Partner and I sex life still same
I want to start this off by saying I genuinely love and enjoy my partner. She’s legit fire, we just have different sex drives. Her, sex really isn’t that important nor is she the type to initiate (well came back to her not initiating in a sec). Me, I love and especially with her, our sex life is pretty fire. We both finish, we take our time and genuinely have never had a bad experience since meeting.
She asked me to get a vasectomy due to her not being on birth control and honestly I have 1 kid and really don’t want another so I was cool with it. She encouraged me a bunch to just do it and kinda put the idea in my head that our sex life was gonna be even more consistent due to not worrying about a child. We’ve talked before (twice) about how it would be nice if she initiated more just because I hate feeling like a dog yaknow? I know I’m not I’m a very physical person and I love being under her skin. To which she acknowledged and agreed she would love to initiate more because is alil nervous due to past experiences with the idea of sex and stuff (totally understand and get). In the beginning we’d run through 30 pack condoms.
Post op comes (2 months out) and ya sex is still the same lol, she’s going through hormone stuff and I get that which is why I really don’t push it but I can count on my hand how many times she’s initiated within the few months and it’s not above 5 lol. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years now If I don’t initiate we would go a couple days leading into weeks.
Prior to this relationship, I could genuinely get sex whenever I wanted, I do think that plays a heavy role into things and I hate making this an issues because like it’s her body yaknow? I don’t want her to feel like an object and stuff. Like we both love sex with each other and I def would leave before cheating. Obviously I take care of my self with a quick xvideo but man. It’s really no initiative, and it’s not like I’m asking for the full throttle yaknow? I’ve eaten her out and then we chilled, but can I get alil tug back? I’m not even asking for head but like yaknow…something 😂. I’m lost and need some advice