u/Alternative_4395

Honestly this bruised my heart abit (and yes I have a heart - It's small but It's there) I recently rekindled with an old best friend, We were inseperable in primary school and we drifted to polepole late highschool and lost contact after that.....When we met some months ago, that old camaraderie manzee after that yk catching up, 3h Phone calls (We have alot of memory together) banter etc - felt like we both needed that rekindling. In this sharing stories we decided we'd go on vacation, tukapiga budget and everything. Sasa mimi nikapiga kahesabu kangu nikaona hio pesa ni mingi kuwaste ivo tu fwaa (It was almost a mil for both of us travel , accomodation etc including miscellaneous)

Nikamshow akasema ata yeye ameona ivo, Tukasema tuanze kabiashara and the profit ndio itafund hio vacation -both of us are working, yake ni remote so she has somewhat kaflexibility and I can handle the technical side including marketing. some month in I can't complain. (shikilia apo kidogo)

Now there is this Man - (It's always the men nkt)

I can't say we've been talking but I can tell there was casual interest from both ends. One day we were talking about mukbang videos and how zinanipea tamaa ya seafood boil, we agreed to eat seafood boil (First Meet up btw) He's my type and all but mimi ata sikua na haja na yeye saaaana nilikua tu nataka kukula seafood boil, Ik I could go alone but where's the fun in that?

Sikua na expectations but I didn't expect him to be this perfect, Intelligent conversationalist, He cleans up nice, Funny but not the clown Funny, perfect energy - Looks like he has some coins (For the record I also have my coins). So after that we've hung out a couple more times. I've never been to his place, he has never been to mine -Bluetooth devices have never connected (simple & patient man who understands the game) so basically sisi ni mamorio

Sasa, one time I was to give something to THAT my friend and I was with him - I requested him, we make a stop somewhere I give her the thing then twende. Makosa ilikua yangu, I also wanted to show him off kidogo because tumekua tukimsengenya on phone. Kumbe they also know each other from kitambo, He says his company worked on a project with her previous company so they only met once or twice in meetings.

I don't know who initiated what (doesn't matter) but my friend now came to tell me that THEY wanted to start talking and It wouldn't be "Fair" if they did behind my back. I know they are gonna do it anyway even if I say no but Issue yangu ata si uyo msee_coz si wangu ata who knows if he was talking to ten other women

My first thought was to cut both of them off

Issue yangu ni Haka kabiashara we've really worked hard kapate miguu na kameanza kusimama, I can't do it alone. This lady has a very solid business acumen and ni mtu ako na roho safi sana (except this one time). And I really put alot of value in this friendship I don't want to stand in the way of whatever they are doing, Sa I don't know nikanyagie hio story tupige biashara ama I just let it burn we go back to being strangers.

Legal Practitioners/ People who have had somewhat a similar experience, your perspective would go a long way on this matter.
There's an old man who keeps threatening my mum.

Ok back story first : There has been bad blood between the families for decades.

The man himself is a very problematic person, After his kids grew up and became stable, his wife alidecided kujipa shugli because alikua anamsumbua , Infact some years back this lady told my mum "Mimi nimemtoa kwa roho afanye kile anataka" she was waiting for her kids to relocate her and they did.

So this man lives alone (My theory is anaboeka na he decides start issues with my mother because ata ukiskia venye issue hua zinaanza, unashangaa tu mara he misplaces his jembe and starts saying my brother sold it and instead of coming to ask my brother because anajua tu huyo atamlima he comes to my mother and starts shouting, another time he said mandizi zimeibwa kwa shamba mind you hakuna kitu iko kwa shamba yake yenye haiko kwa shamba yetu so stealing would be pointless, mara he cuts trees from my mums shamba : my mum loves trees so thats definately a trigger)

Now Last year he attacked my mother I can't remember how it started but my mum was the one hurt but some how he got a P3 for injuries he didn't even have and said ni yeye ameumizwa and went to the police station and put on a sad face kwanza akishatoa zile meno artificial za wazee cheeks zinaingia ndani. Whole time my mum ako hosi yeye ashareport and also ashapea askari chai. So by the time My mum gets the actual P3 and goes to the same police station the officers were even harassing her further because washa kula zao they are asking "We mama venye unatoshana aka kamzee ndio unataka tuamini kamekuumiza ivo?" .

And there alot more series of aggression and distress he causes my mother. The chief doesn't seem to help coz apparently they are relatives and the police are useless once they see money najua if I start going band for band with him and his 9 successful kids, Ntaumia

The nail on the head is how recently he comes with weapons_ About a month ago, he was with a panga outside the door, another instance he had a jembe , Today he threw a mullet at my mum, kama hangeinama I would have been in mourning rn.

She tries so hard to avoid him but This is not someone you can avoid easily because njia inapitia inje ya kwake before ufike kwa nymba

Na ako kamzee ni kadogo and very old and manipulative thats how he manages to convince people ati mama yangu anamsumbua. Mama yangu akiamua kumguza kanaeza dedi.

I need suggestions that can help me solve this issue once and for all.😪Juu pia mimi its draining me emotionally and finacially.

Please recommed the option I can research on and also the process of filing a restraining order, and can it work in this case?

I've been dancing around that the idea for the last 1 year. Don't get me wrong, It's a comfortable job, not a toxic environment, close to home etc....and thats the problem....I've never not-have a job and I feel like my life is just about kuenda job, kulala usiku repeat till weekend then redo the whole thing.

I've never tried to be an entrepreneur but I've been around entrepreneurs and I KNOW its hard (very hard). And also I don't have the slightest idea of what I'll do/sell If I quit I just know I don't want to continue like this Plus my job is quite demanding (start a side hustle/ running the business before you quit is gonna wear me out for sure - proven not to be an option). I just have random ideas I write and think COULD be profitable on my notebook (zimefika full page😂)

Kwa wenye mmewai quit/have had this dilemma what can you tell such a person (me)?🎤

Millenials and Gen-Xers can have the mic first😂Watoto watulie kidogo si kwa ubaya😂but your input is still very much welcomed.