Fellow sales ppl: how do you avoid falling for your Sales colleagues?
How do sales ppl, who travel a ton together, who experience the highs and lows of sales together, who work out together at the hotel gym, who see each other at their hottest (looking good and sounding smart) manage to avoid affairs?!
Im really worried I’m going to fall in love with my boss. He’s married. I’d be so incredibly horrified and devastated at myself if it results in an affair (he’s married to a beautiful, kind woman).
We are around the same age. Mutual respect and admiration. Mutual attraction, I suspect. Mutual interests and lifestyles. Mutual level of intelligence and think at the same pace so it feels like we easily understand each other. If I met him on a dating app, I’d know after date one we had a strong chance of a long term relationship. It’s just easy with him.
I’ve had to dial down my normal work-self playfulness with him because I don’t want to risk facilitating him falling for me. I think he is confused because I’m ultimately friendlier to my other male colleagues than him. I dress more modestly around him to be less visually distracting. I praise and express appreciation but also tone it down too knowing how much of an effect it can have on men. I also act a little weirder and a little less cool than I am IRL, to try to turn him off. Hahahaha, good lord. Also, I don’t drink so that keeps things in check when we travel. I’m trying very hard to manage this on my end. 😅
We are building a new business together. Travelling a lot. I think we have big potential to come out as winners if we play our cards right.
I have no idea if he’s wrestling with an awareness this could happen on his side, like I am on mine but I catch his micro expressions when he thinks I’ve done/ said something endearingly cute or when he’s impressed by my brain. Otherwise, fortunately, he’s largely non-expressive which is helpful.
I want to have a rock solid relationship with him that doesn’t cross the line.
I’ve met his wife and she’s awesome and beautiful and I’d feel like the worst traitor to my fellow woman if he and I crossed a line.