The narcissistic elephant in the room
Where do I even begin? There is a narcissist coworker in my team of 9. She schemes, manipulates, and plays the victim anytime her behavior is called out. She screws people over, frames things in a way to demean others, takes credit for things others have done and lies for no reason. When our manager is not around, you can predict that she will find a reason to be out of the office or go home early. There’s always an elaborate excuse. She believes that people have issues with her cause of how high of a performer she is (she has the least of the workload), not because she’s rude, doesn’t contribute and isn’t a team player. I have seen her go from the most upbeat person and kind person, to someone who makes you feel like an inconvenience for breathing the same oxygen as her. She can put on such an act. And she feels she doesn’t have to do the same procedures as everyone else.
If an attempt to correct her is made, it never sticks and nobody ever seems to follow up. She always comes out on top- no matter how badly she screws over others. And it makes me feel like I am losing my mind. I love my job. I love my office. I love my team (with the exception of one). I love my boss but have so much resentment for her not dealing with the problem. Another employee recently left due to the combination of the toxic environment and other family obligations, but that’s not an option for me. I really hoped there would be a ripple effect when she disclosed the toll that this ordeal was taking on her, but of course it didn’t.
Sometimes I even wonder if my boss doesn’t advocate for me and my coworkers, cause she doesn’t believe we are good at our job. Even though I’ve heard her complain about this behavior. I’ve heard her call her a narcissist who always has an excuse and is the victim. I know her leadership has not come to bat for her in this scenario, but shouldn’t an attempt be made to hold people accountable? She has no problem criticizing me or others. Is it just cause we’re coach able?
I feel like I am losing my mind and I have to leave something I love. Help!