broke.

You can have a bank account and still have no assets.

You can have access to credit and still be moving backwards.

That's the difference between financial inclusion and financial health.

~ HUSTLER VS ENTREPRENEUR

And then there is something I think Kenyans sometimes misunderstand about entrepreneurship.

We romanticize the word hustle.

But hustle isn't necessarily entrepreneurship.

Selling smokies outside a building is entrepreneurship.

So is building Safaricom.

The difference isn't dignity.

It's scale, capital, systems, margins, ownership and leverage.

One person can only sell so many smokies personally.

But what happens when they create a system where 500 people sell them?

That's where the game changes.

The entrepreneur eventually stops asking:

"How much can I personally do?"

and starts asking:

"What can I build that works beyond me?"

That's the transition from labour to leverage.

And I think this is where a lot of young Kenyans are stuck.

Not because they're lazy.

Actually, the opposite.

They're working extremely hard.

They're just trapped inside models where their income is permanently attached to their presence.

~ " ITAJIPA TU "

This is where my old friends come into the story.

The guys I grew up with.

Some of them are still waiting.

Waiting for the right job.

Waiting for someone to discover them.

Waiting for a connection.

Waiting for the government.

Waiting for a rich person.

Waiting for luck.

Waiting for things to change.

And I understand them.

Because when you've grown up without capital, the idea of waiting can feel rational.

What else are you supposed to do?

But at some point I realized something.

Luck has inputs.

You can't control when an opportunity appears.

But you can control whether you're prepared when it does.

I didn't know the people I would eventually meet.

I didn't know I'd leave the country.

I didn't know I'd meet business people operating at levels I'd only seen on the internet.

I didn't know I'd eventually see watches worth KSh 45 million and more sitting casually on someone's wrist.

But I had built something before those opportunities arrived.

A skill.

A laptop.

Experience.

Curiosity.

Connections.

Confidence.

So when the opportunity appeared, I could recognize it.

That's what I mean when I say:

I built my luck.

~ YOU NEED LUCK TO BE LUCKY

Maybe I didn't build all of it.

Maybe I'm giving myself too much credit.

Because the older I get, the less I believe in the idea that everyone simply gets what they deserve.

There is luck everywhere.

The country you're born in.

Your parents.

Your health.

Your education.

The person who happens to notice you.

The person who introduces you to somebody.

The year you start a business.

The technology available during your lifetime.

The economy.

The currency.

The political environment.

Even timing.

You can work incredibly hard and still lose.

Someone else can make one decision and accidentally become incredibly wealthy.

So perhaps the mature definition of success isn't:

"I worked hard, therefore I deserve everything I have."

Maybe it's:

"I worked hard, I took risks, I made decisions, and I was fortunate enough for some of them to work."

That's a much harder truth to swallow.

~ KENYAS STOCK MARKET

This is another thing I think Kenyans should understand.

The stock market isn't some mysterious casino existing somewhere in Nairobi for rich people in suits.

It is basically a mechanism through which ownership of companies can be divided and traded.

Think about that.

A company needs capital.

Instead of one person owning the entire thing, ownership can be divided into millions of pieces.

Those pieces can be bought by other people.

That's the fundamental idea behind a stock.

Which means something interesting happens.

A person doesn't necessarily need to build the next major Kenyan company themselves to participate in its growth.

They can potentially become an owner.

That's a completely different relationship with the economy.

Instead of only asking:

"Where can I get a job?"

you start asking:

"Who owns the businesses creating the value around me?"

And then another question naturally appears:

Why aren't more ordinary Kenyans thinking about ownership?

Maybe it's lack of knowledge.

Maybe it's lack of disposable income.

Maybe it's distrust.

Maybe it's because KSh 5,000 feels more useful today than an abstract percentage of a company that might be worth more ten years from now.

And that is the problem with wealth-building.

The future has terrible marketing.

The present is loud.

The future is silent.

~ KENYAS CAPITALISM

Capitalism doesn't promise equality.

It creates incentives.

If you create something valuable, people may pay you for it.

If you own something valuable, its value may increase.

If you take a risk and it works, you can potentially capture a disproportionate reward.

But if you start with nothing, those same mechanisms can feel brutal.

You may have to sell your labour to someone who already owns capital.

Then use your wages to survive.

And if everything you earn gets consumed by rent, food, transportation, school fees and debt...

there is nothing left to convert into ownership.

That cycle can continue for generations.

And suddenly you understand why poverty can be persistent without anybody consciously deciding:

"Let's keep this person poor."

The system doesn't necessarily need a conspiracy.

Sometimes the mathematics of starting with nothing is enough.

But capitalism has another side.

It gives you something incredibly powerful:

the ability to create.

You don't need permission to invent a software product.

You don't need a family factory to start a digital business.

You can build a brand.

You can export a service.

You can create an app.

You can sell to someone in another country.

You can turn knowledge into a product.

That's the opportunity I accidentally discovered with that laptop.

~ SO WHATS REALLY STOPPING PEOPLE?

I used to think it was money.

Now I'm not so sure.

Sometimes it's capital.

Sometimes it's education.

Sometimes it's connections.

Sometimes it's fear.

Sometimes it's the environment.

Sometimes it's debt.

Sometimes it's responsibilities.

Sometimes it's simply not knowing what is possible.

And sometimes...

it's comfort.

Because dreams are expensive.

Not necessarily financially.

Psychologically.

You have to be willing to look stupid.

You have to be willing to fail publicly.

You have to be willing to leave the thing everyone understands and pursue the thing nobody understands.

I experienced that when my family thought I was wasting my time sitting in front of a computer.

To them, work had a visual definition.

You leave the house.

You go somewhere.

Someone supervises you.

You come back tired.

That's work.

I was doing something they couldn't see.

And invisible work is very difficult for people to trust.

Until it produces visible results.

~ WHAT COULD WEALTH REALLY BE..?

Not money.

Not watches.

Not cars.

Not Monaco.

Not houses.

Not even businesses.

Those are manifestations of wealth.

The deeper thing is control over your future.

Having enough productive resources that one bad month doesn't destroy you.

Having skills that can travel.

Having relationships that open doors.

Having ownership.

Having the ability to take calculated risks.

Having time.

Having choices.

Having the ability to say:

"No."

And meaning it.

That's wealth.

~ I STILL DONT THINK I'VE MADE IT

I've seen things I never thought I'd see.

I've travelled outside the country.

I've met people operating at levels I once thought only existed in movies.

I've touched things worth more than some people's houses.

I've seen watches costing KSh 45 million and upwards.

And honestly?

I'm grateful.

But I'm not confused about where I stand.

I'm not at that level.

And maybe I never will be.

But I understand the game differently now.

I understand why some people seem to have unlimited money.

I understand why some families can survive generations without selling their time.

I understand why some businesses make their owners wealthy while thousands of employees remain employees.

I understand why a person can be incredibly hardworking and remain poor.

I understand why another person can make one investment decision and change the trajectory of their family.

I understand why luck matters.

I understand why preparation matters.

I understand why ownership matters.

And most importantly...

I understand why waiting isn't a strategy.

~ SO WHAT DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW ABOUT WEALTH?

Don't answer me.

Not today.

That's not the point.

Go live your life for a month.

Go to work.

Buy something.

See a rich person.

See someone struggling.

Walk past a construction site.

Watch someone open a business.

See someone close one.

Watch someone take a loan.

Watch someone invest.

See someone inherit a house.

See someone lose one.

Look at the buildings around Nairobi.

Look at who owns them.

Look at who works inside them.

Look at who financed them.

Look at who designed them.

Look at who cleans them.

Look at who collects the rent.

Look at who owns the company receiving the rent.

Then look at your own life.

Where exactly do you sit in that chain?

Because that's when you start realizing that wealth isn't just about having money.

It's about understanding where value comes from, where it goes, who captures it, who owns the machinery that produces it, and whether you are participating as a worker, a consumer, a borrower, a creator—or an owner.

And maybe that's the conversation we should be having in Kenya.

Not:

"How do I get rich?"

But:

"How does wealth actually get created?"

Because once you understand that...

you stop waiting for "itajipa."

You start looking for where the game is being played.

And maybe, if you're lucky—

prepared enough—

and crazy enough to try—

you build your own luck.

Now I really want to know what you think.

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 4 days ago
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LIQOUR PRIVILEGED

I used to think my aunt was just the “wild drunk aunt” of the family.

Back in her prime years she was everywhere. Nairobi clubs, Kapsabet lounges, road trips, nyama choma spots, random bars in every major town. Always outgoing, always laughing, always surrounded by people. Meanwhile my mom — her sister — took the traditional route. Stayed disciplined, focused on family, got married, built a stable life.

Growing up, everyone quietly treated my aunt like the cautionary tale.

But now I’m older and I’m realizing something nobody told me:

Alcohol culture isn’t just drinking. For some people it’s networking.

My aunt somehow knows MPs, governors, businessmen, senior government people, rich guys, people with actual influence. Not “Instagram famous” people — I mean real power connections.

My younger brother finished school and stayed unemployed for almost a year. Applications everywhere. Nothing.

Three weeks ago my aunt visited us. She casually said: “Let me call someone.”

I thought it was the usual Kenyan “nitakuconnect” story that goes nowhere.

Two weeks later my brother lands a job paying 200k+ a month plus benefits like rent and shopping allowances.

I’m sitting here realizing what we searched for over a year came from one random contact in my aunt’s phone.

Now I understand why some outgoing people move through life differently. Sometimes the real currency isn’t grades or even hard work alone — it’s access.

And weirdly enough, some people build that access in bars, parties, and social scenes everyone else judges.

Life is strange man.

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 3 months ago
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FEMICIDE IN KENYA.

Kenyans, especially our sisters and daughters – this is a serious warning. As a businessman operating in Nairobi, I've seen firsthand how the world of "big money" really works. Kenya has a femicide crisis exploding right now, and too many cases involve powerful, connected men who believe they are above the law.The Numbers Don't LieKenya is facing record levels of violence against women:In 2024, at least 170 women were killed in femicide cases – a 79% increase from 95 in 2023.

From 2016 to 2025, at least 1,069 women were killed, with the majority (around 78%) classified as femicide – often by intimate partners or people they knew and trusted.

In early 2025, 129 cases were recorded in just the first three months.

Most victims are young women aged 18-35. Many killings happen in relationships involving economic dependence, jealousy, or disputes over money. Nairobi, Kiambu, and Nakuru lead in reported cases.

What Business Taught Me About ImpunityI've done deals with men who present as legitimate, polished businessmen – nice cars, offices in prime areas, connections. Then a meeting in Kilimani or Westlands turns into threats, goons showing up, or guns pulled. This isn't rare; it's a pattern I've encountered and heard about repeatedly.Now imagine women dating or married to these same men. These "tycoons" often have:Ties to politicians or high-level protection.

Side hustles like gold scams (Nairobi has seen multiple high-profile cases where fake gold deals target investors – the same networks operate in other shady businesses).

A belief that money and connections mean zero consequences.

When things go wrong – a breakup, demands for more money, or jealousy – some resort to the ultimate betrayal. Women chasing the lifestyle or trapped in transactional relationships are especially vulnerable. Many perpetrators are husbands or boyfriends (the most common in reports), and the culture of impunity makes it worse. Enforcement is weak despite existing laws like the Protection Against Domestic Violence Act.This Is Not Fearmongering – It's RealityFemicide in Kenya is often intimate partner violence escalating to murder. Women seek help but the system fails too many times. Strangers commit some cases, but the majority involve people the victim knew.

Ladies, please:Vet partners thoroughly – financial transparency, background, how they handle conflict.

Don't ignore red flags like controlling behavior, unexplained wealth, or threats.

Build your own independence; never be fully dependent in a way that traps you.

Have safety plans, trusted friends/family, and know your rights.

Report early – though we all know justice is slow.

To the men involved: Wealth doesn't give you the right to own or destroy lives. Justice might be delayed, but the blood of these women cries out.Kenya must do better – stronger enforcement, faster prosecutions, protection for victims, and addressing root causes like toxic masculinity and economic desperation. Task forces have been formed, but results are lacking. We need accountability, not just reports.This affects all of us. Protect your daughters, sisters, and mothers. Share this if it resonates. Let's demand change.#EndFemicideKE #StopKillingWomen #Kenya

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 3 months ago
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STABBING IN KILIMANI

Someone has just stabbed two young women Outside alma towers kirichwa road, and no it wasn't a robbery it was someone they are familiar with possibly one of the girls boyfriend or Ex boyfriend, I couldn't take images they are so Graphic, The girls are in very critical condition Kenyan police are just standing their watching as these young girls breath their last, I wonder what training these guys go through, Hii bado haijafika Nairobi Gossip Club.

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 3 months ago

Help me Find a new LCD Cable

Hello Guys, Yesterday I opened my laptop after tightening the hinge and my LCD cable was cut it's from a HP zbook G7 40 pin cable supports touchscreen too if any of you guys know a reliable shop I can replace the cable In I'll much appreciate I've been searching in google almost 2 hours nothing useful shows up

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u/AdvanceFar535 — 3 months ago
▲ 364 r/nairobi

IM CUTTING MY FAMILY OFF

I think I’m cutting my family off.

I grew up in a single-parent family and we were POOR poor. The kind of poor where anything above 5k looked expensive. My dad wasn’t a deadbeat though — he paid school fees all the way through university, and I respect him for that.

Eventually I got older, landed my first overseas job, made some decent money, bought my first car, and for the first time in my life I felt like I escaped survival mode.

So naturally I wanted to give back.

I had even set aside around 1.5 million to help my family build something stable.

But the more successful I became, the more I realized something painful:

Nobody around me actually wants independence.

Everyone just wants access to me.

Every funeral contribution? My phone rings first.

Someone in the village is sick? They call me.

Random relatives I never even grew up around suddenly remember I’m “family.”

People who never checked on me now have emergencies every month.

And the craziest part is… I genuinely wanted to help.

But help feels useless when nobody wants to learn skills, grow, build income, or become self-sufficient. Most of the money would disappear into chama contributions, emergencies, and temporary relief — then two months later I’d still be expected to solve everything again.

The only hope I had was my younger brother, but he spends most of his time gaming and avoiding reality. So now I’m sitting here realizing I might actually be alone mentally.

I’m starting to understand why some successful people quietly disappear from their hometowns.

Not because they hate their families.

But because constantly being treated like a walking solution slowly kills your peace.

Has anyone else experienced this after becoming the “successful one” in the family?

u/AdvanceFar535 — 3 months ago
▲ 80 r/nairobi

AS A WOMAN WHAT DO YOU BRING TO THE TABLE ???

I find it interesting how society normalized the idea that “broke boys don’t deserve love,” but the moment men start dating intentionally and asking women what they actually bring into a relationship, suddenly it becomes offensive.

This girl literally stole my number and pushed hard for a relationship. Cool, no problem. We start talking, she tells me she wants something serious and long term, so naturally I start trying to understand her beyond looks and vibes.

I asked a simple question:

“What can we build together? What skills, mindset, value, or energy do you bring into a partnership?”

Nothing.

And somehow I’m the bad guy for being intentional?

I’m not saying every relationship has to be business-oriented or transactional, but I also don’t believe someone should qualify to be your partner simply because they’re single and attractive.

A relationship title alone is not value.

If men are expected to have ambition, direction, money, emotional strength, protection, leadership, and purpose, why is it wrong for a man to also ask:

“What do YOU offer besides wanting the title of girlfriend?”

Modern dating became so focused on what men should provide that asking for mutual value now sounds controversial.

u/AdvanceFar535 — 3 months ago