Men!!Run early
Men in your twenties, you will meet a lonely baddie with no family support or friends and one thing yall don’t realize early enough is,
Loneliness can make people look for a savior.
You’ll meet a girl with difficult backgrounds. No strong family support. No real safety net. No guidance. No one truly checking on them and naturally, as a man, your instinct is to help, protect, provide and solve problems.
That instinct is good.
But many men confuse compassion with assignment.
You are not automatically called to become a provider, father figure, therapist, school fees sponsor, business financier and emergency response unit for someone you are simply dating.
And this usually starts small.
Maybe she tells you about her difficult situation.
Then it becomes helping with rent.
Then tuition.
Then her sibling’s pocket money.
Then a salon business.
Then hospital bills.
Then suddenly you realize the relationship is built more on dependence than partnership.
A lot of men enter relationships wanting love and end up carrying responsibilities that belong to a husband… before becoming one.
Provision is a beautiful thing in the right context.
But the full weight of sacrificial provision was designed for covenant, commitment and marriage not emotional pressure in casual dating.
A woman’s hardship should move your heart, yes but it should not blind your judgment.
Because some people are not looking for partnership.
They are looking for rescue and many men confuse being needed with being loved.
Men, wisdom is knowing the difference so run when you need to run and run early.