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I love my wife to the moon and back. When we got married, I knew she had intense PTSD. Wanting her to feel safe and cared for is a huge part of what initially helped me decide to start dating her 10 years ago. She's traveled further down the path of mental health issues to the point our marriage hasn't felt like a marriage in ages. She is hearing people, seeing things, inventing stuff that didn't happen and forgetting stuff that did... She is refusing in patient as well as intensive outpatient care and doesn't seem to care how it's impacting her and those who love her. Her psychiatrist also suggested I attend one of her sessions so we can figure out how to help. That was a maaaaassive no. Like all caps no.
If she's not even willing to try, I'm not sure what to do. It's killing me to see it and, I feel so selfish to say this, I've been fighting high grade brain cancer for 12 years. We talked so much about doing things, living life, taking care of each other... It's hurting our marriage and I'd be a liar if I said it's not impacting me (I'M SORRY, I just don't want to lie when I need help). I don't want this to seem like an ultimatum with her. I don't know how many years I've got left but I want her to be there. Knowing she's having a hard time guts me too... But from what I understand, every year that goes by it gets that much harder to help someone with.
I completely understand if this makes me a horrible person, please understand I'm fully aware mental health issues aren't a choice and they're just as destructive as physical disease. But I'm drowning.