u/AmschelChaumont

So thing is I am not Turkish, however I met my gf outside Turkey we live in a different country. We started dating in Oct 25 right and everything was fine till she went back to her country for a few days in Dec and when she came back she was acting differently. Naive me I saw her being different but did not understand why she was like that thought she might miss home. Fast forward to February we make a Valentine’s holiday trip and enjoyed alot, a week later her mum visited us and we enjoyed a lot but things started to get strange 10 days later as we don’t live together so what she did was she told me to leave her house. I was confused why suddenly and then she would openly talk with another guy in front of me and cite him as friend. I turned a blind eye until through one of my contacts i found out the whole story which was when she was back in turkey in dec she saw her ex and had feelings for him and used me to get over him all this time until he rejected her so she saw me as back up.

Now she had to go back in march again, she started doing all this drama that she doesn’t want me but naive in love me again ignored another ted flag and told her to be together until she goes back and then end it. To be noted is when she came from valentines to her mum she only cited me as a good friend and to her friends as well, which I learnt later. She goes back, she went cold on me. She saw the guy again however the guy called her bs out that she was using him as well and they fought and she was f-ed mentally. A week later she called and then again said i love you, foolish in love me took her again. Now, when she was coming back she saw the guy again and she begged the guy to be with but the guy already had a gf by now and said bye to her so she came back all sad and I by this time knew of all her bluffs and she said sorrys to me, she did everything to apologise and i took her back, to be noted is in my mind we were dating since october but for her she started dating in May only like 2 weeks ago but I forgave her so thats on me.

Now what happened is we we’re sitting with our friends she was using my airpods i needed them so i asked her to give them to me she threw them unto me as a joke and they fell from 1st floor to ground i was pissed she said sorry again and before that for a few days she would act all in live but for no reason like from her side playfully slap me and would not expect me to do anything about it citing its turkish culture. It was shocking however i would playfully as well but would also tell her this is a limit to not be crossed. So today after the airpods incident she we had an unpleasant argument as she started badmouthing me infront of her friends and she comes from the rich fragment of turkish society and brags about it and where she was born and raised and wanted to do so again so i denied her that opportunity and we had an argument so she came me asked me to leave the place i said i don’t wanna leave and the she slapped me, reactively i slapped her back which is very much unlike my nature unless playfully however I can’t imagine doing it but it happened in a split second it was beyond my control.

And the started crying and shaking saying she wants to break up and it was over and I had crossed the line, however thing is she slapped me first in public infront of friends so she asked her sister was advice and she was “stunned” as well how could i do that. Thing is I didn’t know if this was gonna work or not but these past few weeks i was loving her and forgave so much of the damage she dod me so that forgiving nature made me forgive her slapping me as well. But she is acting like i shot her and its the end of the world and she wants to break up but like I like her and she likes me as well which if she did enough she wouldn’t break up over it but i don’t know what to do in this situation. Are all turkish women like this or this rich echelon of the society different. Was I in the wrong or not and im middle east so never accepted mentally to be with a middle eastern guy but nowadays she was finally making peace with it and everything was smooth so this happened and she’s acting as if i shot her

What should I do here, walking away is hard cos i love her but I think that’s the plausible thing here jokes on me but she doesn’t wanna continue either otherwise maybe it could have gone on. Another thing is its hard for me to leave people once i have made acquaintances.
I thought the way she is she described that guy as brother had his picture in her room i thought maybe secular turks are different so i wasn’t bothered by it until it came unto me. And I don’t think women from that fragment of the society settle easily as well but thats just my thought. What do you think about the situation especially slap and her reaction to me doing so like its the end of the world whereas she was the one who initiated it. is her slapping me and then getting slapped back and then making a scene outta it normal?