I came across a guy today who thinks trans people are just genuinely like made up by the gov’t and I wanna know if anyone else has found people like that? Is it common?
So…some context.
You could read my previous two posts, but in case you don’t want to here’s the short of it.
I’m 18, my mom is 35, I am Genderfluid, and she has known about me possibly being trans since September of 2023.
My mom and me have kind of had a rocky relationship for a few years. I’m afraid to tell her anything or be around her for extended periods of time partially because she works a stressful job that makes her mood unpredictable, and partially because she traumatized me as a child(even though in many cases I would start fights with her). However that’s not super important currently.
Yesterday night, I told my mom and dad I want to start HRT, which in my case is Therapy and Medication. My dad has Trans friends and so was understanding and supportive, at least as much as he could without understanding the experience of being Trans.
My mom(while she didn’t stop me from doing it)said some very hurtful things to me along to way, including saying that she,”Would never approve of my getting it because she has 18 years of being my mom and knows who I am”, and that she,”Can’t envision me walking down the aisle in a white dress”.
She also believes that because I want the body of a woman but still want to keep my voice and don’t want bottom surgery/don’t feel much bottom dysphoria, that I must not actually be trans(she didn’t say that, but heavily implied it).
So I have decided, I am going to prove her wrong. I am going to spend as much time as possible, and as much energy as possible, being my authentic self in front of her. I will wear my feminine clothes, I will come out to people I was scared to, hell I’ll even come out with her in the room if situations demand it. If she wants to think of me that way, then I’ll just make her understand how stubborn and rude it is. I know I’m probably taking this too far, but I think it will be hilarious, and I don’t care.
What’s the saying,”When life gives you lemons, you make Lemonade?”
I’m 18. I asked my parents if I could start seeing a therapist about getting HRT. My dad was pretty chill about it, though obviously worried since I’m still a kid to him.
My mom…well she didn’t take it as well. She didn’t say no, and she doesn’t hate me for doing it. But she did say that she will forever be against me to doing things like surgery and changing my body, she said she “doesn’t think it’s right for me”.
She further went on to state that she doesn’t [quote] “envision me walking down the aisle in a white dress”. She compared it to her knowing I was Gay since I was 5, and they both kept saying they had “18 years experience being my parents”.
She kept saying that she wasn’t trying to convince that it was wrong or something so shouldn’t do, but I almost feel like she thinks because I’m still a fresh adult that I don’t have any experience living a life.
I’m kind of crushed. My dad told me beforehand that she would never stop loving me, and I know that’s true. But I feel now like she’ll never accept me for who I want to be. She seemed especially confused when I said I was Genderfluid and that I wanted to be able to pass as whatever felt natural, she said the “Science doesn’t support either-or”. I kinda just wanna cry now.
They both seemed like they were trying very hard to convince me out of the idea actually. First she said that I shouldn’t do it if I don’t even feel fully comfortable wearing the clothes of the opposite gender, I said it was because I didn’t have the body to match which was making feel bad. Then she asked if I would be comfortable possibly losing support of some family over this, I said that if it means I get to live the way I want to yes. And then she said the 18 years experience thing. I feel like she’s trying to convince me that she knows me better than I do.
But hooray…I’m out of the closet I guess🥹.
I’m 18 for reference, and I came out to them both in 2024 and 2025 respectively, and they were both very supportive(even though both are republicans and have no real idea what goes into it all).
I’ve currently only told my dad about it, since he’s the one I trust the most, and I’m planning to tell my mom about it tomorrow afternoon. I’m nervous since even though my mom knows, her and I have always had a bit of rocky relationship, and she can be a bit intimidating during serious discussions.
Currently I’m only thinking about therapy and medication. I’ve already signed up for Therapy through my school, since I live in a blue state and it happens that. While I plan to get a diagnosis, I plan to get my meds simultaneously to my therapy, that way I can discuss my process with the therapist and they can help me through the process.
I can’t believe I’m actually doing it. I feel like I could cry. No matter what my mom or dad thinks, I’m at least happy to try this out, even if it doesn’t end up being for me in the end.