Now, I am no longer in contact with my best and only friend, a human being I have trusted with my life besides the woman I dated more than 7 years ago. That's how careful I am with people.
The guy was my friend, we grew up together in Nairobi streets to levels I thought we enjoyed, little did I know that while I focused on my self development, he focused on something else, he focused on making his relatives happy. At times during work, he would spend hours on the phone trying to solve a disagreement back home wasting almost 4 hours a day that accumulated to approximately 3 years of doing absolutely nothing in a math we did prior to our fallout. Actually, he just had to disappear.
Our lives rotated around pure street hustle, we started by picking scrap metal, then selling smokie and eggs, I expanded to have 7 while he maintained one, I opened Berber shops while he stretched to selling sweet potatoes, sourcing from Kasipul Kabondo to Nairobi, I went back to school, he opened a small kibanda in kayole, I bought a car, he moved to a 2 bedroom house...hivo hivo. By last month, we were visiting each other for the first time in years. I went to his house and I was shocked, he was living in a very tiny house with a wife and two kids. I even wanted to change my mind about him coming to my place. When he did,, he couldn't talk that whole time. I could see disappointment in his eyes. I am not better, I am trying but my status is now different.
I live in a nice place, driving my 5th car, using a good phone, my small businesses still running and thanks to school, I got employed at an insurance company. Life is different although I still have dreams. By the end of the day, I saw him off. Since that day he hasn't returned my calls and seemingly he has either deleted my number or blocked me on WhatsApp. I have been honest with him about everything including using Sacco's and banks to get ahead, except laying bare my achievements.
This makes me wonder, are people like this generally? Should I find him to try to make the falling friendship? Was it even friendship? Or should I just keep quiet and wait?