A long distance relationship from a friend request last year
To make a long story short,, a man sent me a friend request last June and I accept accepted. We started talking. I asked him why he sent me a friend request and he said because of a post that I had made, that touched him. We started talking and are still talking, but not quite as much as he’s in the military in another country right now and has been since we first spoke.
Something that developed last year soon after we started talking, that put some tension into our relationship. Internally, I thought it was something I could handle but the situation has escalated slightly each month up until now. I hung in there and do care for this man. I don’t want to hurt him, especially now while he’s deployed.
About three months ago, another friend request came to me. I accepted the friend request started to get to know this man. I really care for him. I’m never meant to initiate a second relationship and I’m not that kind of person.
I don’t know how to handle this. I don’t want to hurt either one. They’re both very important men and I deeply care for both of them. I never dreamed that this kind of situation would come into my life. I’ve been single since 2003. I have done some in person dating, but nothing turned into anything.
What are your thoughts, without knowing all the first relationships details. I feel like the longer I carry both relationships the harder it’s going to be.