u/AmazingThinkCricket

"David Bowie" by Phish

"Willie Nelson" by Miles Davis

"My Baby's in Love with Eddie Vedder" by Weird Al

I know this is kinda weird, but my SO and I are having more sex since we've had our kid. For years before, we averaged probably once a week. Now, we're probably averaging 2 or 3 times a week.

My theory is that because we can't just have sex whenever we want to now, there's more build up and excitement around it. We now have to sneak off, flirt with each other for a few hours til the kid takes a nap, etc. Or it's just hormones.

Our kid is almost a year so maybe this will change, but I'm taking it while I can.

inb4 is anyone else's lobster too buttery, steak too juicy, etc.

My wife had our first child a few weeks ago and things are going relatively smoothly. Some expected sleep deprivation but our baby is healthy, cute, and does not have colic.

The subject of sex came up yesterday and we want to try around the 6 week mark. My wife did mention that she was a little scared and nervous about it being painful. Of course, I reiterated that we can always stop and wait longer until she's ready.

Any tips/advice/experiences around this subject?

P.S. Maybe it's because I can't have her, but holy fuck my wife has never looked sexier. I'm in my mid 30s and don't have the highest libido in the world, but I feel like I'm 18 again.

I'm married with a baby due in a month and I want to get my finances in order and potentially do FIRE. I'm 35 and my wife is 29. Could use some advice of where to start. I'll list my finances below:

My monthly take home: $4k

Wife take home: $2,300

Rent: $1,700

Groceries: $500

Utilities: $200

Gas: $450 (we both have commutes)

Phones/Internet: $75

Pets: $80

Car: $10k left w/ 7.5% interest

Student Debt: $50k at around 4%

HYSA: $3k

IRAs: ~$30k (we put in $500/month)

401k: wife doesn't have one, I'm not currently contributing to mine, my company will put in roughly $5k every year regardless of my contributions

So I know we're way behind even in terms of normal retirement. We'd like my wife to stay home with the baby for 3 months so I think we need to aggressively beef up the HYSA for the next month or two. After that what should we do? Aggressively pay off the car? The student debt? Max out our retirement accounts? Save for a house?

I think my wife should get a better paying job a lot closer to home to cut down on gas costs. She does not have a degree. I'm in IT and hope to job hop within the next few years to get up to 6 figures.