This needs to stop..
Please just scroll past this if you dont agree or dont like what I am about to say but I think everyone should hear this. I am the beneficiary applying for IR1/CR1. I am a Canadian Citizen and my husband is a U.S Citizen, married for 3 years.
As of today it has been almost 10 months of waiting on our I-130. We are all frustrated, we are sad, we miss our partners, we miss our family, we all share the same goal, to be reunited. We all have our own personal situations. Some of us applying from banned countries. Some of us having children, alot of us struggling mentally and physically.
I have been waiting 10 months. Others have been waiting 13 months, 16 months, 24 moths etc. I am struggling mentally, I am struggling financially. To the point where I dont know if ill have a place to stay next month. Every day that passes not knowing when approval will come is painful. I havent seen my husband in over a year. We both cant afford multiple trips a year and not only it being financially difficult its even more difficult to take that time off work. That doesnt mean we are both not trying to make it work. But we also need to save for all of the costs for my visa and moving.
We are all in these groups for multiple reasons. Getting updates, seeing the trends on approvals. Sharing our stories. Sharing our frustrations with the system. Connecting with eachother. Knowing that we arent alone.
I see people posting about these things and venting. Telling their story. Being vulnerable. So why are some of us undermining their situation over the amount of time they've been waiting? We know there are others who have been waiting alot longer than us. Its unfair. We know. It shouldn't matter that they havent been waiting as long as you. Those comments saying "we have been waiting (x amount of time) relax/calm down/sit tight/stop complaining you still have a long way to go".
If youd like to share your story nobody is stopping you from doing so, its already difficult enough having to wait but making others feel bad for sharing that they are frustrated or sad. can we please stop with the negative comments on others posts.
We should be there for eachother. We are all waiting. And I cant imagine what those people who have been waiting way longer than they should be, how they are feeling and what they are going through. And I really hope your time comes soon. But its out of all of our control so instead of commenting just scroll past those posts.
Thank you.